My game plan...comments or suggestions welcome!

[adgal]

So as some of you know, I have just found out I am pregnant again.  I am super excited, but super nervous as well.  My history isn't good....I get pregnant easily, but have a tough time making it out of first trimester.  Prior to having Ryder I experienced 5 losses in a very short period of time.  So, not worrying is impossible, but I am trying to make this easier on myself.

I spoke briefly to my family Dr. this morning.  AF would have been due friday so we are waiting until then to do a beta.  If he gives me that first number, I will completely stress that it is too low when logically I know that it is the two sets of numbers 2 days apart that matter.  So, on his suggestion, I will have a beta on friday, one on monday, then meet with him tuesday to go over the results (rather then trying to interpret them myself).  That way I have the big picture, not just the one number to worry about all weekend. At that point and time I will make an appointment with my OB (if everything looks good), and am not going to have an ultrasound until 7 weeks (unless there is some reason too, such as suspected etopic or something).  In the meantime I have started my progesterone supplements, and had always continued taking my fish oil, prenatals and baby asprin.  

Any other suggestions to try to keep my stress level down?  First trimester is really really hard for me.  Fortunately, having an amazing 9 month old helps...he keeps me super busy, plus if he winds up being the only child I have I will still consider myself very fortunate.  Still, I am worrying already over this one....

Thanks ladies!  As always, your input is appreciated!!

[mol6541]

Congrats!!!!!! I hope this is a very sticky bean. We will keep you in our thoughts here that everything goes well for you. When I found out I was pregnant again after my loss I realized
I had to take one day at a time and to put everything in gods hands.  Each of us can only do so much and many things are out of our control. It sounds like you are doing everything you can do to make this a healthy pregnancy.  Take care of yourself and the little one at home and let him be your focus.

[LisaL18]

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!  I am very excited for you.

  I hope all goes well, do try to relax and not stress over this pregnancy.  

[Michele, Katy, TX]

I just wanted to congratulate you first of all!!!

I think it is great that you have continued taking all of your supplements.  That is a great way to start.  Also, I think the fact that you have now had one full term pregnancy, also works in your favor.

I think as a mother we just worry anyway.  I can imagine you worry more than the average woman, but I have never had any miscarriages and still always worry through the first trimester.  Then I worry a bit between appts. because I have to wait an entire month to hear a heartbeat again (talking about 2nd trimester before you can feel them move).  Then that last trimester I worry that something may happen before I give birth and worry about stillbirth.  I have never personally had one of those either.  But I just worry until I am holding them in my arms really.  I don't worry to the point that I don't allow myself to enjoy the pregnancy, but I always worry.

I would do exactly what you are doing with your doctor visits and I would just pray and have the best, most positive thoughts that you can.  Remember that you have support here along with your family :)

[Allip77]

Congrats ( again)!  I am so stressed out too and I have considered doing acupuncture. I've done it before ( for fertility) and it really is relaxing. I haven't had to go after all becAuse I have been lowering my stress with daily hikes with our dogs. I've gone out by myself on a trail with a beautiful view and just counted my blessings!  I take deep breaths and think about how lucky I am to have my dd and dh and how I just pray this little ine will be joining our family in June. I just think good thoughts and it really helps!  And I do absolutely no more research on miscarriage etc! Best of luck!!!!!!

[momof8215]

OMG AMANDA!!!! I am soooooooooo jealous...CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!
I will keep everything crossed for you!!!!!

[AnnieBrooke]

Retail therapy helped me a lot during the stressful waits.  I would walk through the whole mall and look at everything, including going into shops I never go into.  Didn't buy a lot, but it really was kind of cheerful, combining as it did a little moderate exercise with something to occupy the mind.  I also played solitaire, did jigsaw puzzles (we have a counter my son can't reach), and made it a point to get out into the daylight a LOT more than usual.