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Hi there! I've been on this forum for 5 years, but have been a way for a bit, and I see a whole lot of new members. Fantastic and welcome!! Thought it might be fun to get to know each other a bit, so how about introducing yourself and telling your story. This forum is open to all women who may be pregnant, trying to get pregnant or just looking for pregnancy information. So don't worry if your here and not currently pregnant...I'm not..ha. I'll go first.
My name is Amanda and I started trying to get pregnant when I was 37. I had no problem conceiving, but did have a problem carrying full term. When I was 40, my dreams came true and I got pregnant with a sticky bean that I delivered just before I turned 41. He just turned 3 last week, and is a healthy happy normal child. My husband and I wanted a second, but again, I conceive easily, just can't seem to carry. So we started looking into alternative options. I have a fair amount of information on embryo donation if anyone is interested. We opted to let it go and my son will be an only child (at least for now), but you never know what the future holds.
Your never too old! I love chatting with the over 35'ers, so please, tell us about you! If you are pregnant, would also love to know where you are at, do you know what you are having, and anything else you want to share.
Nice to meet you all! It's great to be back on this forum.
Amanda
My name is Amanda and I started trying to get pregnant when I was 37. I had no problem conceiving, but did have a problem carrying full term. When I was 40, my dreams came true and I got pregnant with a sticky bean that I delivered just before I turned 41. He just turned 3 last week, and is a healthy happy normal child. My husband and I wanted a second, but again, I conceive easily, just can't seem to carry. So we started looking into alternative options. I have a fair amount of information on embryo donation if anyone is interested. We opted to let it go and my son will be an only child (at least for now), but you never know what the future holds.
Your never too old! I love chatting with the over 35'ers, so please, tell us about you! If you are pregnant, would also love to know where you are at, do you know what you are having, and anything else you want to share.
Nice to meet you all! It's great to be back on this forum.
Amanda
My name is Edith and I am currently 32 weeks pregnant and we are having a boy. We have already named him Hunter. He will be arriving a month before I turn 41 and my husband 48.
We have been trying for 4 years now to get pregnant. I do not ovulate on my own. I have only been able to conceive on Clomid. The summer of 2011 I to pregnant for the first time with twins. The twins hearts stopped at 9 weeks 3 days. It was a missed miscarriage and I had a DNC. A few months later I was pregnant again, this time it was a blighted ovum and in December I had another DNC. We took a few months off trying and I started taking supplements like Maca, royal jelly, co q 10, etc. then we tried again. This time I finally got a good egg, and this pregnancy is going wonderful.
We are so excited that we are finally going to be parents.
I wish everyone all the best on thier journey to become pregnant.
We have been trying for 4 years now to get pregnant. I do not ovulate on my own. I have only been able to conceive on Clomid. The summer of 2011 I to pregnant for the first time with twins. The twins hearts stopped at 9 weeks 3 days. It was a missed miscarriage and I had a DNC. A few months later I was pregnant again, this time it was a blighted ovum and in December I had another DNC. We took a few months off trying and I started taking supplements like Maca, royal jelly, co q 10, etc. then we tried again. This time I finally got a good egg, and this pregnancy is going wonderful.
We are so excited that we are finally going to be parents.
I wish everyone all the best on thier journey to become pregnant.
Congratulations to you! I love stories like yours. I wish you hadn't had to endure so much, and am so sorry for your heartbreaking loss, but when I say I love your story, I mean the happy ending. Another deserving strong women about to realize her dreams and become a mommy. So happy for you and thank you for sharing your story. I can't wait to hear about Hunter's arrival...so close now.
