What do I do?

[shortikat]

My seven year old has had a pretty rough start in life from a torturous abusive dad, to another that was also abusive. Both men were abusive to me as well. He is now trying to adjust to life without the abuse and it is proving to be very difficult. I cannot afford to pay a psychologist to evaluate him and the school said he was fine. I did have to pull him out of school and start homeschooling him though as he was being assaulted by a pack of principle defined "rowdy boys" who were beating on him everyday leaving cuts scrapes bruises and destroying his property and school work. When the school would do nothing to help him, I was forced to begin homeschooling. He is now hurt free, but is acting out over the littlest of things, not angrily, but cries very emotionally and loudly, like a small child who has hurt themself. I am unsure of how to help him because he wont talk to me. Any suggestions would be great!

[jimbob1985]

Maybe he does need a father figure in his life. Have you given your latter ex a chance to rebuild a relationship with your son?

[I_luv_kitties]

My son's father was emotionally/verbally abusive and was becoming physical - my son was only 3 1/2 at the time, but was starting to act like his father. I decided it was my responsibility to get my son out of that situation no matter what it took. It sounds like you need to move to another area because he has much further to go school-wise, he cant stay in the house forever. I would be extremely careful and cautious of who you let into your son's life (male figures) because I can assume he must have major trust issues as my son did for years. He needs a loving and oatient role model who can make him feel at ease and cause him to trust again, whether a family member or a good husband.

[margypops]

I am so sorry for you and him ,does he have plenty to do, sometimes children who have been abused do well with sports does he get out to play ball and other outside activities, any friends his age nearby to befriend, when they are home schooled they still need some social interaction. He is upset ,plenty of positive attention, read books to him so you fill his thoughts with good things he can dwell on. Board Games are good at 7 he would probably enjoy scrabble , even Monopoly , card games are also fun, put some music on when he gets upset, dont feed into it let it pass with out too much paid to it. Let us know how you are both doing ,we would like to hear.