Embryo adoption pregnancy anyone else doing it?

[broodybantam]

Hello I'm 45 bit of a MC history just found out am pregnant almost two weeks after transfer (iM Spain) of two 'adopted' embryo's which were surplus A grade from someone else's IVF using donor egg and sperm. If I get all the way I will be 46 giving birth first time. Crucially this time I have good multiple medical support, drug support and I retired from my job! Mad but after holding dead son who only made 4 months gestation I had to keep going there was just such a bond!  So here I am scared and hormonal but excited and hopeful :)

[Azwoman]

I think some of us are considering embryo adoption-in my case, I am going to do the California Conceptions Program in California. Its a unique program,usually not a long wait, and they 'match' you with a pool of egg and sperm donors. You get three transfers for $9000, and it is guaranteed and their success rates are great. I am comfortable with them after reading so many positive reviews. The only thing stopping me is finances- I am still saving up for it. I have had two m/c and getting tired of dealing with IF and I dont have fertility coverage and will not do another IVF cycle and have it not result in a live birth. But how exciting for you-congratulations!

[broodybantam]

Wow so you are going to the USA to do this, it is so exciting, I read that some States in the USA apply strict adoption criteria for embryo adoption which seems stressful. Spain do not, there is no waiting time it's awesome really, we did not choose our donor as I was worried about matching time, We are both blue eyed and the embryos have brown or green eyed genetics. I expected to get frozen embryos, but 2 weeks after I started the womb preparation drugs and had a scan of 9.8mm for the lining we had a call to get out very quickly, their was only one flight to get there in time for the transfer and we lucky to find a local hotel, I did not do much other than bed rest!

[broodybantam]

I agree that I was made more determined to do this when I met my son, I remember the tears of the radiographer when she saw my son was dead, deep down I had guessed as all day the hospital could not get a heart beat, the radiographer had lost her child at 16 weeks gestation years before and gone on to have a healthy child, we cried together.  I could not let him go immediately, I had waited 20 years since my first MC, I kept him inside me 10 more days until I felt ready. Then I was induced in a private room of the maternity hospital. They made him look beautiful as possible and I held his hands, looked in his mouth and at his eyes, I had so little time to absorb the person I had wanted for years and loved so deeply for four months of his gestation.  Now I'm ok about it, but for two years I would not want to be near anyone pregnant. My greatest help was my closest friend who gave birth a month before I found out my baby had died.  She hesitantly placed her baby girl on my lap and allowed a close bond to grow. This gamble proved to be the greatest healer, her daughter is now 3 and this week her mother tried to explain that I could not pick her up and cuddle her as I had a baby growing, we all fell about laughing when her daughter announced she did not want me to have a baby, she wanted cuddles!.  Eventually the loss began to ease. I worked to loose weight and saw there was a chance still there for me. I thought about Greece, but our local airport has more regular flights to Barcelona.  Recently I considered using a surrogate which is almost impossible in the UK, I found out that Greece legally allows this but Spain won't as suragacy is illegal there.  I wish you all well and hope all is well for the future, this has been so helpful to pour out things x

[broodybantam]

Hello just to say yes modern medicine is amazing! I got my head around what I'm doing as it historically has been done in the dairy industry, farmers do sometimes by frozen eembryos for their cows.  My husband did once but it did not work,  I also have bantam hens and have a little orange one who goes desperately broody every summer, I popped other birds egs under her as normal and she was delighted to hatch chicks, none wer hers but she was content, I thought then that it's been going on for years, imdecidedntonbe open about it and promote it, I'm very lucky, it's early days and I will be anxious until a birth actually happens, it really helps that I know the egg donor was only 30 !

[adgal]

Huge congratulations to you!  You and are in a similar situation.  I am 43, also with a long history of miscarriage. I do have one little boy born just before I turned 41.  My husband and I are also now waiting for our donor match for embryo adoption.  We live in Canada but are going to the US for it.  I can't wait!  I am so happy for you.  Isn't it wonderful to live in a world where we have options like this available to us? Congrats again and I wish you all the best!

[mandaszoo]

Just read about your journey and very excited and thinking of you. I too am 46 and going to Greece for embrio transfer with DE though will be my DH sperm. I am very lucky to have older children but lost my first DD to major heart defects when she was 5 months old. that was many years ago but has taken so long to recover emotionally. but i wanted to say that on the positive side losing my Sophie made me a very grateful and loving mum and that is what you will be like. Sleep deprevation and all the little hurdles will be nothing once you have your baby. i will be thinking of you . Manda x