is the loving enough - 11 old by

[chushkata]

Hello, my son is 11 year's old and he is growing up as a normal and happy child, i thing. Me and his dad are living separately, so I live alone with him, but we still have a good relation as a parents and friends. Yesterday I red in a book, that it is important that in the first 6 child's years - the mother should be with the kid closer, to play with it often, to talk with it... and if she doesn't - it will be hard for the boy to teach to love other people later... In the first years of my son's growing up, I had to finish my Master degree education, so I was always in a hurry, traveling between the child and the University. Since yesterday, I am worried, if I made any emotional troubles with my lovely boy?  

[grungema3]

You have said that your child is a lovely happy boy. You finished your studies because you wanted the best outlook possible for both of you. I am sure you didn't leave him in the street while you were at University.
Listen, I have grandchildren. When my girls were small most married Mums stayed at home because they could while their kids were small. I went back to teaching part-time when my youngest was nearly 3.
We had a choice. These days, in 1 and and 2 parent families, parents have to work to live from day to day. They don't want to and it's pitiful to watch a young mum wave goodbye to her baby (ies) cos she has to go to work.
My younger daughter was on her own with her first baby and I looked after her while her Mum worked her bum off  to get them their own place. That mother and daughter have the closest emotional bond now. Their hearts are entwined.
The other two kids are great too.
You have done nothing wrong, please stop worrying. Just carry on being a loving, caring Mum. Anyway, here's a question: Who looks after the kids while these so-called experts are writing their books?
My mum had to go to work and I've grown up fine. Have a cup of coffee and give that lovely boy a big cuddle - if he'll let you! Take care x