My Ex husband and I have been separated for 3 yrs and divorced for 1 yr. My son is 9 yrs old and he lives w/ his dad in California and visits me in Utah for the summer and other holidays. My relationship w/ my ex was not very good. We argued alot and insulted each other most of the time infront of my son.About a year and 1/2 or so, my son has pooped in his pants. Morning, thru out the day, and night time. Last summer my new husband and my son did not get along. My husband did not like the way my son treated me. And so, that caused a grudge between them. My son came w/ a very negative attitude that summer. I spaked,punished, had my sister talk to him, I sat and talked to him and we got nowhere. He was also pooping that summer. I've tried to tell my ex about the problem and he feels that taking him to church and having someone there talk to him is going to help my son. He tells me that my son is doing better @ home (in california) That he'll still poop in his pants but only when his nervous. Since my son has been here w/ me(this summer 2008) he has pooped every day. Iv'e tried to see if he is in a nervous situation and to be honest w/ you I really don't think so. My husband and I are trying very hard to make him feel @ home. They are getting along and we are doing fun stuff in the weekends. But there are days were I get so frusted about him pooping that I don't know what to do!!! He smears poop on the rug, he throws poop into the bathtub or bathroom sink(Not all over just into the drain) I would like to take him to a specialist. To see what he/she recommends. Where can I go?!?!?! What can i do to help my son?!?!?!? I live in WVC, Utah. Please advice