Baby shower

[joamb]

So, I wasn't going to have a baby shower and my cousins insisted on throwing one for me two weeks after baby is born. They say it's better to have it after so everyone can see the baby. I'm a first time mom and I'm very A type personality. So I told them what I was thinking and gave them some ideas. So recently they have sent me a list of tasks I'm in charge of for the shower with their ideas for what I should do.... so I'm just wondering how much everyone did for their shower and how much others did?

[joamb]

I'm glad you all agree, as I was starting to feel a bit crazy like I was in the wrong. My husband is totally on my side and hates to see me stressing. I just wonder how I can get my point across to them

[organicmama]

I feel like they are being rude by doing things in a way you disagree with :( (coed with kids, not the foods you would prefer, etc.) Sorry you have to deal with that.

[organicmama]

Haha if you say no then you say no, they can't argue with you. You really shouldn't have to take care of any part of the shower unless you are actually asking them if you can help out. Otherwise you are throwing your own shower, its not them hosting at all. If you are having a coed then you need food for men and women. They should know that. Honestly I agree with you. You are just about to have the baby. You don't need to be worrying about coordinating this right now. I'd tell hem to do it themselves or cancel because you really can't deal with this right now, you are too busy and focused on baby and yourself. (In a nice way.)

[joamb]

Yes, it is starting to stress me out. I'm 9 months pregnant, first time mom and going to have a c section Feb. 26th due to medical reasons. They are super super healthy people which is great but they are planning are couples shower with men and kids and lots of the children are unvaccinated. My husband wants food like wings and fajita wraps.... where as I know these ladies will just have salads and veggies..... they just told me are re couple days ago I have to get invitations, decorations,  and birth announcements and party favors for guests. Then I'll have to buy the things my hubby enjoys for food otherwise he will starve. I mean I have planned showers for both of them and we delegated tasks and all they literally had to do was show up. They were not involved at all...... so I told them I felt too stressed and wanted to cancel and they say said no...... so now I'm not really sure what to do.

[organicmama]

Hmmm. I think this depends in how involved you want to be. At first I had several people who were trying to throw me 2 parties and they kept trying to get me involved until it was stressing me out. Finally one person took over the whole shebang and said I should not be involved at all, which is how I prefer it. She does sometimes ask me a preference of something or other. Of course I made the guest list. I've answered questions related to games that will occur. That's it. Because I trust her I am comfortable with her handling it all. With the original people involved, there were a few I didn't trust at all so I would have had to be more involves in those cases. (I.e. they were not inviting anyone they didn't like even if they were my family and friends. They were going to make guests pay for their own refreshments and not offer any free food or drink, they wanted to have the shower at dinner time ... Blunders.)