Anyone regretted a tubal???

[SoCalTricia]

Okay...I realize I'm probably having baby blues and this is all new to me. But I am seriously regretting getting a tubal. Has anyone had one and regretted it? Did you get used to the idea and eventually accept that it was the best thing? I know in my head that it's the best decision and another child would be difficult physically, emotionally, financially, etc. But in my heart, knowing that I CAN'T make that choice, it just bothers me. Maybe I will adjust because it HAS only been two weeks. But I'm wondering if anyone else has felt the same way??

Tricia

[SoCalTricia]

You guys are so much help. Gosh, I really love this group! You all know exactly what to say to make people feel better. I'm sure you are right, and it's probably just hormonal and I need some adjusting time. Because, truly, having another child any time in the next couple of years would create a huge hardship. And any time after that, well, I'll be too old for sure. So, like I said, I'm sure it was the right decision to have the tubal. Last summer I discovered that my birth control options were dwindling (hormone-based birth control was making my blood pressure high), which is what forced us to make a decision about having a baby. And that problem wouldn't have gone away...so, yeah...this is best. If I keep saying it, maybe I'll begin to believe it! :-)

Tricia

[40smama]

I'm sorry you're having some feelings of regret, Tricia - it's a hard thing to adjust to and it's such a finality.  I see that you're 41 - I had my tubal at age 30 & at the time I thought I was done having babies.  I think some of your sadness might be attributed to just plain baby blues- I believe it will be gone in a few weeks as hormones continue to adjust.  I remember being sad too but it gradually got better as I got wrapped up in taking care of my new baby.

[kellym]

I haven't had this experience but it is my fear.  I think to me it's kind of like after you have the baby and miss being pregnant. I remember after having dd and going to the grocery by myself and seeing a pregnant person and just wanting to talk to her (like a weirdo). ha ha It was like I wasn't anyone anymore because I wasn't pregnant. I don't know, sounds weird. I did get over it though. I'm so sorry you feel this way. I hope it's baby blues :(

[PamelaBee]

I have to echo what Amanda said, and add, I can see myself in your shoes after my son was born.  I was just so elated and grateful to have had him at 43, I didn't think having another child would cross my mind...I seriously thought about having my tubes tied then, and for some reason or another decided against it.  But, I'm sure you are feeling alot of emotions, and still hormonal, and having the baby blues is making you second guess your decision.  But, you have the perfect family right now, and you made it through safe and healthy, and have a perfectly beautiful little boy to show for it.  Don't be so hard on yourself...I hope in time you will find that you made the right choice.  Pam

[adgal]

Tricia, I haven't had this experience, but I wanted to post letting you know that I was thinking about you.  I'm sorry your feeling down hon.  I think it's probably normal to feel the way you are right now and I hope your feeling like your old self again soon.
(((Hugs)))

[Juliaschill]

I regretted mine even before I left the hospital, It was the same for me I hated the idea that now I could not chose, I even was crying in the OR and told the nurse that I was only 23 and maybe didn't want it done, she just told me oh you will be glad later and then they put me under, When I went to my 6 week check up I was again crying and talked to the dr about it, and said that I wanted it undone, that is when I learned that it was a very costly and painful surgery and that he should have counceled me before doing it, I had it reversed 5 years later, I was a very hard time for me, I hope it gets easier for you, best wishes Julia