37, Pregnant - Have 2 children 12, 9!!!

[Dazed_Mom]

Hi everyone, This is my first time. I need some advice and I am not ready to talk yet. I am a mom of preteens and have just discovered today that I am 10 weeks pregnant. I had actually thought I was done, have PCOD, was taking some medication...I don't believe in abortion...Was just about getting back to working life after settling the first two...I DON't KNOW WHAT TO DO.

[SoCalTricia]

I just want to second everything that everyone above said. My daughter was nine when I had an unplanned pregnancy...I, too, had gotten used to the idea that I was done. Work was going well, life was going well...it was a monkey wrench I hadn't planned on. But, let me tell you, that little boy has been SUCH a blessing. He was the gift I never expected. He is a kind, tender-hearted boy, and I love him beyond reason. He just turned nine, and every year I appreciate him more and more. And my daughter, who was nine when he was born, absolutely adores him. They are so close - much more so than expected - and it is beautiful to watch. I'm pregnant again now - this time planned - so my three kids will all be 9.5 years apart. LOL. Anyway...I'm a firm believe that everything happens for a reason. You may not know that reason for a long time...but have faith that this was *supposed to happen. Hopefully you will begin to enjoy your pregnancy and look forward to this little miracle. Good luck, and please let us know how you're doing!

Tricia

[YvetteY]

It sounds like this is coming as a quite a shock to you.   I know what you mean about how everything is going smoothly and you're settled with the kids and they are old enough to get up in the morning and fix their cereal.  So right now you're probably thinking..my goodness what am I going to do.  

Just hang in there....and give yourself some time to deal with the inititial shock!   You will probably begin to get excited about being pregnant.  Yes, it's going to be challenging now after your other ones aren't so little, but hang in there.  And it will be great because you will have a lot of help with this baby.   This is something wonderful that is happening to you.   There will be room and the money will come...it always does and you will find a way.   Just take a deep breath and see how you feel in a couple of days.   By then mother's nature will have stepped in and the hormones will do there job and you won't think this is such a  bad idea!! LOL!

[adgal]

I will second Pams congrats and welcome!!  It's always a shock when you first find out if it wasn't what you were planning on.  The best thing in my opinion is to give yourself some time before making any decisions.  If you don't believe in termination, there is no rush to decide anything.  You may very well find that once the idea settles in you are excited and happy about it.  If not, well, there are options.  Whatever you decide, I wish you all the best!!

[PamelaBee]

Hello, first let me begin by saying congratulations, and welcome to the forum!  I'm sure you are going through an ocean of emotions right now.  I can tell you that you are on the best forum for support and advice.  There are many women on this site that are currently going through your exact situation, or who have been in your situation, so I hope you find a sense of comfort knowing that you are not alone.  Each day that passes I hope you will come to embrace this blessing...but one day at a time.  Try to take it all in.  Have you been to your OB yet?  Please take the best care of yourself, and keep us posted on your progress!  Best wishes, Pam