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low sex drive/pcos
could PCOS make you sudently have a Very low sex drive? we went from 2-3 times a week to 1-2 a month. Even when we do it, it's just to please my DH, i mean i have no desire at all.
I have been diagnosed with PCOS for 8 years and gave birth to a cute B?G twins 2 years ago after several miscariages.
I took Metformine and Clomid for 3 cycles.
i'm worried about our relationship.
Please help!
I have been diagnosed with PCOS for 8 years and gave birth to a cute B?G twins 2 years ago after several miscariages.
I took Metformine and Clomid for 3 cycles.
i'm worried about our relationship.
Please help!
From someone with a high sex drive and having a girlfriend with PCOS I find myself getting increasingly frustrated at our lack of havings sex. It wasn;t until last night that we discussed perhaps her having PCOS might be the cause of her lack of sex drive. I think I find it hard because when we first started dating we were having sex around 5 times a week. Thsi went on for ages then it just tapered off. Now I am masturbating more than we're having sex, which as anybody will tell you, is not the same as making love with the person you're with.
Obviously we've had heated discussions with regards to it because it makes me feel unwanted, the fact that she doesn't want sex as much as I do. I don't expect her to want it all the time as I'd have it twice a day if I could. So, all kinds of things go through my mind when I get knocked back time and time again - am I sexy enough for her? Does she still find me desirable? Do I do it right? Although, she assures me that it's not me it's her it doesn't stop these thoughts through my mind, especially when we were at it like rabbits when our relationship forst started. I'm just worried we're gonna get into the whole 'once a week on a Friday at 8pm' cycle and only because she knows I need it rather than because she wants it.
She suggested I find out ways to higher her sex drive as it's like what some people have said on her already, she wiould rather eat or sleep than have sex. I have had every reason under the sun to not partake in us making love and it knocks my confidence every time. Obviously at the start I found in so frustrating but have started to try understanding but it is hard being on the other end with someone with a low sex drive and have even thought about not trying it on with her and waiting until she gives me the signals but, to be honest, I'm worried we'd stop having sex alltogether if I didn't put the effort on.
I have tried everything, romantic dinners, sensual massages, dressing up, making her feel sexy, nice candlelit baths together but still after all that she'd rather sleep, eat or watch TV. I love her dearly but I just don't know what to do to increaser her sex drive??????????????????????
Obviously we've had heated discussions with regards to it because it makes me feel unwanted, the fact that she doesn't want sex as much as I do. I don't expect her to want it all the time as I'd have it twice a day if I could. So, all kinds of things go through my mind when I get knocked back time and time again - am I sexy enough for her? Does she still find me desirable? Do I do it right? Although, she assures me that it's not me it's her it doesn't stop these thoughts through my mind, especially when we were at it like rabbits when our relationship forst started. I'm just worried we're gonna get into the whole 'once a week on a Friday at 8pm' cycle and only because she knows I need it rather than because she wants it.
She suggested I find out ways to higher her sex drive as it's like what some people have said on her already, she wiould rather eat or sleep than have sex. I have had every reason under the sun to not partake in us making love and it knocks my confidence every time. Obviously at the start I found in so frustrating but have started to try understanding but it is hard being on the other end with someone with a low sex drive and have even thought about not trying it on with her and waiting until she gives me the signals but, to be honest, I'm worried we'd stop having sex alltogether if I didn't put the effort on.
I have tried everything, romantic dinners, sensual massages, dressing up, making her feel sexy, nice candlelit baths together but still after all that she'd rather sleep, eat or watch TV. I love her dearly but I just don't know what to do to increaser her sex drive??????????????????????
Hi this is the first time I've ever posted anything but your comments are spot on. I was diagnosed with pcos about a year ago but have had it I think for 4 years. I am not overweight but do have irregular cycles and have been trying to get pregnant for 2 years. This is so hard because my sex drive is so low, I used to have sex 3/4 times a week but now it's a few times a month. I have zero energy and get tired and irritable very easily. I am curious about diet changes so I will try fresh food and reduce my caffeine and sugar intake and hopefully this will help. I hate having pcos because I get no answers from docs and I feel like my body is fighting against me if that makes sense. I just want to get pregnant and feel like a normal woman and wife again.
