M/c in July 2010

[Higgins1107]

My husband & I were walking around walmart today... Had to get some stuff for my new job but anyway we walked by the baby stuff and I told him next week we will b able to try again.. He just looked at me and said I thought we had to wait a year b4 we can start trying again.. I looked at him and told him that my dr told me 2-3 normal cycles. He said that he was told 1yr that it would b saver...I asked him where did u hear that from... One of his friends wife told him that one of her friends would have a mc after mc and that she waited 1yr to try again and had a health baby.. So now he thinks we have to wait a yr to try again... I told him I would think my dr would know when it was save to try again.. So now he thinks we have to wait yr b4 trying again.. Im not a young chicken... My husband is 10 yrs younger than me... He told me that hes just afraid that i will mc again like my last one with our son Alex.. I was 18wks 2days... hardest day of my life..but wait 1yr I think that is crazy.. Anyone heard of that b4 waiting a 1yr.. I would not have a problem with that if I was younger but Im going to b 42 in oct..I just think that is crazy now I have to get him to understand that 1yr is to long to wait... He wants a other bady that is not problem but trying to him get  to understand 1yr is to long to wait..

[Birds71]

I also had a D&C in mid-July and was at 14 weeks.  My dr put me on a month of BC pills to induce a period and she had no issue in us trying right away.  I told her I was anxious to start trying, but I also didn't want to be stupid and try and rush things.  I will be turning 39 later this month.  

The benefit of the pills (besides only waiting a month for a period) was that they help to build the uterine lining.  I'm now on CD 8, taking Clomid and waiting to start trying!

Good luck to you - it will happen!!

[prevatt77]

I had a total of 5 miscarriage and only waited 1 full cycle before trying again, mine were all in the 1st trimester.  GOod luck to you; don't give up on your dream and this will happen for you.

[Super_sally888]

For a natural miscarriage there is no reason to wait a cycle.  Just keep on trying. If an assisted miscarriage (D&C) waiting 1 cycle may be preferable.  Some women are actually more fertile immediately following a miscarriage.

Best wishes

[My_blessing2011]

You're right Lisa, always wait at least 2-3 cycles, I was also told to wait that extended period of time. Like you said, giving the uterus time to rest, and heal, and also, as you stated and my ob/gyn stated giving the lining time to build back up, is also essential. My ob/gyn said without the adequate  building up of the lining, can prevail into a miscarriage again. I am also getting up there in age. I am 39 40 next June. I just had 2 miscarriages back, to back, one being at 13 weeks, but I lost that baby due to a missed miscarriage. My baby had quit growing at 9/12 weeks. Also, my recent loss was at 15w4d with my son, I had to deliver him naturally. With the first miscarriage, I had to have a D&C. My miscarriages were both one year to the day apart July 31st 09, July 31st 2010. So, it took me about 10 months to conceive. I have never heard of waiting for a year to try again. I have had 4 miscarriages total, I had 2 early losses in 96 and 97. With my last pregnancy, I had been carrying twins, but I found out one did not make it around 6 weeks pregnant. I suggest to the poster, to take her hubby to the doctor with her. Good Luck!

[LisaL18]

I had a miscarriage in July also and my OB said just to wait 1  cycle to give time to uterus lining to start to build back up. (was 17 weeks)  Due to my age 42 time is of the essence.  In fact, on my 2nd follow up appointment he recommended I see an RE due to previous fertility issues with my 2 daughters who are teens.  I am now in the waiting to try stage, had AF about a week ago.  Have appt with the RE tomorrow to discuss potential chance of pregnancy.  

[spade22]

Sometimes a women needs to wait a year to conceive if she had a rare complication, for example a molar pregnancy.  If your dr said it's ok to ttc after 3 cycles then you are good to go.  It's also possible your hubby is not emotionally ready after your recent loss.

[shuga1109]

I miscarried in March 2010.  My doctor told me 2-3 normal cycles and we can try again.  We have been since.  She said reason being, most women will still have a small amount of hcg in their system after a D&C and when women miscarry, they become very emotional and hurt that they want to test again right away, to then get a positive, making this the only time that women can get a false positive HPT.  Other than that, never heard of waiting one year.  Maybe its time to take him with you to your next OBGYN appt so that he can hear it for himself.

[LosingMyMindInGA]

I got pregnant with my last child on the 2nd cycle after a first trimester natural miscarriage.  He's now a very happy, healthy and loveable 2 year old

[adgal]

Much depends on the situation, and quite frankly the Dr.  For the most part, if it is a first trimester situation Dr.'s will tell you to wait anywhere from 1-3 cycles.  If it is 2nd or 3rd, that is usually for different reasons such as happy mentioned above, and needs to be adressed medically.  I have never heard of having to wait 1 year, and I have miscarried 5 times.  I once asked my OB why the need to wait even 1 cycle, which was always her opinion.  She told me it was primarily for dating purposes.  After my 5th miscarriage I found myself pregnant again almost immediately.  I did not have a cycle inbetween.  He is now a healthy and happy 7 month old.  

Many many women have first trimester miscarriages.  In the case of your husbands friends wife it is unlikely that waiting a year had anything to do with it.  It is probably just more like my situation, and she eventually got lucky.  Also, having had 1 first trimester loss does not increase your chances of having a second.  Somewhere in the neighborhood of 30% of pregnancies result in a loss first trimester.  This number only increases after 3 losses, which typically means there is a medical reason behind it.  The rest of the time it is sadly back luck.  We just hear about it more now because we find out we are pregnant much earlier then we used to.

I agree with the above poster...take him with you to see your OB.  It is much better then listening to others opinions.  I too would not have wanted to wait a year..if I had done that between each loss my son would not be here.  

[happynifer]

i would not wait a year, especially at your age.  
most recommend waiting one normal cycle before resuming TTC.
did they find out why you lost your son that far along? if it's chromosomal, then there should be no risk to another pregnancy.
if you had cervix issues or something else, then you should address that with your doctor and find out what they are going to do to prevent recurrence.
have him talk to your doctor and they will set him straight on the waiting a year.
good luck and i am sorry for your loss