Am i being an overly sensitive pregnant person???

[MBMarl]

My best friend is getting married very soon. The engagement happened around when I found out I was pregnant and I will be 32 wks when it happens. We have been friends for 17 yrs ... since the 7th grade and have gone through a lot together. She was my maid of honor when I got married 3 years ago. I am not her only best friend.. she has another girl she has known a few years longer than me and her sister and her are very close so I was hardly expecting to be her maid of honor.... but I was expecting to at least be in her wedding. She did not ask me to be a bridesmaid which hurt me terribly. She said it is b/c her husband to be only has 2 guys on his side . When we talked about it I tried be be as polite and grown up as possible about it and told her it hurts my feelings but I guess its a blessing in disguise since I will be so pregnant and with the baby coming I should be saving $ and not buying bridesmaid dresses. She said she still wanted me to be very involved with everything though. So now its getting g close and she just had her bridal shower and I just got an invite and went and it was kinda weird feeling for some reason but I just acted cool and happy for her. Meanwhile I  am a ftm to a 2yr old and am always home and eager to help out and have let her know this several times and since our adult lives have happened it's real hard to actually hang out so I try to send her a text of my kid and my pregnant self and ask her how she is and what not. Just stuff to keep her involved with my life and let her know I am here for her. So here is what else is bothering me... she doesn't even acknowledge my texts for more then a day.... sometimes 2or not at all. It really has been making me feel like she thinks I am a brother rather than a friend and I am thinking she would rather not even know whats going on in my life. Not that anything is but this pregnacy and her wedding. Tonight is her bachlorette party where its a two part thing with a dinner 1st and then everyone is going to a bar. Of course I am going to suck up my feelings and go to the dinner but at 28 wks pregnant I am not going to a bar to be looked at and judged.. not to mention completly uncomfortable. So I think o should keep my mouth shut for now about how unincluded I am feeling about all these plans and things that are happening until after she gets married. I can't believe she is just treating me in the same manner as someone she may have invited from her work... we have been friends for so long... I just don't get it. I mean my sister is a professional cake decorator and doing her came for free and all  my sisters and dad are all coming yo this cause we are spossed to be like family. She is just coming of as insensitive and completely selfish for not realizing what a sting all this is for me. So should I even ever mention it to her... or just let myself fade away after the wedding?  Am I crazy or is this just rude? Its very hard on me and I feel like I am loosing a family member... its hard to explain. Sorry this is long... any thoughts?

[ladyfaceftw]

You are sounding irrational so I'm going to chalk it up to hormones. You're coming off as very selfish. Weddings are stressful and you're pregnant. Give her some space and worry about your family.

[Mandatace]

Also there could be the fact that she might feel like you are busy with your pregnancy and little one. Sounds to me like hormones and a lack of communication. She has a lot going on and so do you. Don't make any long term permanent decisions until after baby and wedding. As you could make a wrong one for wrong reasons, and its hard to take back what's already out there.

[bookworm4992]

I just recently got married and I'm not gonna lie people were placed on the back burner. One of My sister was supposed to be in the wedding but ended up getting pregnant and was kind enough to step down. I can't tell u how hard I was for me to plan my wedding, so much time, money, decisions, appts, things going wrong, stress! This is her time, her day, her wedding.  When its all done I'm sure things will get back to normal between you two, maybe even better cuz she will be coming to u for baby making advice! Let her have this time,  while u focus on staying healthy, n planning for the little one.

[speck2677]

one of my friends and I were getting married around the same time, and I thought the same thing that we were just growing apart. but for us it was the wedding, getting married was stressful we didn't know that we were acting this way until after the wedding. when everything slowed down we went back to a new normal.  

[MBMarl]

Thank you baking baby 2!

[Bakingbaby2]

Maybe its nothing other than getting carried away with the planning or having strict numbers,maybe she doesn't realise how upset you are over it but I can completely understand why you are feeling the way you are.

[MBMarl]

I have def taken into consideration her not wanting to bother me cause I am pregnant and am ok (but hurt) about not being in the wedding. Its her treating me like I don't matter at all that is bothering so much now. I am not trying to bring this up to her before her wedding and sabotage any of her happiness... after all she means the world to me. I don't feel like my feeling are completely unjustified and I am not trying to hurt her. Like I said I am not gonna stress her with this before the wedding and maybe even ever. Ever since o was pregnant with my 1st baby her and I have been on different wave lengths... I am over not having ally "party" friends around and all the changes life has for friends and your new life as mommy... being friends for 17 years I thought things were different with us and we would make it. But maybe not

[Bakingbaby2]

I would be feeling left out too if it was me. If my best friend n maid of honour didnt even ask me to be more involved at her wedding I'd be wondering why.

[jaceandkhimommy]

Maybe she is just not trying to bother you because you are pregnant.... did you think of that. And her husband only having two guys and she only picked two also it was nothing against you I dont think at all. I understand where you are coming from but I think its baby hormones and her being all caught up in her wedding. Just enjoy and ve bothered when you both feel like being bothered. Back up amd let her come to you. I promise it all will work out.

[danauyanik26]

It's her wedding her day and her choice have u thought maybe she felt with u beinv soo heavy pregnant may have been too much pressure for u to go through