Im fairly new here but not to pregnancy lol. My name is Michelle, I live in Pensylvania USA. Got pg for the first time at 20, but it wasnt ment to be. Things seemed healthy until my 20 week anatomy sono. They found my little boy had only a heart and stomach no other internal organs attempted to form, so I was told that i could allow the pg to go until i misscarried, witch they said would happen without question, but if it did i may have complications and no longer be able to have children. The other choice was to allow them to induce me. After nearly a month of cryng and talking to my pastor I finally allowed them to induce, and after testing was told it wasnt anything genitic or that i could have prevented. I think of him often and have since become much more knowledgeable of these sort of issues. We tried again rite away and before my 6 week post partum i was pg again. This time with a very healthy little boy. I went into preterm labor often from the 25 week mark out till I delivered naturally at 38 weeks. He is now soon to be 10, Afew yrs later we decided to have another child, I seem to concieve without much effort, just stopping my bc pills for a month did the trick. Again I had a healthy son, and again at around 25 weeks I started with preterm labor. This time however at 35w 3d I went to my dr and was taken for emergency c section. I was having what i thought was the same contractions my ob would stop and send me home, but my little one was stouborn and ready to be born, 100% breech. My ob had no issue with the c section, I was numbed and my son was born healthy and strong. He was discharged from the hospital a day before i was lol. He is now 7. Things went well and I had no issue deciding to try again 3 yrs later. Only this time we were surprised by twin boys. To my surprise I did not have preterm labor issues, but at 31w my water broke. My area is small and no local hospital is equipt for premies so I was sent to Hershey hospital, about an hour away.This was a terrable experence. I was put into a room to be monitored with my hubby and 1 rn. I was given steroid shots for thier lungs and they tried to slow the labor as much as possable. My twins wanted no part of that as it didnt work. I told my rn for hours my contractions were getting worse and finnaly that i felt as if i had to push. But she responded by rolling her eyes and telling me i was fine she could tell by the monitors. Finally I yelled out for help and the dr heard me and responded. Of course I had never seen these drs before but after checking me he stated "baby a" was crowing. I was supost to be a scheduled c section so based on how far i had progressed i had to be put to sleep for this c section and my huuby was not allowed in the room. We were both very upset. When i awoke I was told my twins were in NICU on oxygen but were doing very well. I however had complications. Because of the intensity of the contractions my cervix ripped open before they started a c section. There was much blood loss and repair work done. I was also supost to have my tubes tied but in the rush it wasnt done as no insurence papers were filled out. I was simply put outraged at the situation, my ob would have never allowed things to get to that point, and after all but begging the rn to listen to just be brushed aside i felt all could have been avoided had my nurse listened to me. I told the dr that spoke to me in recovery everything in hopes that something would have been done, he told me he would address the situation but i was never told of it if he did. NICU was wonderful there and my twin sons came home 6 weeks later, but labor and delivery i would have been better off doing allmost anywhere else. They are now 4.THis brings us to now and here we are with this little one on the way. We were surprised but happy and i can only think this is why my tubes being tied never happened like it was supost to, and this child was ment for us. I am waiting to find out if I am 6w or 9w, we arent sure until our sono on 2/6 that is scheduled by my ob to verify the due date. I am actually 31 but I have found that I have much more in common with the ladies here in 35+ than the younger groups, I am lucky enough to be in nursing now and therefore know more than I did with prior pgs but not in an ob office or hospital so i am allways looking for good advice on our little bean. Especially after the complications last time. Im really not sure of what to expect as the conversation of how safe another pg was never was addressed.I do have full faith in my LOCAL OB and im sure he will fully cover things when i am seen 2/6. I have found this forum to be a wealth of knowledge and wonderful sourse of suport thus far and am happy to have found it, as well as being happy I can provide some help to others that may need it. Sorry iif my post is a bit long, I guess when it comes to my sons and how they came to be I have alot to say :) I hope to hear more about you girls here soon as well.
Wow! Thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm sorry for your early heartbreak. How devestating that must have been. It sounds like you have an amazing beautiful family though, and your boys seem to like to arrive with a little drama don't they..lol. Mine had a dramatic entrance as well. Honestly, OB's and OB nurses really do need to learn to listen to moms to be. No one has a better idea of what is going on then we do. Yours is a good lesson for all OB nurses.
Don't think twice about the "under 35" issue. All are welcome here, and it's always been that way. The only reason MH split it up is because sometimes those of us of "advanced maternal age" can have extra concerns such as birth defects, etc. So they created an over 35 forum. But no one has ever cared how old someone was, and it's great to hear from someone with so much personal experience. It's nice to meet you.
So are you having a third c-section? I can tell you that there have been many women here over the years that had exactly that...3 and even 4 c sections. In every case baby and mom did just fine, so no worries ok? I'm sure your OB will reassure you, but I have never heard of a complication as a result. And your children are fairly well spaced which I know is a good thing. I think they worry more when you are having c sections close together.
Congrats on your pregnancy, and wishing you a healthy and happy one!
Don't think twice about the "under 35" issue. All are welcome here, and it's always been that way. The only reason MH split it up is because sometimes those of us of "advanced maternal age" can have extra concerns such as birth defects, etc. So they created an over 35 forum. But no one has ever cared how old someone was, and it's great to hear from someone with so much personal experience. It's nice to meet you.
So are you having a third c-section? I can tell you that there have been many women here over the years that had exactly that...3 and even 4 c sections. In every case baby and mom did just fine, so no worries ok? I'm sure your OB will reassure you, but I have never heard of a complication as a result. And your children are fairly well spaced which I know is a good thing. I think they worry more when you are having c sections close together.
