How old is to old in your opinion?

[jennyinheaven]

Just curious and wanted to discuss this not trying to offend anyone. I was just wondering how old you think is too old to get pregnant. in my opinion there's a certain age when it's going to mean you're 70 or 80 when your child is 20 you're too old to have a baby, only because part of being a parent in my opinion is being there for them through their whole childhood and  young adulthood if possible. I am currently 36 pregnant with my first and will be 37 when I give birth. I think if I don't have a second by the time I'm 40 I have to be done.

[mhv]

:) thank you, and very well said yourself.  Congrats on your pregnancy :)

[laynesmom101]

Aww that was really well said mhv. (: I know this isn't my category, but I love to read about people's stories. I would just like to say that my grandma tried and tried to have kids and for a long time she couldn't.  She adopted 2 children during that time (she had no health problems) then at the age of 40 she had my mother. I would just like to say as long as you can and have good health, why not? If she stopped before 40 I wouldn't be here today. My mother did pass away 4 years ago at age 31 of liver disease. It's never too late to have children, you're giving life, giving another person a chance to have a life. I totally agree with mhv. I'm 19 and married, pregnant with my second child. My grandma is still here and my mom isnt. I would have loved for her to be here and to have been at my wedding and my kids birth, but it wasn't in God's plan and I'm so glad that I had the time I did have with her though and I always have those memories. It's doesn't matter about age, you never know how long your going to live, our days are numbered before we're born. Give life if you're able (:

[mhv]

I swore if I didn't have kids by the time I was 35, I wouldn't have any.  I got married for the second time at 35, so I adjusted that age to 38.  At 40, we were seeking help from a fertility clinic.   I quite worrying about age.  With my 3rd ferility clinic, and the use of donor embryos,I gave birth at 45.   I carried twins.  I had an easy pregnancy.  Low blood pressure, no health issues at all.  I carried them to 36weeks.  They were born perfectly healthy.  I sit on the floor and play with them daily.  I play with them on the playground too.  Going down slides, climbing on the equipment.

  I think you are never too old, of you really want a family.
My kids make me feel younger, although I have never felt my age.  
There are several ladies on here in their late 40's pregnant right now.  And some as old as 50 still trying.  And many ladies 40 and over have just started or,added to, their families.

I honestly believe you shouldn't give up on your dream.  You don't know why ladies are this old and still trying.  But if that is the path they choose, so be it.

Also, if you are using donor eggs or embryos, you chance of miscarriage is as low as if you were in your 20's and 30's.

And I am really hope when my children turn 21, they won't mind sitting down and having a drink or two with me.

[GeekMom1213]

I'm not sure how it's anyone's business to decide who is the right age to have a child except the people who are making that baby. Do you also think that people who have a family history of heart disease shouldn't have kids because they might have heart attacks before their children are 30? If you don't want to have kids after 40 that's your choice - but to say that you don't think other people should either? People who decide to be parents at that age are significantly more likely to be financially stable and prepared to raise their children - who are you to judge their choices?

[seattleview]

What Annie said...to a certain extent. 50? Probably too old.

[AnnieBrooke]

For me, the number is entirely dependent on the health, energy level and outlook of the mother.  

[Jrob0530]

I'll be 36 when this one (my first) is born & 40 was my cut off as well. Not only is it about mentally & physically being their for your child but being pregnant takes a toll on the body. Some days I feel every bit of my 35 years.