Baby Gender (Rant)

[CountryMomToBe]

Why is everyone sooo obsessed with finding out baby's gender?  Seriously, I read posts on here about people that are DEPRESSED bc they are having a boy or a girl.  I just think it is ridiculous that people can't be grateful for the fact that they are having a baby! It took my husband and I two years to get pregnant and I couldn't be more excited to just BE pregnant.  I didn't even want to know the gender  because of all the people around us (family members mostly) making a big stink about it saying "it better be a boy" or "i had a nightmare, you had a girl!" I feel like it is a terribly selfish thing to worry about.  

As far as clothing and accessories, I think it's crazy that people want or say they need so many material things for their babies... Pink frilly this for her or blue whales or whatever for him...

Anyway.  I just wish people could be more appreciative of the gift they are given in utero.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to know gender in some cases, it just seems like SOME people put too much importance in it.  It's ridiculous.

[Jacid12]

It's fun to know the sex of the baby for some people it makes picturing their baby that more real..Just because some people want to know the gender doesn't mean that they don't consider their baby a gift. I want to know my gender and I'm very excited to know doesn't mean ill care for my child any less if its a certain sex. I do think its ridiculous though when people get depressed bc its not what they wanted.. You should be thankful you were able to have a child.. A lot of women can't!

[baby_love2014]

I wanted to know the gender,  so I didn't have to call my baby "it". Being able to call her by her name throughout my pregnancy was important for me. I also felt if I knew the gender, I could be more prepared.  I do agree though,  that some women take it too far. Being depressed for weeks because the baby isnt "what you wanted" is ridiculous to me. Every pregnancy is a blessing and to cry over the gender in a negative way just seems so selfish and stupid. I get the initial shock of finding out the gender, but to keep wishing it was the opposite, is just wrong.  

[Musto5]

I am excited to find out! But i will be happy either way. Its not the people who want to find out But the ones who are mad about what their baby is. Thats just plain stupid, you got pregnant knowing there was a 50/50 chance for either. Everyone should just feel blessed to be able to carry a baby!:)

[naru89]

Honestly my husband and i want to find out for fun we would be happy either way :)

[singermomtobe]

I just want to be prepared for my baby. I didn't care too much which gender, just needed to know how  to decorate.

[thepenguinsrock]

I think it's fine if your finding out just because you want to know if it's a boy or a girl. I love that my babies not an 'it' anymore. I hate having family say oh you better have a boy/girl if me and hubby don't care as long as babies healthy why should anyone else. I hate feeling bad for the poor babies that just happen to be the wrong gender :( :(

[KristiGG]

Ya I dont think there is anything wrong with wanting to be suprised or wanting to know.  For me this time i really didnt care to find out but my husband was having a hard time connecting bc he had to call baby it.  And we could decide on names.  We waited an extra 6 weeks from our ultrasound sound to find out and I loved it that way.  Also I like my baby having gender appropriate clothes bc no matter what you baby is ppl will call it the other gender and it gets annoying after a while...plus its fun to buy little dresses or polo shirts to make a boy look like daddy.  I dont think any time I found out I jumped for joy.  Not bc I was upset but bc I just really didnt care the gender.  I said I didnt care but always worried subconsciously I would but no.  I was smiling ear to ear but it was just knowing I could now refer to baby by a name.  It is important for me to have a name beforehand...bc if heaven forbid something went wrong during birth I would want the angel to have a name and I would feel I would be too depressed to give that baby the joyfully picked name it deserved at the time.  Sorry to be a downer I am very paranoid and sometimes get scared with all my blessings.  Lastly when I have csections I am so drugged up I can barely stay awake so I dont know how special finding the gender would be or if I would even understand at the time.  I listen for that cry and get that quick glimpse and then relax.  Dont know if I would have energy for much more excitement.

[Heather4800]

When people ask if I want a boy or a girl I just say I want a healthy baby!

[SaSa28]

Well here in Ab canada. There is a rule with the tecs. They are not to give out the sex for these exact reasions. So dont feel too bad. Many woman out there are cluless u til they have their baby

[Brittany12385]

None of these ladies need to even explain why they want to know the gender bc its their life, so let them live it they way they would like, it's none of your concern. Yes it's irrational to get depressed over a gender you didn't want, but then again its not your life. Be happy with what you have and mind your business.

[brit333]

I wanted another girl because I already have one and there are tons of boys in my family. I wanted my daughter to have another girl in the family to play with. I knew I was having a boy before finding out and ya I was a little sad but it's growing on my now and I will have fun with a bit just as much my little girl.

