Thinking about trying for 2nd baby

[silver82]

Hi ladies before i start i would just like to send lots of baby dust and best wishes to everyone. I have a little baby boy who is will be one on Sep 15th and adorable. Iv'e just turned 37 years old in June and would love to try for another baby. My self and my partner both agree but he wants 6 months or more because im only just starting to feel less tired and myself agian as i was very tired for quite afew months. I want to try now for another baby because of my age and they can grow up close together. Ive told my partner id like to get it over and done with. What do you think it just scares me waiting 6 months or more thinking it might take me longer to conceive as im getting older. many thanks love Rachel xxxxx

[kpmomof1]

For what it's worth, I'd try now, if I were you.  Just because it was easy to conceive your son does not mean it could be easy again.  In addition if you have another miscarriage that sets you back even more.  (I just experienced this myself..I easily conceived my daughter at 39, then got pregnant the first try when she was 5 1/2 months old.  Even though I'm 40 we wanted to breastfeed for six months so didn't start earlier.  Unfortunately, now I am going to miscarry, and I'll have to wait 3 months before ttc again, and at almost 41 now, every month counts.  I now wonder whether we should've tried earlier since formula is so good these days anyway.  You are much younger, but still - you don't know how many good eggs you have left...)  Good luck.m Let us know what you decide to do!

[silver82]

Hi Miranda9 yes it was easy to concieve my son. I think the more you forget about it and put it out of your mind and keep your self occupied the better chance of it happening. Are you trying for a baby. xx

[Miranda9]

Hi Rachel,
I'm sure your partner just wants to make sure that you're up for it physically and emotionally and mentally. And that is something only you know in your heart.

Was it easy for you to conceive your son? I know doctors give all these warnings to women over 35...but in my own network of friends and acquaintances, I know so many women who their mid to late 30s who conceived easily and delivered healthy babies.

Good luck with your decision!

[silver82]

Hi Shannon my first was pregnancey took 6 months back in 1997 but sadly lost twins in August that year i was about 8 weeks. My baby i have now it took me about 3 months after my miscarraige so it wasn't very long. Im just going to leave my partner to think about it and see what happens. x

[docsaf]

I am 36 and due with my first in Jan (a few weeks before my 37th b-day). It took us about a year to conceive and we were trying - charting temps, using OPK, CBE, then saw an RE. Although there was no reason we did not conceive, my DH and I already talked about it and we are going to start trying for #2 when Baby #1 is about 6 months old. For us, since it took a while to conceive the first, we don't want to wait too long. And I wanted our kids to be close in age too.

Did it take you a while to conceive? I have a couple of friends who were 39-40 when they conceived the 2nd or 3rd child, and they had no problems whatsoever - first month of trying was successful for both of them. And I know other people whom it took much longer when they were in their 20's. Is your partner willing to compromise? Or willing to "see what happens" over the next few months? I agree with you, but trying to have a baby can be so stressful, and I'm not sure it's a good idea to push him too hard.

Good luck!

-Shannon