Need Advice

[LaceyM12]

So I had my beautiful baby girl about three months ago. As I was pregnant as for most moms, I felt so ready and wanted her here asap. Not saying I don't now, I just don't feel like my bond is as close with her a I expected. I feel like I am not doing good enough because I'm really not. I'm failing as a mother. I just want us to be close and for her to know I'm here for her. I just still get urges to go do what I want. I want to go out, but I know it can't be like that anymore, but it just kind of makes me feel like I can't do anything. I feel horrible for even saying any of this, but maybe some moms out there have been through this and can tell me ways i can fix all this.  

[Suzy93]

Things change when you become a mother. I felt the same way too. I felt overwhelmed and was not prepared for what was to come. Waking up at night, constantly changing diapers, and not being able to get a break. Being a mom is a 24/7 job. But you should understand that they didn't ask to be born, we brought them into the world. She is a part of you and needs you. If she could thank you she would. I know it gets hard at times, but it will only get easier I promise. Its normal to miss the life you had before her. She is too small right now for you to leave her for a long time. When shes closer to 1 maybe you can leave her with a babysitter. With time you will feel that mother daughter bond. My son is almost 4 months now and the beginning was a little rough. Now he smiles and laughs and it just melts my heart. Like I said it will get easier with time girl!

[LaceyM12]

I do but none I'm really close with.

[nesik]

Yea that's hard, do u have friends with kids?

[LaceyM12]

Well my mom makes me feel bad if I wanna get out. She says I do it too much and I really don't.  Idk it *****. I never expected to feel this way:(

[nesik]

Give it some more time, as a new mommy I know u r tired and exhausted of the new schedule and lots of responsibility to care for the baby, I have two children and I have my moments too, when I had my first daughter I really wished that I never got pregnant, but as time went it kinda changed for me, I was excited with every step of her growth and was happy that she's healthy and she's my daughter, its ok to want some "me time" can somebody stay with her while u go shopping or go see your friends?