Pregnancy chances?

[Rainy48]

Hi - new here (another Brit by the way). I'm 38 and married nearly two years in June and heard the words from the doctor just this Monday gone: "it's very unlikely you will ever get pregnant", devastating news! I'm not really sure why I am writing this; I know I am miles from home and perhaps just looking for company and support from people who have heard similar news....My doctor said that before we consider egg donation (the prospect of that possibly being our only option hasn't really sunk in) he will put me on Clomid - I start next month.....
I would love for someone to drop by and comment and perhaps share some of this babydust I see you kindly wish for those needing it.

[usuk]

so you are ovulating? get to shaggin !

[Rainy48]

Well guys, stick 7 of 7 shows an LH surge today - that's a good sign isn't it?

I start Clomid next cycle...

:o/

[Rainy48]

I am also tired of people asking when we are going to have kids or hearing "if you need an excuse not have kids just look after ours for a while - that'll put you off". They don't know of course, and it's innocent, but it really hurts - it did a little even before I knew we'd have trouble conceiving, 'cos I've always known how old I am!

I know you feel happy for parents and preg friends but it still makes you ache inside.

I know how you feel - now X

[usuk]

i know how you feel. if one more close friend gets preg, i will probably have a panic attack. and i am not proud of it, but after 3 MCs it just hurts. i was on clomid too like agdal although i conceived without it. you will drop more eggs and double your chances each cycle. keep me posted.

[Rainy48]

Hi both! Thanks for writing. udbe - congratualtions on your pregnancy, I send you lots and lots of luck. I have this month for the first time ever purchased, and am using, an OPK! 2 days in and no indication yet but we'll see. This is my last chance naturally before I take the Clomid next month...

usuk: My "nob" (good old fashioned brit term lol) of a doctor is the only one I've got right now - and the only fertility specialist in our State apparently. He just seemed so dismissive - it seemed straight away telling me egg donor or adoption, "but I know you want to try so I'll prescribe you some Clomid, although it's very unlikely it'll work"     :'o(

usuk: I wish you and your Brit hubby all the best with this, and I hope your dreams come true.

My hubby is trying to understand how I feel, but I seem to have newborns all around me at the moment! I went to my first ever baseball match yesterday and the lady behind me was going into great detail about her young child and the one she was carrying due in November - this morning at breakfast someone sat at a table next to us and put the baby carrier with a tiny resident in it on the table in plain view! I know they dont know, but it seems I need reminding of my infertility at every turn :o(  

I know I am being sensitive now but I hope I don't start seeng babies in everything I look at!!

Thanks for your support guys - It really helps me XXX

[usuk]

i'm all for docs being honest instead of giving false hope. but i am thinking get a new doc. one that will promise to try along with you and not one that has his mind made up and will be a total nob to you every time you want to have a test or try to conceive. yes i said nob - my husband is a brit :) and ps. i am 38 now so you are not the only 38 year old going through this. my doc is very practical and he is by no means a lovely mary poppins, but he knows how i feel and he has a heart under all that doctor lingo. good luck.