Options for 42 Year Old ?

[MissingMichael]

Hello, I'm new here looking for a new start.  Where do I start?  Last May 2008 my beautiful 4 year old son was killed in a car accident.  I have an 8 year old daughter who is my savior.  I wound up having a tubal reversal back last year to test the fertility waters.  As my luck would have it, I have been unable to get pregnant, either due to an unsuccessful reversal, infertifility or depression.  

Now my husband is no longer on board with having more children (big obstacle huh?).  But this isn't enough for me.  I need hope, I need to turn this constant sadness into something positive.  

I've been reading IVF at my age could possibly be a failure.  I've read a little on the net but it's all so distressing for me. Can you please tell me what options have worked for you if you are around my age, and of course, the cost involved?

[adgal]

Well, statistically the odds of IVF over 40 aren't great.  However, stats are just that, and you could just as easily fall into the success catagory.  Depending on how you feel about it, donor eggs with IVF might be a really good choice for you. There are a few women here who have gone that route and have beautiful babies.  I'm sorry I can't speak to the cost involved, but it is certainly worth exploring.  You might want to post this on the fertility forum as I know many women there who have done IUI, IVF and IVF with donor eggs. Also, the TTC over 40 might be an additional good group to join. It sounds like the biggest challenge right now is how your husband feels....does he understand how important this is to you?  I truly hope he comes around, and at that point you should probably make an appointment with an RE.  Get all the information and take it from there.  I truly wish you well, and please, let us know how you are doing.  Take care, Amanda

[BabyBlue07]

to me, IVF seem like a best option for you...of course it's will cost alot of money... but if your husband sperms are still good quantity and quality and you are still ovulating and produce good eggs.. then you could try IUI first... maybe 3 times..   If not working, then IVF is your last option..  Don't loosing hope just because you are 40+.  Don't believe in what you reads.. it's just a statistic... I known someone who was 47 when she tried IVF and successful... keep up the positive thinking and faith...

Do not be discourage... and good luck to you.