Congrats on your pregnancy, and wishing you a healthy and happy one!
We plan to have a 3rd c section, I have been nervous about it thow. In cases like mine the nurse that did my confirmation says my ob likes to schedule it before I have the chance to go into labor so there wouldnt be any issues but if this little one is as stourborn as my sons were its hard to tell when labor will come. My nerves about the situation are actually what prompted me to find and join this site. I am relived to hear many have done it so sucessfully.
I well remember 1 long time member in particular...actually, she and I are still in touch, although she doesn't have time to get here much these days. She had her 4th c section almost 2 years ago now. Her kids are all about 2 to 2 1/2 years apart. I believe they did tell her not a good idea to go after no. 5, but she recovered just fine with with all of them. They did schedule as to not allow her to go into natural labor.
When my son was 6 months, I got pregnant again. Unfortunately I didn't make it full term, but that was going to be scheduled c section. That was only because my first son was emergency c section, and they would be so close together. If they had been more then 2 years they were going to let me do v bac. You've had 4 years since your last one, so I am betting all is just fine. Glad your here though, it sounds like you have an awful lot to offer!
When my son was 6 months, I got pregnant again. Unfortunately I didn't make it full term, but that was going to be scheduled c section. That was only because my first son was emergency c section, and they would be so close together. If they had been more then 2 years they were going to let me do v bac. You've had 4 years since your last one, so I am betting all is just fine. Glad your here though, it sounds like you have an awful lot to offer!
I am 37 and will be 38 next month. I have had 9 natural births with no pain killers. The first 7 were born at home and no. 8 was 7weeks 5days early so he was born at hospital. They gave me a steroid shot for his lungs while I was in labor and he had no problems and we were able to leave after 48 hours. He is now 6 years old. My 9th one was 4 weeks early and she had no problems and was able to leave after 48 hours also. She is now 4. That brings me up to date. I did have a miscarriage in July 2011 at 5 weeks. Now I am 33 weeks 5 days pregnant and have a midwife and planning on a water birth at home. So far so good. I'm having a girl which will make 5 girls and 5 boys. My oldest just turned 20 this month. This pregnancy was unexpected and I'm due March 16, 9 days after my second child. I can't wait for it to be over because of all the discomfort but I'm not going to rush it.
Hi. I am 36 years old and was told at the age of 18 that I would not be able to have children. This devastated me because all I had ever dreamed of as a child was being a mother. I was put on birth control at that time and I took it on and off for years. I was diagnosed with PCOS and was told that was the reason that I couldn't have children. At the age of 33, I was told that it might be possible if I took fertility drugs. I was prescribed Provera to induce my period and then told to take Clomid. Before I could even start that, I got really sick and ended up in the hospital. This began a 2 year agonizing journey of 18 surgeries in 2 years because I had a bad kidney. In 2009, I had my kidney removed. My gynecologist told me that I would have to wait at least a year before attempting to conceive with Clomid or in any other way. I waited that one year and began Clomid in January 2012. By April I was discouraged because nothing had happened so we decided to take a break and think it over. June 19th I realized that my period was late so I took a test. When I saw that it was positive, I was in disbelief and took two more within the next few days because the positive line on the test just didn't seem dark enough to me. All three showed the same. On June 29th, I went to the dr and was told that yes, I was pregnant. I was in shock and overjoyed at the same time. Then the fear began. I had to wait nearly two weeks for an ultrasound and I was scared. I had absolutely no symptom whatsoever (still haven't to this day). I was afraid of having a miscarriage, afraid that I had an ectopic pregnancy, a blighted ovum, an empty sac, a chemical pregnancy, etc. You name it, I feared it. I finally had my ultrasound expecthing the worst and was told that yes, there was a baby and it had a strong heartbeat. That still didn't reassure me. I kept in constant fear that something horrible would happen. I still couldn't believe that after so many years, my dream would come true. I was diabetic and high blood pressure, was very overweight and was only functioning on one kidney (which is not 100%) and was 35 years old. I was labeled as high-risk from the beginning. Even the dr was waiting for the worst to happen. I am now 37 weeks 3 days and never experienced one single problem. I am scheduled for induction in 11 days and am finally allowing myself to enjoy this and can't wait to meet my little miracle, a little girl :)
Hi, i'm Michelle, 37 years old from Australia. I am pregnant with baby number 3. I have two older children, 12 & 9 from my previous marriage. I now am with a gorgeous new man who has no children, due to the fact he had bad sperm morphology. We tried for 6 months, then looked into IVF. The month we were about to start, my period never came.Nearly a week later, the tests all came back positive that we had done it, conceived all on our own! I was so paranoid in the beginning, thinking that for sure that i would miscarry, due to age, and poor sperm quality. Even had a scare from implantation bleeding. But no, at 30 weeks so far, out little boy Bailey John is doing well. My partner is so excited, in fact we all are, can't wait to his arrival!