I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was 13; I'm now 25. I *do* think there are solutions, although I am not a doctor. I have started to see serious progress with my own symptoms with simple health changes.
I have had most of the PCOS symptoms severely for 12 years. I only get my period once or twice a year, have hirsutism, insulin resistance, and other physical issues. Until the last year or so, I had not been overweight, but now because of the insulin resistance i find I am gaining weight very easily and also craving sugar and feeling worse. In other words, the symptoms were not staying stable and I had to try something new.
I did some research into dietary changes and discovered a number of people who switched to an all raw and local diet (local fruits and veggies and nuts and so forth; do not heat anything over 100 degrees, make sure to eat a balance for vitamins and protein) and cured themselves of PCOS completely, or so they say. I also discovered that caffeine (and nicotine) are awful for PCOS folks (I use both).
Lastly, I did some reading and thinking about womanhood generally, about the menstruation cycle and how it fits into daily life and how I have experienced it. A few ayurvedic sites got me to finally realize that part of the problem is the way menstruation is treated in our culture: you're not supposed to be overly emotional at different times; you're always supposed to feel and act steady and the same. You're supposed to treat your menstruation times as if they are just like any other day. Well, they're not like any other day. You have a cycle, and it affects your body and your mind. Try to suppress it, mentally or physically, and an imbalance is caused. I find that I have increased creativity, energy, emotion, and sex drive in the times around my period, and that I am attuned to different parts of my mind or experiences. My daily life forces me to ignore that, but I am committed now to respecting it.
I switched to raw, and started being more attentive to my body and to its own rhythm. I had my period within a week, my sex drive increased, and I actually am beginning to feel female again, slowly. I didn't even realize I had not been feeling completely like a woman because of PCOS. I am no longer experiencing ANY symptoms of insulin resistance, and I am way, way happier--lots of energy, no sugar-related ups and downs, no depression, no anxiety. I'm not all the way there by a long shot, since I just began this recently, but the changes so far have been big.
So seriously: I'm not a doctor, and I haven't cured it completely yet. But it's just a symptom set, and the doctors do not understand its cause yet, so it's up to you to experiment with natural ways of healing if you want to. Don't let anyone tell you it is incurable. It's only "incurable" because doctors have not found a cure. Stop eating ****** processed foods, check out some raw recipe sites (I swear, I thought it would be hard, but it's delicious), listen to your body, and respect the fact that your body wants to have a physical, mental, and emotional cycle.
Be happy and don't let stupid doctors tell you something can't be cured. PCOS can ruin lives and health.
I have had most of the PCOS symptoms severely for 12 years. I only get my period once or twice a year, have hirsutism, insulin resistance, and other physical issues. Until the last year or so, I had not been overweight, but now because of the insulin resistance i find I am gaining weight very easily and also craving sugar and feeling worse. In other words, the symptoms were not staying stable and I had to try something new.
I did some research into dietary changes and discovered a number of people who switched to an all raw and local diet (local fruits and veggies and nuts and so forth; do not heat anything over 100 degrees, make sure to eat a balance for vitamins and protein) and cured themselves of PCOS completely, or so they say. I also discovered that caffeine (and nicotine) are awful for PCOS folks (I use both).
Lastly, I did some reading and thinking about womanhood generally, about the menstruation cycle and how it fits into daily life and how I have experienced it. A few ayurvedic sites got me to finally realize that part of the problem is the way menstruation is treated in our culture: you're not supposed to be overly emotional at different times; you're always supposed to feel and act steady and the same. You're supposed to treat your menstruation times as if they are just like any other day. Well, they're not like any other day. You have a cycle, and it affects your body and your mind. Try to suppress it, mentally or physically, and an imbalance is caused. I find that I have increased creativity, energy, emotion, and sex drive in the times around my period, and that I am attuned to different parts of my mind or experiences. My daily life forces me to ignore that, but I am committed now to respecting it.
