@ a Crossroad....

[DollFacePR]

This is more venting than an actual question, but your input will be very well received..!

Just went to the my doctor for the yearly physical, and thank God, everything is ok, except of course my weight, which I knew he was gonna mentioned, bcs I'm overweight....(268lbs...I lost 2lbs this past week, since we've already started to change our eating and exercising...) I've gain 30lbs just in the last year..(it was a very intense yr...got married, left my job, moved to a new city and lost a pregnancy)

The Dr. told me I should loose weight even before trying TTC, but I'm almost 37 yrs old and my husband is 47yrs. To safely loose even 50lbs it could take me at least 6 months, and in the meantime time keeps going on and my fertility keeps declining. we've been trying for at least 5 months resulting in 2 chemical pregnancies. We were getting ready to see an RE, to get us checked and start on the next step.

I completely understand my Dr, I know that the overweight can bring a series of complications from trying to get pregnant and to the pregnancy itself, but at the same time, with our history, should I keep putting it on hold?

Feel at a complete crossroad and don't know what to do........

[renny320]

That is great news! I hope you get your bfp real soon. I am sending lots of super sticky baby dust your way.

[DollFacePR]

Thank you all ladies for your kind words...! I just came from my OBGYN, she said that I souldnt wait, to just keep trying. She did a lot of bloodwork and even refered me a RE. She said that although loosing weight would help, not to wait just keep trying. She said that everything seems ok, and she would call me with the results of the bloodwork. She even told me as I was heading out that she hopes to hear from you soon, telling here that I needed to come in because I was pregnant..!

Thanks again everyone for your kind words..!

[Moma_Cher]

Just want to let you know I think your dr sux! My neighbor/friend was heavier than you and age 37 and asked her doc about getting pg while she was "obese". She asked if she should wait to lose weight first and/or get gastric bypass her doc said definitely not! He told her to just go ahead and tic and that the pregnancy would go fine. She has a three year old healthy boy now. Also she did get the bypass in Oct. And has lost over 70 lbs!
IMHO, you should talk to your obgyn, not your gp. Some people are just not nice, even doctors!
I am 40 and ttc, and trust me... You do NOT want to wait!! Anyone who tells you different is either not informed or not nice.
Best of luck to you!!!
-Cher  

[4mel4]

Hello dollface,

My friend was overweight and in her 30's . She had a very healthy baby. She started walking and eating right and cut out all the bad foods while she was trying to conceive. She started losing weight and got pregnant within a few months. meanwhile she kept eating right and continued to lose weight (in a good way) when she had her baby she was still under her original weight. She stuck to a good diet afterwards and it was even easier to get pregnant a second time. now she watches whats she eats and has two healthy children. I also used to be overweight a long time ago, I let myself go that way because of a bad marriage and other things with added stress. I found it was easier to lose the first 50 lbs. after that sticking to even just walking and watching your calories  and eating good healthy foods your weight will go down and you will even feel better about yourself. Being positive will help a lot as well with trying to get pregnant.keep on track, your headed in the right direction. When you find yourself with a bfp, talk to your doctor about keeping a good diet for you and your soon to be addition. Good luck to you. :)

[adgal]

I agree with Meli.  I don't think you should put it on hold, but in the meantime keep doing what you are (eating healthy and excercising) to lose weight in a healthy manner.  I don't understand what the problem is with doing both at the same time. I am not certain how long you have been on MedHelp, but there are several forums to support you in weight loss goals and healthy eating forums.  Lots of women out there are in your shoes.  I say go for it!  I also would not be willing to put it on hold.  I think your doing the right thing and I wish you loads of SSBD (super sticky baby dust)

[melimeli]

every pound you loose will help you with your fertility.  I don't think you should put of ttc but you should keep loosing weight and exercising while you are ttc.  I was overweight a little more than you weigh and I could not get pg 3 years ttc and  I spent 10,000 dollars on fertility treatments starting with clomid and iui and moving onto injectables ans iui.  I got pg and had a baby irl.  This was t age 28.  Then I got divorced and lost 80lbs.. my period got real regular after about 40lbs and when I got remarried at age 34 I got pg without even trying the first month after I got married.  She is now 2.  So the weight loss made me more able to get and sustain a pg.  It was also a hell of a lot cheaper and healthier.  So just keep on loosing, every pound with help.  Let having a baby be your motivation...   good luck

[Worried_Mum_IRL]

Hey Doll Face,
Listen, I m no expert but here it goes. My hole family is... how do we say this.. on the "chubby" side, so if any of us was to wait until we d reach our ideal weight, there would be no heirs to our family! Listen, you ve been trough a lot in the last year and for people like us, who will always have to keep an eye on what to eat -  or not to eat, something like that can trigger the usual comfort eating, but you know that.
The important thing is that you ARE healthy, and the moment we see that positive test we don t think about us anymore, you will eat healthy , not because of you but because of your baby, and thats a fact. I was 30 when I had my girl, I was a bit overweight but I made sure all I ate was the best for my baby girl, we DONT have to eat for two, your doctor can help you with that and the result was a by-the-book peaceful pregnancy and since I breastfed her, I was back on track in no time, and even lost the extra pounds as life got WAY busier afterwards! With my cousin was the same and she just turned 38 and had a healthy baby boy. So I say keep trying just for the fun of it! Your baby will come when the time is right, you just do your part! Best of luck!

[renny320]

I am also 37 and ttc so I understand how you feel about not wanting to lose any time. It sounds like you have already started taking steps with eating healthy and exercising. If I were you I would just continue doing what you are doing and see the RE and get his opinion. I just started with an re in December. It started with a consultation and now this month I am under going a series of tests. Then in February we meet with the RE again to get all the results and his opinion on what we should do next. So the process with the RE takes time too so you can continue to lose weight while you go through that and see what the RE says. Good luck to you with whatever you decide.