Let me add that i have experienced motherhood in my 20s,in my 30s and in my 40s.
I loved reading this thread. And to share in this thread we got our l bundle of joy in may and i had just turned 43. Only realised i was pregnant around 15 weeks and went through shock, fear and uncertainty. With no prenatal care the stakes were high. I thought i was growing crazy with all the emotions. But i never had a health problem, it was the fittest time of my life physically but not mentally. I was sleepwalking but am grateful to God my doctor was amazingly supportive and positive. I went on to deliver the joy of our whole family- he is the centre of his sisters and they adore him and are so o protective of him. Am so o humbled ladies- yes most foctors would say what they read but our bodies are still unchartered territories in a way. I had a c section but was so o quick to heal and was surprised. I honestly feel in my twenties in a way but with the added advantage that am calm, patient, embracing motherhood,tolerant, wiser in a way. Most of all, i know that am not in control but God is.
Its just so wonderful to read about all these encouraging experiences. My partner and I, both in our forties are thinking of having a baby. Although I have two children - 16 and 12 from a previous marriage, it will be a first time for him. Both of us are terribly excited about this but also a bit worried about health complications for me and the baby. I am 44 with no health worries. The thought of a new baby just fills me with joy and I do hope we can all settle down into enjoying a fulfilled family life. Can anybody please tell me about the possible health complications to watch out for at this age ?
Ladies, thank you.for sharing your experiences! There is so much hope.
I know its hard, but try and relax. Im not far behind you in age. I will be 40 a month after this baby is born. Im 29 weeks and due in July. I also have an iron issue. Ive been anemic the entire pregnancy. Ive taken an iron supplement along with the prenatal vitamin. Hope its working. You must feel week and tired all the time. I know i do! Anyways, try not to worry about the age thing. Ive had all the genetic test and all looks good. The only thing ive noticed being almost 40 and pregnant is that im in alot of pain. Upper back, middle back, lower back, groin pains. My body isnt what it used to be...olol. Still will all be worth it when my son is born.
Hi Emma. I just want to say I'm 38 pregnant with number five a little girl I'm 34.2 weeks. It CAN happen and have happy healthy babies. Just talk to Dr about iron thing they will keep an eye on it. Best of luck in sure you'll be ok. More and more women are having babies ALOT later in life :) good luck
Hi, I'm Emma. I'm 41 and just discovered im 5w3d with my first pregnancy after years of trying. We had given up. .. stopped clomid and then tamoxifen as they didn't work. .. that was a year ago. So this is a nice surprise but I am very scared about abnormalities at my age. Im quite fit and well. No major issues. I take thyroxine which is well controlled and have haemochromatosis which is a genetic thing where I don't absorb iron as I should do...so a little worried there. The whole age thing scares me quite a lot.
Im 41, my first pregnancy about six weeks in. Overjoyed, hopeful and looking forward to the birth of my little one!
I am 39 and pregnant with my second child. I just miscarried in January so I know the risks but I have to admit that after knowing that it was possible I had to try again. I am a type II diabetic and understood the risks. I am now in my 9th week with no cramping or spotting. Dont get me wrong, I am miserable quite often (back pain, breasts very sensitive, nausea and stretch marks). My husband didnt want this after the miscarraige and the docs repeatative use of the term "high risk" but he is now excited and worried. When I feel my worst I remind myself that I only have six months to go and I will be reminded of how it was all worth it when I look at the beautiful bundle in my arms.
Forgot to say he's five and I'm now 47.
I was in the exact same situation. I had three early miscarriages after 40 and before having my perfectly healthy son at age 42. He's a total delight to us all and probably spoilt rotten as he orders his 12 and 14 year old half-brothers about all the time! He has so much attention from us all he is devleping really quickly in every way. I'm not sure how he will handle another younger sibling if my current pregnancy works out though, as he is very possessive of me!
I know the original post is almost 4 yrs old, but noticed some recent entries and thought I'd share.
I'm 43, my husband 32 and we have been married for 9 yrs, the first for both. We have a daughter who is turning 5, a 4.6 yr old and I found out I'm due in Aug. This current child was planned AGAINST.
Both pregnancies were considered high risk due to prior surgeries, age, and asthma/allergies. My first was a breech c-section and since we lived in a somewhat rural area, it made my second a c-section as well.
We received all the lectures and warnings about conceiving after 35, especially with my second because I was 39.6 when I delivered. The was they treated me and emphasized Currently, I'm at a higher risk for cancer, preterm labor, preeclampsia, placental problems, high blood pressure, low birth weight, (our kids weren't all that big to begin with), stillborn, and diabetes. Then there's the risk to the child such as Down's, type -1 diabetes, high blood pressure as well as all the problems that go with premature children, (autoimmune issues, learning disabilities, and a myriad of other endless low-birth weight issues.)