I switched to raw, and started being more attentive to my body and to its own rhythm. I had my period within a week, my sex drive increased, and I actually am beginning to feel female again, slowly. I didn't even realize I had not been feeling completely like a woman because of PCOS. I am no longer experiencing ANY symptoms of insulin resistance, and I am way, way happier--lots of energy, no sugar-related ups and downs, no depression, no anxiety. I'm not all the way there by a long shot, since I just began this recently, but the changes so far have been big.
So seriously: I'm not a doctor, and I haven't cured it completely yet. But it's just a symptom set, and the doctors do not understand its cause yet, so it's up to you to experiment with natural ways of healing if you want to. Don't let anyone tell you it is incurable. It's only "incurable" because doctors have not found a cure. Stop eating ****** processed foods, check out some raw recipe sites (I swear, I thought it would be hard, but it's delicious), listen to your body, and respect the fact that your body wants to have a physical, mental, and emotional cycle.
Be happy and don't let stupid doctors tell you something can't be cured. PCOS can ruin lives and health.
I have been diagnosed with PCOS also when I was 16, I am now 22. My fiance' knew before we got together and now 3 yrs later he will ask me to have sex and I say no, and he like flips sayin F you. Like idk what to do anymore. I havent had a period in a yr. I dont wanna lose him he is my everything. Any suggestions????
This website has given me mixed emotions I honestly don't know what to think now. I'm 25 and I have a 3yr old son. Myself and my husband are going through some difficulties at present and have just decided to give it one last go. I decided it was time to check out my sex drive which is very low, I have no sex drive and usually get aroused during sex if at all. I would love a normal sex drive as I do enjoy it, so I started thinking what it could be. At 16 I had an Implanon fitted and now I am on my third having a break to have my son in between. I searched that and yes it can lower sex drive then i suddenly thought, I was diagnosed with PCOS when I married my husband at 21 (great wedding present that was) I was overwhelmed at the diagnosis as I had had thousands of test since being 13 trying to discover what was wrong, and you all know how intrusive they are.
Ive just come across this website and as I say I don't no what to think, its like relief that I have the answer and then sadness because I know from all the other symtoms of PCOS that there is no cure.
I'd like to thank you all though the relief itself will have to do and I have an appointment with the doc on Monday so who knows maybe I may get somewhere, fingers crossed.
To all those ladies trying so hard to have a baby and being slapped in the face by this horrid condition, I wish you all the world of luck, stay strong and keep fighting, it can get hard and then even harder but you will get there and then thats when all the fighting means the world, xxxxxxxxx
Ive just come across this website and as I say I don't no what to think, its like relief that I have the answer and then sadness because I know from all the other symtoms of PCOS that there is no cure.
I'd like to thank you all though the relief itself will have to do and I have an appointment with the doc on Monday so who knows maybe I may get somewhere, fingers crossed.
To all those ladies trying so hard to have a baby and being slapped in the face by this horrid condition, I wish you all the world of luck, stay strong and keep fighting, it can get hard and then even harder but you will get there and then thats when all the fighting means the world, xxxxxxxxx
For once I can relate to someone. I was diagnose with PCOS about 10 yrs ago and my sex drive has gone up as I get older. I also hate the excess hair.... specially on my face. Gotta pluck/tweeze or wax it out about every 3 days. I am also diabetic and now hypertensic, but my sex drive still is high. Even my boyfriend has said at times that I have a higher sex drive than him. He's good at keeping up and satisfying me... unlike my ex's...hahaha. And he understands about the excess hair. As long as my facial hair and that "other" area is taken care of, he cuts me a break on the rest of the body. I had the PCOS symptoms since I was 16yrs old, but I didn't get diagnosed until my mid 20's. Doctors in Puerto Rico and Florida never got me properly diagnosed. A doctor in Oakland, California was the one that diagnosed me correctly and now that I am back in Miami, FL, I found a doctor that specializes in PCOS. I got blessed/lucky. I've had 3 pregnancies and only 1 was a miscarriage. Both pregnancies were high risk, but both of my boys were born and are fine today. They are 15yrs old and 5yrs old. I hope my sex drive stays high. I enjoy sex too much and can't picture myself not wanting it.
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