[Amy1830]

Sometimes people have good reasons for wanting a certain gender. I mean its a matter of opinion I guess if you think it's a good reason or not. Personally I really do want a girl because I already have a 9 yr old boy from a previous relationship who's biological father isn't in his life. And now I am engaged and pregnant and even though my son and fiancé are very close I'm nervous that my son would grow up feeling jealous if I had a boy because that boy would be my fiance's biological son. I don't think my fiancé would intentionally treat them different but I think there would still be differences. Therefore that's why I would like a daughter. But if it turns out I'm having a boy I'm not going to be depressed at all.

[aprilj93]

Everyone has their own reasons and its wrong to judge them for it. I was depressed with my first because it was a girl and I thought so badly that my hubbs would be disappointed so I seriously cried, everyone has their own stuff to deal with. My husband was thrilled to have a girl! And come to find out we are expecting another girl, I was a bit sad that I'll never have a boy cause not everyone has the privilege to have more then one or two kids. But I'm happy again and cant wait for her to be here.

[finallyprego]

For me and my husband we have been trying for so long all we wanted was a healthy baby but we wanted to know what we were having.  After 10 years of trying and infertility treatments we are finally pregnant with a baby girl.

[Nicx13]

I'm from Edmonton Alberta and I was able to find out from the tech??? I really didn't care either way just happy to be having a healthy baby

[aa88]

Loosen up lady! Its fun to know the gender, for the planning decorating baby shower..

[SaSa28]

Nicx you were lucky. Im in Calgary. In my last pregnancy I attended 3 diffrent clunics. They all told me the same thing  that was 8+ months ago.

[14yearslater]

I agree with baby_love2014. It took me and my husband 5 years to get pregnant after our first one was an ectopic pregnancy.  I am very thankful to so far have a healthy pregnant not to mention I have diabetes high blood pressure and high cholesterol.  I am a high risk pregnancy.  To know what I am having just helps me feel 1 more prepared to purchase and decorated for my bundle of joy and 2 to help me realize how good god is and how blessed I am. No one around me including coworkers were saying anything negative everyone is happy and hoping for a girl which at 16 weeks I found out it's a girl. To each their own I think the people around you aren't that positive and the people you see having issues with what they were blessed with again has issues.

[Three_n_1onTheWay]

I wanted a boy, because my boyfriend has girls, and I wanted to be able to give him a boy. We are having a girl. Even did the Chinese birth calendar, it said the baby would be a boy. That's the only time it was wrong. This will be my fourth baby, and my last. I have two boys and a girl, now, two girls. I was so psyched to be pregnant again. It took a couple days to get used to calling her "her", because we both wanted a boy. But, a baby is a blessing, no matter what sex it is.

[wishes2891]

I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to know gender. We didn't find out with our first and it wasn't any more exciting in my opinion. It was kind of boring actually bc everything we bought had to be gender neutral and that took some of the fun out of shopping. With the next three we found out gender and it felt so much more special. We were able to have fun shopping and call the baby by it's name instead of just referring to it as "the baby" all the time so it felt more real and part of the family sooner. With the first three I reallydidn't care what the gender was but this last one we did hope for a boy. Partly to keep the numbers even, we already have two girls and one boy, and partly bc our boy was by far the easiest baby. So I was a little disappointed for a few days. Not depressed but a little disappointed. I don't have any trouble getting pregnant so I don't think it's fair to think I'm an awful person for hoping for a certain gender just bc someone else does have trouble. I don't know how you feel just like you don't know how I feel. We can only feel what our experiences lead us to feel.

[youngnewmommy]

We have also tried for 2 years and I don't care what I'm having just happy it finally happened. I do want to know the gender cuz this is his familys 1st grandbaby. They want buy stuff. I respect that..

[junebaby25]

Almost every couple I know that didn't want to know and got all neutral gender gifts never used them. They all went re-shopping after the baby based on the sex. I wanted to find out so me and my family can all prepare

[worried_mommy213]

Everyone is getting way to upset at someone expressing their personal opinion. She never said "I do t understand why people even care to know the gender" and she never asked anyone to explain themselves. All she said was that it upsety her to know that there are people out there DEPRESSED, not disappointed, not just hoping. But DEPRESSED about what they are having, and from her point of view (as a women who strict with getting pregnant) it makes her both sad and mad that people even make those kinds of comments. I completely understand, some some are not as luck to convince quickly. It takes years if they are even lucky to conceive at all. I went through a period where I almost hated being around pregnant women cause I say it all as a blessing and they only complained about the negative stuff. Its hard, but everyone is different..

[MamaMacMurtry]

My husband & I want to fond out the gender of our baby so we can start using his or her name as soon as baby is able to hear us talk to him or her in utero. We've already chosen our baby's name whether its a boy or girl, and I have read studies that have found that babies who are referred to by name in utero generally recognize and respond to their name earlier once they are born-plus....it will be nice to be able to only write one gender pronoun-lol.