Everyone and every pregnancy is different, but I only had 2 problems and that was with my first, preeclampsia and morning sickness for 9 mo. The latter of which was the reason I didn't gain any weight, there wasn't any meds I could take that didn't have side effects.
Although we passed on it the first two times, (mainly because I was afraid of the pain), we will be looking into either Nuchal Translucency or Amniocentesis. Yes, there are risks but I want to be informed with as much notice as possible to any abnormal results.
My husband is in the medical field and I'm unemployed. Oh wait, I'm supposed to say I'm a SAHM (stay at home Mom). Yes, I do believe I'm more interested in raising good humans, patient and enjoy the little things, then had I started in my 20's. But I will admit to having less energy and occasionally worry about seeing my children raise a family. For me, the trade off is worth it.
Because I don't look my age, I'm fortunate not to have to deal with too much public opinion. On the rare occasion a stranger is aware of my age, I get looks or borderline disparaging comments. For the few that pay attention to my parenting or better yet, my children's behavior, I either get questions about how my age effects how I raise my children or comments about how well behaved they are.
Bottomline, there are things in my life that I would gladly change, but the age that I chose to become a Mom is not one of them.
One of the best pieces of advice I can give you is for both you and your partner to stop all intake of alcohol. It can kill fertility by up to 50%
I'm 43. Had my gallbladder removed in July. Stopped all alcohol and got pregnant in September. I'd been TTC for over a year since my last M/C. I used to drink a few glasses of wine per week plus a few G&Ts.
My family has also been on the failsafe diet which I would also highly recommend. www.fedup.com.au
Your comments are quiet encouraging, my son is 12 now and we have been trying for the second child for a little while now but I guess I was a little scared since I was 44 a month ago. Keeping the faith, thanks alot
Thanks, everybody. I'm sad and scared, as I have no partner, no money, and I'm about to turn 43 (and a healthcare person told me I have little chance without medical intervention at this age). I want to find a great guy soon enough to conceive naturally. You all gave me hope, though my heart is still frightened and weepy right now.
I am going through fertility sessions with my doctor right now. My age wasnt a factor of difficulty. My age was a facotr of my eggs being mature enough for getting pregnant. I trust my doctor, he said it may be a little risk of down syndrome for the child. But that didnt hurt our wanting a baby. I hope this helps...oh my age is 43 and my hunny's age is 32.
I had two children by the time I was 30. My husband and I weren't trying to have a 3rd child, but we did when I was 48. Our little boy is almost 2 now, perfectly healthy and the delight of our lives. His 19 year old brother and 24 year old sister love him dearly. I did have some minor health problems while pregnant that I didn't have with the other pregnancies---gestational diabetes, high blood pressure and generally feeling exhausted and run down. Also, my sister-in-law, after several miscarriages, had her only child when she was a coupld of weeks shy of her 45th birtday. She also had a healthy baby boy. So, you can have a healthy baby after 40.
You ladies are giving me SO much hope. It's so encouraging!
I had Gavin when I was 41, I had 4 miscarriages before him. He is now a healthy beautiful 7 month old little boy. It was a struggle, but all worth it to me. This is my hubby's first child and only from me...lol
If you believe than it will happen for you. Good Luck on yor decision.
i am completely jealous about all the pregnant over the age of , my mother is 44 and is completely depressed that she cannot have a child of her own even with IVF because of the abnormal eggs. she refuses to get a donor egg because she sees it as "not her own", they have spend thousands of rands on treatment and now at the final stages she only had one egg and it showed abnormality.. i cannot describe how sad she is, it reminds me of three years ago when she had a miscarraige at 9 months...
is there completly no other way she can get her own???
I turned 45 this month and due this week,
my dh and I have been married for 25years and had a surprised pregnancy! Nothing is really diffrent then with the first 17years ago, other then the medical testing!
I feel if anything it is a plus!!! We are to be more relaxed, and have time and paitents this time around. I dont plan on working and will have nothing but time for this one. how can that be any wrong?????
I am fourty two and much to my and my husbands surprise, I am now thirteen weeks pregnant. But it has been so scary, the doctors always tell me all the negative things that can happen and never anything positive because of my age. Everythings find thus far, I just have to trust in Jesus and pray we have a normal healthy child.
Well I am not to familiar with pregnancy in your 40's but I do know that my mother and father were in there mid 40's and pregnant with me and I was full term and healthy baby....she didn't even get morning sickness ...that lucky lady! I do know doctors usually give additional testing on older women. I hear many women are starting to have childern in there 40's. I personally haven't heard of anyone having abnormalities with there pregnancies as of yet.
Thank you so much for your comments and stories.
You have helped me think not as much about the negative issues about this. It's god to hear some happy stories in the end.
I am still nervous but with a more open mind to this.
Many thanks :)