I feel really sad

[sally15]

I had a miscarriage 3 weeks ago,I have been feeling really sad since then,But have been able to control my emotions,but today I have been really emotional,crying lots & longing for a baby,we have been trying for 3.5 yrs, We lost a baby 5 yrs ago ,she was 3 mts old.Today I find myself crying a lot for her.what can I do?When will it get better does anyone know.

[sally15]

Thanks again for the Encouragement.

[tahariel]

I am sorry for your loss. We had "unexplained infertility" for several years but managed to get pregnant only to lose that baby at 17 weeks. Another 1 1/2 years we were pregnant again and had a healthy baby. Nothing will ever take away all of the pain and sadness of your loss, but it will get better with time. 3 weeks is not very long, so give yourself plenty of time to recover. Just take things day by day and eventually the pain and emptiness will fade. Never gone, but somehow eventually manageable. Expect sadness around what would have been your due date. Plan something nice for yourself that day. A day at the spa, or a nice evening out to dinner. Something you will enjoy. Best wishes!

[tricia448]

i cant say i have been in your exact shoes...but i am so sorry for your tradgedies! you have had alot on your plate and its totally normal for you to feel the way you do. i would assume it takes time and support of your loved ones to get you through! tonight i will lift you up in my prayers and honestly hope you can find some type of peace with what has happened. on the other hand i think its great you are greiving...please allow yourself to go thru all the emotions!! best of luck!!!

tricia

[shesherm]

I'm so sorry for your losses.  It just takes time.  allow yourself to grieve and things will get a little better every day.  good luck

[2wonderfulboys]

I have also mc (twice), the pain is always there, I sometimes cry while talking to pregnant people, it just takes time to heal and the only people that understand are the ones that have been through it. I always hated when people would say "you can try again" it just always felt so cold to me. But then I realized it's because they haven't been through it. So hang in there you will have good days and bad days, just don't feel guilty for the good times just go with it, and you "will" be ok, trust me.

[sally15]

Thanks so much for being so caring,I just needed to vent again,my DH is out of town working he knows how I feel & of course he worries about me & feels bad also,My sis is visiting she is preg I don't want to tell her how I really feel,because she feels so sorry for me.I want to be happy for her & I am but I want a baby soooo bad why does it have to be so hard.

[Nicchick]

I have had my share of miscarriages and one very bad one....give yourself time to heal.   It takes time, no one can say how long.  Be very good to yourself.  The sadness you feel is also hormonal and it makes it that much worse.

Curl-up and cry, it will release some  of your sadness and know that it will be ok.  Take care

[Roxxyy]

I cant answer your question but please know that I am writing to you at the same time than crying with you. Its just amazing how a forum like this one can bring people closer, strangers... people in pain and tonight before loging off I found you and I can feel your pain. I am very sorry for your lost. I wish I have good things to say or answers for your questions but the only thing I can do for you is to pray for you . i will ask God to help you in this terrible time.