OT Why am I so sad?

[Linzola1]

I first off want to say I am very fourtionate that I got pregnant agian after my miscarriage at a very fast rate, but why am I so upset?  With my first pregnancy my due date would have been today. My best friend who also happens to be my neighbor is at any second going to be having her little boy Charles. Her water broke this morning and the last I heard she is 10 cm. I am happy for her but why is it so hard? My husband does not understand why I am so upset. He keeps telling me we are so lucky that we were able to get pregnant soooo fast and not have any problems. Dont get me wrong I am very fortionate but is it normal for me to be so depressed? Sorry I just needed to vent

[LoandTansMom24]

Its fine to be upset. My 1st son passed away about 3 hrs after birth due to a heart defect. Anyway, 2 years later to the day, my best friend gave birth to her daughter & it was very hard for me. & I already had had another baby. He was about 7 mths old @ the time. I was actually pissed off @ my friend b/c I was told she had talked to her doc about bein induced on that day b/c she was overdue anyway & she thought I would be happy about it....but I wasn't happy @ all. We eventually talked & found out that she didn't ASK to be induced that day. But it did kinda damage our friendship. Or maybe it was jus a coincidence that we started to drift apart. ~N e way~ Stay strong. You've got a lil one onboard that you've gotta think about!

[Linzola1]

OMG I am so sorry about your 3 losses. Congratz on your current pregnancy and I will most def. be praying for you and your family ( and your little bean)


Lindsey

[Gem22882]

Hi Linzola1
I have had three still births and currently pregnant (fingers and cervixs crossed) Ihad my last still birth (my son) on 11/11/07 then my cousin had her son on the 28/11/07 i was extremley upset she had a healthy baby boy and i didnt but i went and seen her in hospital (happened to be the same room and same bed that i was in when i lost Sam) It was so hard and difficult but now im glad i did! Feel what you need to feel. Do what you need to, to get by. My prayers are with you, and good luck with your pregnancy now.
Gem

[Linzola1]

Thank you so much for all of you kind words and support. I went to see her at the hospital and I am feeling a little better. It is very hard but I am sure everything is going to be okay. I dont know what I would do with out you wonderful ladies. Thanks agian

[agamommy]

Lindsey my Girl,

I am so sorry you are Sad.... I hope you feel better real soon.... although I have never experienced what you have..... I couldn't imagen what you are going thru.... Just hang in there and soon you will be holding your beautiful son. Julian, in your arms.... Giving him lots of kisses and zerburts....

Hugz,
Pamela

[JoyRenee]

Linzola, the baby you're carrying now was never meant to REPLACE the one you lost. You're still grieving the loss of your other pregnancy and that's OKAY! Not to mention you're more prone to emotional upset because of all of those wonderful pregnancy hormones.

Allow yourself to feel the emotions. The best thing to do when you feel like this is WRITE. Write it down in a journal, or write some poems, just vent here---whatever! That helps you get it OUT while still mulling it over and trying to figure it out.

*HUGS*

[penelope29]

honey you are not alone. I was  pretty emotional on my due date as well. But i got tons of support here. the ladies on this forum, have been in your shoes and are here to help. No one can understand what you are going through unless they have  been there. What helped me through mine also was that i know i will see my babies again in heaven one day.  God is so loving that is why you are having another one. Try to cheer up for your baby you do have ,  they get down as well.. Hang in there it does get better.

[waitn838]

im so sorry about your anniversary today from your loss...i know ill be emotional on mine too

it might be hard for you emotionally to deal with other people having babies until you actually have yours...its just something emotional....i am going through it with my bf's SIL...she is mad at me because i havent gone to see her or her new baby...but it still makes me sad even though im happy for her

also remember being pregnant there is hormones and they tend to spike emotions sometimes

i hope the day gets better for you