chromosomes

[miraculous]

Hi there
Not sure if I'm posting in the right forum. Sadly at nearly 12 weeks I discovered that that my baby had a trisomy 18 so I've had to have a termination, just a terrible terrible time I am so sad.  At 43 yrs old I feel it was my last chance but I just can't seem to accept it. My question is have any of you older mums had a bad result like this and against all the odds gone on to have a healthy baby?. I know I'm at the end of my child bearing years so to speak but want to know should I try again or just give up, any input would be great.

[rubyinparadise]

Oh no! I just posted on your other comment before I saw this one. I am so very sorry for your loss. :(

[adgal]

I am so very sorry you went through this.  It is a horrible decision to have to make and I cannot imagine your pain.  I don't know an awful lot about chromosonal abnormalities, but I do know that they are determined at the moment of conception.  Fortunately it is not common, even for us older moms and you have every chance in the world of the next pregnancy (if you choose to do so) being healthy.  Don't let age stand in your way. It can be tougher for us over 40 moms, but it can and does happen.  Take good care, and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.  Amanda

[sherrysb]

I'm a big fan of natural and herbal products.  I believe you have to be serious and faithful about taking them.  Look online and research, I know there are products out there that claim to improve the quality of you eggs and then there are real herbs that improves your health and the quality of your eggs.  (fruit, herbs).

Make sure you track your ovulation.

Good luck

[40smama]

The woman on this forum who had a baby just recently is PamelaBee - she's 45 or 46 - sorry Pam, can't remember!

[miraculous]

Thanks for all the encouragement. I realise I'm grasping at straws but hearing those stories makes me want to try again, oh why do we do this to ourselves. I never realised just what a support these forums can be until you have sadness and everyone is so supportive. Who is the lady on this forum who's about 44-45 and either pregnant or had a baby I would like to hear her story. Did anyone do any special prep ie, vitamins etc as I guess my problem is my old eggs. I've heard you can take things to improve the quality of your eggs.
Thanks

[YogaChick]

I'm so sorry.  Once you have a chance to work through your loss, if you are interested in trying again, you can have pre-implantation genetic testing done on fertilized IVF embryos... I'm not sure what you're comfortable going through but if you would consider IVF, know that they can do some screening so you are far less likely to have to terminate a pregnancy.

[40smama]

I'm so sorry for your loss but I want you to remember that these things like trisomy 18 can happen at any age - not just to women who are in their 40's.  I too have had two m/c's and one was a 2nd trimester and it was heartbreaking - much like yours.

I went on to have another baby a couple of years later (I was 30 at the time).  I realize that it's a little different as you're in your 40s but don't give up hope.  As many have said, there are several women on this forum who've gone on to delivery healthy babies in their 40s although it might take some time to conceive.  I wish you all the best  - jen

[prevatt77]

So sorry to hear about your loss.  I was 41 when I gave birth to my son, he is a healthy 7 1/2 month old now.  I had 4 miscarriages prior to him and 1 ectopic.  Like I have told many woman on here "Don't Give Up"  it will happen.  You're just getting a bad egg, once you get that one mature egg your pregnancy will go the distance.  Don't give up in what you believe in.

[Juliaschill]

I am sorry to hear about your loss! You must be just heartbroken. I think you just need to look inside your heart to see what is right for you, give yourself time to heal, and know that many women have healthy babies in there 40's, it is harder but can and does happen, I just gave birth to happy healthy baby boy and I am 40 and only have one open tube and low progesterone. I will say a prayer for you and hope that you may find some peace, best wishes Julia