37 weeks and feel like I should break-up with my baby's father

[maryahmedina]

I'm getting closer and closer to having my first baby and I couldn't be more excited and nervous! But my bf seems to be enjoying more and more time away from me, and says he's visiting his family. He comes home late, tonight he got here at 1:00 a.m. and said he fell asleep. About 2 weeks ago, I got a text from a lady he was texting telling her how sexy she is and he thinks of her all the time.  I feel likethe last thing iI should be worrying about is where he is or who is talking to. I wish he wanted to be home to help take care of me during these last few weeks, but I can do it alone if that means less stress on my babyand me. Does anyone have any thoughts or experience about breaking up while pregnant?

[Soncerae2007]

Congratulations on your baby first of all!! Girl this is the SAME thing that happened to me a couple of months ago. I was with my ex for 3 years and I found out he had been cheating on me for a while. Not only that, the other girl was supposed to be pregnant as well.  I have no idea why men act like this and I do agree it is easier to care for your child than a man! If you decide to leave him, watch how he gets concerned about you and the baby all of and sudden. My ex is now texting me a lot and asking about the baby.  I do not reply, I make him sweat and it works. If you feel you want to leave then do so, you may be hurt but it's not worth being disrespected.  Good luck girl!!

[Hunnybooboo24]

Love the way your thinking you will be just fine

[1042293610575669942_362_5]

Your baby is almost due so I wouldn't bother stressing about him. Once the baby is born you will get your body(and your life) back. I'm due in March but I don't allow myself to over think things BC I know he'll fall in line after the baby, besides I'm jus as "In Demand" as my child's father so if we chose to go our seperate ways, I wouldn't be lonely....life dies does not end when you have a baby....trust me, its just the beginning (2nd time mom)

[GiGi_6]

I am currently 26 weeks pregnant with my first it's a boy! I left my bf almost a month ago. Its hard ! Had to move back in with parents leaving everything I had worked so hard for behind. But I cam feel happy now. We argued and I would cry I was always taking care of everything and we lost being a team, I had lost my respect and trust for him before knowing I was pregnant, not sure what will happen between us or for baby but I know myself I'm strong . just be strong ! The future is untold, happiness is a now thing , especially if he's going to be a father he needs to get his priorities straightened out

[Queeny01]

Well honey. congratulations on the little boy. boys are so much fun but they whine a lot..I have a 8 year old son and one on the way (which is a girl 4 1/2 months) It seem like you already have you choice which is a good one by the way.My cousin in raising her kids by herself (well just one).So it will be a lil hard but you most definitely can do it!Your boyfriend is a asswhole,for him not to know what he as at home. well love good luck..I hope I have helped.

[ThirdTimeACharm]

My case is upside down, I had broken up with him but stupidly I was still sleeping with him. I found out I was pregnant and told him.... The first few months he made it hell for me by saying he is not sure if he is the father or not and initially I refuse to give him a DNA test when the baby is born out of anger and pride but later after thinking much and much advice from friends/family I changed my mind. So we have been sleeping together and trying to make things work but inside me I think I am doing it because of the unborn child since the things I broke up with him is still an issue. I have also made up my mind that I will not entertain him any longer when the baby comes. We as woman have to somehow create our own peace and if you can't find that in your partner of present you might as well find it alone.

[chloegc1023]

U have guts for wanting to break up with ur bf.  Most women would want to cling to their man more cuz they think that they will need the father.  I wholeheartedly disagree and I commend u for being strong during this epic change in ur life.  U don't need him.  U already said u can do it alone and that's all u need.  The less drama in ur life the easier it will be for u and baby, not to mention ull be more focused on what's important and by the time another man comes into ur life, ull know not to take any bs.  Good for u!!  Go for it, move with ur life, ull be so glad that u did!!  

[maryahmedina]

Sabrina...wow that is horrible what happened to you and I'm so sorry you had to go thru that in your first pregnancy ); I'm glad you found a better man now so I guess there is hope out there even after you have a baby! It's hard to tell who is gonna be good tho because it always seems like their true colors come out once its too late...did you see any signs that helped you know your new man was gonna turn out better than your ex?

[sabrinaallen]

I went through something simular with my sons father. We were togerher 3 years before  suprise found we were pregnant. Shortly after i opened what i thought was my att bill but it turned out it was his. Imagin my suprise wgen i saw the same number over and over them talking for hours while he was at work. So i wrote down the number and got the courage to call it and get her side of the story. Which was that she didnt even know he had a gf a prevnant one none the less. So we both confronted him. I called i quits but was dumb enoigh to let him back on my house thinking all he wanted to do was talk. Long story short i endes up in emergency  room and he caught a battery charge since we were no longer living together it wasnt considered  domestic violence. I now have an amazing man in me and my sons life and we are expecting our second baby in 13 days and hes a wondeful father. Id confront your guy maybe call that chick and get her side and go from there.

[maryahmedina]

Squeakyco that's good that you chose to leave him rather than have stress on your baby. I need to do the same!
Chocoyo thanks and yeah I know it must be hard to be a single mother, but I know I'll find a way to do it for my baby. Anything would be better than fighting with someone who just doesn't care and putting my baby's health at risk by stressing me out during a time that should be so happy. This is the only time I will ever have a first pregnancy and I didn't picture it like this );

[chocoyo]

Congrats on ur first baby this should be a happy moment for the both of u guys but it seems to me that maybe ur bf is not really ready to settle down if he telling other ladies that there sexy and he thinking of them then u know he doing something and u don't need to be stressing and wondering all the time if he out there with someone else just tell him straight up if he wants to be with u and in ur baby life and if not then its ok there's a lot of single mother that do it on there own its hard but u could do it I was a single mother with 4 kids until I found a good manand now he my husband but it is ur choice I just wish u the best of luck to u and ur baby may God bless you always.

[squeakyco20032003]

I totally understand how u feel. Im 20 weeks but i have been seperated from my bf for 2 months. I dont have time to be arguing while im pregnant its to much stress and i want a healthy baby.

[maryahmedina]

I'm sorry you're going thru the same thing Ashanti, but it's good to know I'm not the only one...I don't know why men have to be so inconsiderate, especially when they're the ones who wanted to start a family! Maybe they just don't realize how our lives HAVE to change, and they think they can still do the same things as before. Either way, it's wrong to be talking to other girls whether your lady is pregnant or not! We have a new little life that depends on us, so as long as we're good mothers to our babies then that's all they'll need!
Thanks joamb, you're right about giving him one more chance and only one. This isn't the first time it has happened, so I think I'm finally ready to let him go so I can focus on my baby and not his immature behavior!

[Ashanti23]

I'm in the same boat my baby dad runs in and out...hasn't asked me how I'm feeling or anything and I caught him texting 2 females the other night....and its not the first time I feel with this new year coming up I don't wanna continue it with the same BS I went through with this year....Goodluck make the right choice for you and your baby boy. CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

[joamb]

I agree you need to tell him the truth like calmly and brutally honestly. Say his behavior needs to change if he wants to be with you and he needs to man up and be there for you and your child as a family or he needs to leave as the added stress with a newborn will be very difficult. If he showed interest in changing his ways I would give him a second chance but he only should get one second chance and not more.

[maryahmedina]

Thank you! And I agree, a baby will probably be A LOT easier to take care than a man! My baby boy is gonna be the only boy in my life and I couldn't be happier...just as long as he's healthy and safe with me that should be my only worry =)

[sallydatgirl]

Congrats on ur baby! It looks like uv all figured everything out and ur right, d last thing u want to do is worry about ur bf. It's easier to take care of a baby than a nasty man. So have courage and good luck girl!