should I have another baby

[jojo3377]

hi everyone, Im new to the site but wanted to ask. I am 35 and have 3 children, 9,5,4 and have had the real urge to have another baby for about a year now. I even resorted to getting a pup and kitten to see if it would help but it didnt. I finally told my other half and he is worried about my health as I have svt (heart complaint) and also that im 35 now and my whole family think its a bad idea and I should be enjoying the fact that I have some time to myself now as all the kids are at school. What do you all think

[jojo3377]

Thank you for all your comments you have been a great help and will take your advice and see my doctor before making a decision :)

[AnnieBrooke]

I agree with new2 -- if your doctor gives it the OK, and if you can afford it financially and are ready emotionally, who cares what your whole family says.  They are not you.  They are judging from the outside, basically based on how they feel about their own lives.  They are not endowed with any special insight about you and your life.  

[New2This2010]

Hi there! Welcome to the site first of all! =) I think the decision to have another baby should be limited to only the opinions of the immediate family such as the other half and the children ya'll already have. It should not be of concern to the extended family ya know. Also as far as the health issues and age I can see the concerns, but you should sit down and talk to your Dr and see what his/her opinion is. If the Dr. says "I feel it would be safe" then you can rest assured better or if the Dr. says " I feel it would be a health hazard at this point" then that would be something to definatley stop and consider. I guess what I am saying is seek the Dr.'s opinion to find out if its medically safe, and if so then the only opinons that matter at that point are your immediate family's! Take care and good luck!

[adgal]

Hi there!  The decision to have another baby is up to you and your partner.  If there are potential health risks, see your Dr. before making a decision.  Most conditions are controllable during pregnancy, but of course I am not a Dr. and wouldn't want to advise you as to whether or not it's safe. Are you working with a cardiologist?  Please talk to whomever you are working with for your heart condition and make your decision from there.  I wish you luck!!