Hi Everyone. i don't get on here so often now. But anyway.
Got pregnant easily with my first at 38. She is now 4. Then I tried naturally for a year, followed by 6 IUI cycles, which included 3 miscarriages (1 natural, 1 DNC, 1 medically induced). Finally the 6th attempt I got baby Lauren who is now 10 months old and born when I was 41.
Haven't decided if i'll try again, and am really happy with 2 girls. howver, father wants a boy badly. Guess I'll see what happens. Probably will try IUI again - but maybe 3 cycles max and no way I want to go through 6 cycles again.
Got pregnant easily with my first at 38. She is now 4. Then I tried naturally for a year, followed by 6 IUI cycles, which included 3 miscarriages (1 natural, 1 DNC, 1 medically induced). Finally the 6th attempt I got baby Lauren who is now 10 months old and born when I was 41.
Haven't decided if i'll try again, and am really happy with 2 girls. howver, father wants a boy badly. Guess I'll see what happens. Probably will try IUI again - but maybe 3 cycles max and no way I want to go through 6 cycles again.
I love reading your stories! I'm Trevia. I turned 39 yesterday. I am 29 weeks 5 days with our 3rd child. My hubby and I have been married 18 years. We conceived our oldest 5 months after our wedding. Due to being induced when my body wasn't ready to deliver, she was born by emergency c-section. She is now a healthy 17 year old. Convinced that I wanted no more children, I got on the depo provera shot as soon as I stopped breast feeding. After a year of that, when my daughter was two, I changed my mind. It took us nearly 4 years to conceive again. After my first OB appointment I was diagnosed with cervical cancer. My doctor wanted me to abort and have a hysterectomy. I couldn't. I wouldn't. I prayed continuously, every test said the cancer was worse, but I had profound peace. Our second daughter was delivered by planned c-section. One month later, I went to see the oncologist for pre op, to see how far the cancer had advanced, and what all would need to be removed. To everyone's surprise, there was no cancer. I knew though. I had had peace that no one could explain. Last year on Jan. 23rd, I realized that while my breasts were hurting, I couldn't remember having my period for a couple months. So I took a pregnancy test in the middle of the day. I just knew that the stress of caring for an ailing mother was reason for my missed periods as my hubby was definitely done having kids and we took great measures to see that it didn't happen. BUT, the test immediately showed positive! I was on cloud 9, but just 8 days later I miscarried. And that evening my mother passed away. To say I was devastated is an understatement. But my hubby did some soul searching and praying and decided that he wanted another baby, just one more. So we began trying in May. On August 4th I found out I am pregnant again. We are elated. We are waiting until this baby is born to find out the sex. I started having dreams around 16 weeks that I got pregnant again right away. My hubby frowned at that. But recently he told me he'd had a similar dream, and he's not opposed to more!
I love reading your stories! I'm Trevia. I turned 39 yesterday. I am 29 weeks 5 days with our 3rd child. My hubby and I have been married 18 years. We conceived our oldest 5 months after our wedding. Due to being induced when my body wasn't ready to deliver, she was born by emergency c-section. She is now a healthy 17 year old. Convinced that I wanted no more children, I got on the depo provera shot as soon as I stopped breast feeding. After a year of that, when my daughter was two, I changed my mind. It took us nearly 4 years to conceive again. After my first OB appointment I was diagnosed with cervical cancer. My doctor wanted me to abort and have a hysterectomy. I couldn't. I wouldn't. I prayed continuously, every test said the cancer was worse, but I had profound peace. Our second daughter was delivered by planned c-section. One month later, I went to see the oncologist for pre op, to see how far the cancer had advanced, and what all would need to be removed. To everyone's surprise, there was no cancer. I knew though. I had had peace that no one could explain. Last year on Jan. 23rd, I realized that while my breasts were hurting, I couldn't remember having my period for a couple months. So I took a pregnancy test in the middle of the day. I just knew that the stress of caring for an ailing mother was reason for my missed periods as my hubby was definitely done having kids and we took great measures to see that it didn't happen. BUT, the test immediately showed positive! I was on cloud 9, but just 8 days later I miscarried. And that evening my mother passed away. To say I was devastated is an understatement. But my hubby did some soul searching and praying and decided that he wanted another baby, just one more. So we began trying in May. On August 4th I found out I am pregnant again. We are elated. We are waiting until this baby is born to find out the sex. I started having dreams around 16 weeks that I got pregnant again right away. My hubby frowned at that. But recently he told me he'd had a similar dream, and he's not opposed to more!
