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Lazy husband :-(
my husband is wonderful he provides for me and takes care of all my needs while expecting our first born. I haven't been working since I found out since I am a higher risk and my job was very stressful and required hard labor. He has his own company and about 4 months ago he decided to "hire" me as an employee so it saves on taxes as I would be a write off, and it still acts as income for him because I pay the cable, electric phone and water bills with what he pays me And he takes care of the rest mortgage condo fees, groceries, fuel and then whatever his credit cards are. I never have money to spend on myself. I also do all the house work laundry and all the cooking. He never offers to help, all he does is the cat litter because I cannot it's not good for the baby. Is there anyone else who has this similar issue ? Is this fair to me? I'm 36 weeks this wed and it's getting really hard to do anything but if I don't do it no one else will :-( help need advice.
Oh I feel for you that's really tough... I'm not sure what to do about the money thing, tell him you want since extra spending money, that you need it for last min things you need. Tell him u need some much deserved shopping therapy lol! Add for the house work, why don't you ask him if you can hire a cleaning service for the rest of your pregnancy, and for a lithe while after baby had arrived? I know since places with give you a great deal of you go weekly or biweekly! Even if you have them come in and do the bare minimum like wiping down surfaces in kitchen, clean the shower and toilet and do the floors vacuum /sweep / mop, it will help out sooooo much! Then it's just basic easy stuff left. I used to work for a cleaning service and we did that sort of stuff for pretty cheap!
Men don't understand what we feel. Even when they try. Men are big babies and can seem self centered at times. They rarely mean to be that way. Just explain it to him or have your doc give paper work on the risk of women over exertion while pregnant. Talk to him without whining or being too aggressive. If he loves you and baby, which I'm sure he does, he'll try harder.
Omg did I just write this?? Lol its exactly my situation..and I have two weeks left and exhausted
Ugh yes I think he needs to put me on the account and I need my own card. What he pays me is clearly not enough to rely on in case of emergencies for the baby or myself. I think I'll have to talk to him. I just hope he listens.
I know your feeling, specially on the help of the house chores, that is the only part he does not help at all but for all the other things like mortgage payment, bills, grocery and son's needs he is the one that pays, or better to say, I have a debit card that I use all the time to get what I need, he never says anything when I spend a lot and he is the only one working, so I have to say in part I'm very lucky to be able to be a stay at home mom and still have the freedom to get or buy what I want or we need. Also I have to say that bank account has both of us on it, so I can withdraw money at any time.
Do you share the bank account too? If you so, tell him you need to get things for your baby and you are going to withdraw money from the account
Do you share the bank account too? If you so, tell him you need to get things for your baby and you are going to withdraw money from the account
Money/work should all be besides the point. U r 36 weeks preg... he should be helping as much as possible and making sure ur needs are met. It's Gr8 he works etc... but don't most decent men!? He needs to help u when u need it. Being preg makes u hormonal which us why ur feeling like this. I'm not doubting at all that he's lovely! I'm sure he is..But we all need our husbands help and he needs to remember that. Also about the money... that needs to be addressed asap! U don't want to be like that when ur at home with baby 24 7. U need to be out and unfortunately money is needed for most things. I'm sure if u speak to him, it'll all be sorted b4 u know it :) congrats on the baby!!
I have just posted on this exact same thing. I'm just in my first trimester but my husband could care less. Hasn't shown any emotions or made me feel special at all. Nothing nice. I buy myself flowers :( It's so upsetting and depressing.
And don't get me wrong I am grateful for everything he does. I just think I need a little help especially now since I am becoming more limited.
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