Big gap between pregnancys nervous

[mandablaire25]

Hello. So my husband and i are having our 3rd baby.  We had 2 boys close together and after 5 years we decided we really wanted one more. By the time this baby comes our oldesr boy will be 8 and youngest 6. Im worried how they will take the news as its only been us 4 for so long. Can any one give me advice if they have been in the same situation ?

[Bethyboop]

I am in the same predicament as you I am due in 2 weeks and have a 7year old who is 8 in 2 weeks and a 6 year old. My 8 year old has changed his attitude towards me and I try and get him to feel his sister move but he's not interested, but my 6 year old is amazing and so excited so I suppose it depends on the child and I'm sure they will both feel the same way towards her when their little sister is born and feel some love towards her.

[Halmelia]

This time around was an unplanned pregancy . I actually conceived a month after my tubal ligation this last May so another baby was not planned ! Well to my surprise in August I found out I was expecting & boy was that the shock of my life . I have a two boys a 13 yr old and a 10 yr old . All I could think about was the age gap and how they would take the news . My oldest is at that age were nothing is cool or exciting ( teenagers :( ) and my 10 yr old was suprisely excited he assured me that he was ok for someone else to take the baby role and he was glad to finally be the big brother or shall I say ( someone for him to boss around ) lol . To my surprise as time has gone by both my boys are showing more interest and even helping out with getting baby's stuff up and put together . I actually think having a new baby in the house with my boys is a good experience for them.

[prettymama06]

We are on our 3rd...this time a boy. We had ours spread farther a part because I find it easier to take care of the baby when the other is a little older. Our first 2 (both girls) are 4 yrs a part to the day. Now our 2nd and our 3rd will b 5 1/2 yrs a part. She better understands what's happening and we can include them more in the process.

[Charis30]

My oldest is about to be 11 in April and my youngest will be 7 in March. They are both excited but one wants a girl and the other a boy...Lol

[littlepeanut_14]

Just try to include/involve the older ones in the care of the baby. I am the second oldest of four and the youngest, my little brother and I are 11 years apart. We always got along. Actually, all four of us did for the most part. I helped take care of my two younger siblings and the one next to me-we're 4 1/2 years apart. I think it's all in how much you engrave family into their minds as they grow. He and my younger sister being about 7-8 years apart had their differences but they get along great now. I remember I'd take my little brother out or my sister would. We'd take him to the movies or the beach (we grew up in Hawaii) or take him to his friends' house or have him invite his best friends over n take them where they wanted to go.

[mandablaire25]

I feel the same feel like im starting again. I have no baby items as i thought we were done. Both my kids are at school. Im back working full time. Its def going to be a change but a welcomed one.

[mandablaire25]

Its nice to have others in the same situation . We had thought we were finished having kids. But last year it changed and we reconsidered it all. And its only early days so we have a few weeks before we will tell them. My oldest loves his baby neice but my youngest gets quite jelous so we will have to qork on that with him lol

[norahbee3]

My daughters were 8 and 5 when we told them we were having another..my oldest was actually kind of ticked and didnt believe us but when he was born..that is HER baby now :) we are also due in May and she is doing better with this one i think because they are so close together..they will come around..give it time of they dont at first

[mommyoftwo16_12]

I waited a long time. My oldest is ,16 and youngest is 12. It's like I'm starting all over

[amarie0082]

My son was 10, and an only child.  He was excited when I told him, but he wanted a sibling for so long.  Now he's 12, my baby is almost 20 months, and they don't interact a lot.  When the baby is older, I'm sure things will change.  Now expecting my 3rd.  The 2 youngest will be closer to each other.   My oldest was from my first marriage, I didn't want this big of a gap between kids, but life has other ways of working out.   I'm sure your other kids will be fine with it. Who doesn't love a new baby?