Hi there! My name is Kelly I am from South Wales, I'm 37 years old and 6 weeks pregnant with my first. If all goes okay then I'll be 38 when baby is born! Being older does make me worry more, but I haven't really been ready before! I'm a bit nervous & at this stage it feels really strange because there isn't anything I can do till I get to see the midwife at 8 weeks. I'm constantly thinking am I really pregnant or have I tricked myself!!
You have an amazing story. Its so hard to lose a parent especially while having baby troubles. My father died when my twins were 10 days old. Because of his health and them being in NICU alittle over an hour away he never got to see them before he passed. Im so happy you and hubby have such a strong faith and were able to move on to this point. Congradulations
Wow you really are blessed. I never had a problem getting pregnant and when I first got married 20 years ago my husband and I joked about having a lot of children, enough for a baseball team. Well I didn't really think it would happen, but I'm on #10 so I guess it wasn't much of a joke. Congratulations to you. I'm so happy for you.
Congrats on your pregnancy.
I know how hard it is to lose a parent when you are going thru a loss. 2 weeks before I lost the last baby my dad died. I knew that things were not looking good with baby before he died, but we never told him that. He always asked how the baby was doing and we would say good. We didn't want to upset him, even though we were pretty sure it was a blighted ovum. Atleast my husband and I can take comfort in knowing that my dad is in heaven looking after our three angel babies.
I know how hard it is to lose a parent when you are going thru a loss. 2 weeks before I lost the last baby my dad died. I knew that things were not looking good with baby before he died, but we never told him that. He always asked how the baby was doing and we would say good. We didn't want to upset him, even though we were pretty sure it was a blighted ovum. Atleast my husband and I can take comfort in knowing that my dad is in heaven looking after our three angel babies.
Thank you so much. Even though I was told that it would never happen, something inside of me would never accept that. I just knew that there was no way that God would not allow me to have the one thing that I always wanted. My husband would joke, too, that he wanted many kids. I always wanted 6. The way things have turned out, I think that this will be my one and only miracle but that is fine with me. Maybe God will have different plans for us and that would be just fine with me, too, but I won't be pressing my luck. To finally have the opportunity to be a mother is a blessing in itself. My only regret is that my mother isn't here to finally see this. She was my biggest advocate and wanted for me to finally have my miracle. She passed away suddenly 3 years ago.
She was absolutely fine on a Saturday. Sunday afternoon she woke up from a nap and told me that she felt like she was getting the flu. I took her home (she spent every weekend with me). She took some meds and the next morning (Monday) she called to say that she was feeling worse and was going to the dr. She never made it. My uncle went to see her and saw how bad she looked so he took her to the ER. She coded in the ER and never woke up again. I made the decision to take her off of life support (she kept crashing no matter how many times they brought her back to life). It turns out that she had a kidney infection that she didn't know about and had spread into her blood stream (septsis) and it shut down all of her organs). She died as I held her hand begging her not to leave. She was only 53.
Oh how sad! I don't know how you could go through that. It must have been really hard. My mom just turned 61 this month. We live far away but we talk on the phone and we've visited each other. I don't know what I would do if she died. My dad is 66 and I don't want to lose him either. Sorry to hear about your loss.
It has been extremely difficult, I'm not going to lie. I am still grieving for her and now that I'm pregnant, it's a little harder. She was my best friend and we talked on the phone at least 3 times a day every day, plus she spent every weekend with me and is the one that took care of me and nursed me to help after each surgery that I had. We are giving our baby her name as a middle name and I am hoping that my mother's spirit will be in her :)
Thank you so much everyone for sharing your stories. I haven't been able to read them all yet, but I will. A community like this is so much more supportive when we know who each other is. I very much look forward to getting to know all of you better!
hi. i am tiffanie. i am not yet 35. actually i am only 26. my husband and i have been together for 9 years. we really wanted to start a family every since we were married almost five years ago. unfortunately that hasn't happened. my doctor told me it would be difficult...but not impossible. but still nothing. my sister has 2 beautiful children whom i am very close to and another nephew on my husbands side who just turned one yesterday. i was happy for them when they found out they were pregnant but it hurt a lot too because it wasn't me. my aunt and uncle came to us and offered to have a baby for us. we all talked about it and we thought hard but ultimately decided we would love to do this and finally become parents. happy to say she is 7 Weeks tomorrow and we are going to be parents in september. i have to say i have the best aunt and uncle in the world and feel truly blessed to have them in my life. they are giving us the best gift anyone could ever ask for.
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