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[Ftm2440]

I have a friend who is a few wks behind me in her pregnancy but has smoked weed thru her 1st and 2nd trimester. She is freaked out now cause she heard that they will take her baby if it tests positive at birth. Should she be worried? Please don't be rude, I'm just trying to help her out.

[bubblebean11]

I find it interesting that she smoked it during the most crucial time of development, then stops when she is out of that time period.... I also cannot believe that some of you are trying to help her figure out a way to hide her choice. We make choices and have to take the consequence that follows. I'm not saying she is good or bad, but based on her choice the baby deserves better. Was she worried that she could have a mentally retarded or physically mamed baby? My first born came out with chromosome abnormalities and I never so much as even took Tylenol. I took good care of me and him during pregnancy and he still came out mentally retarded. It was not General passed down either. I don't wish for your friend to lose her baby, just wishthe baby would have ment more to her earlier. God bless them both.

[specialmom]

And maybe some discussion about turning her life around a bit as she is about to be a mama.  Being high and motherhood is difficult to juggle.  good luck to her and you both!!  :>)

[Ftm2440]

Thank you guys. She is feeling a little relieved, I toldher it isn't good to stress any way. What's done is done. Hopefully next time she will know not to mess around with anything.

[wyattsmom2015]

I was told by a social worker off record when I lived in Florida that if they removed children for weed they would not have enough space to place them and almost no one would have their kids in their custody. Weed is too common in most places.

Now concerning your friend. Tell her to stay clean for a while until after baby comes. Cleans her house of any drugs or drug related items. And make sure her house would pass a cps inspection and anyone living on her house would also pass.

[Mommabanielle]

Also, thc is fat soluble. Drinking water to "flush" won't do anything. Tell your friend to walk and burn calories through healthy amounts of exercise. Obviously over exercising will probably not be great for mom or baby, but burning fat is the way to get it out of your system. Just be safe about it and above all she should talk to her doctor.  

[Mommabanielle]

I think she should be open with her doctor about her habits and concerns. He or she will most likely be non-judgemental and open about it, I hope it all turns out alright. Her baby will more than likely be completely unaffected by her weed smoking. I think it is ignorant and incredibly insensitive to say she doesn't deserve to keep her baby, and you have no place to say such a thing. What an awful thing to say. Alcohol and cigarettes have more of an effect of an unborn child and can even cause problems after baby is born and you breast feed even if you quit during pregnancy. And if you are going to be so judgemental just know there's someone who's probably judging you for something you're doing or will do with your child and keep those kinds of comments to yourself.

[Ftm2440]

Thank you guys this helps.

[narajo4]

A friend of mine had a baby in OK back n Aug. She smoked during her entire pregnancy, up until a few daya before her scheduled c section.  Her son was born with it in his system and the comment was made to baby daddy by a nurse "she'd never seen such a healthy baby with such a high level of weed in their system" he came home with momma n daddy at 3days old. No case was opened. However the Dr was released from her position at the hospital a few months later because of something involving non compliance of drug regulations. She was my Dr as well and I was confronted with a social worker at an appointment informing me if I did test positive at any time, cps would be notified. I however am not concerned because I do not smoke anything.

[mamaash71707]

Drinking water might help clean her system, but whatever is in the baby's system won't come out until it poops. If she doesn't have a history of documented drug use it may not be a severe situation, but she needs to be aware of the possibilities and be ready with an action plan such as starting parenting classes, maybe look into outpatient drug treatment centers, and maybe NA or AA meetings... something to show that she isn't just going to go back to using after the baby is born. They are investigating for the best interest of the child.

[Ftm2440]

Really? Weird. I'll tell her tho.

[zo_n_daemommy]

If she's already in her thirs trimester, she may not be able to find a doctor to take her. I had that problem with my first. If she does have issues, she could try saying she just moved here.

[Ftm2440]

OK.

[1260014616841580350_57_5]

Tell her to stop for good and drink plenty of water everyday to flush her system clean...(like more than normal amounts )...she should be fine but get a new doctor after one month of not smoking because if its a record of it it's much worst..

[zo_n_daemommy]

Ooo...well it makes sense...i guess.

[Ftm2440]

Nausea mostly she says. But that's no excuse. Her baby is healthy and measuring just fine.

[zo_n_daemommy]

More than likely it will be in the baby's system. It *****, but she needs to try to mentally prepare for them to take her baby. Did she know she was pregnant? If so, why did she keep smoking? I would understand if she didn't know. As for the baby's health....I know people whose moms smoked weed while pregnant. I'm one of them, and my two brothers. I have friends also. Mentally and physically we are fine. But that was back in the 70's and early 80's.  

[Ftm2440]

Thank you mamaash

[Ftm2440]

I will.

[mamaash71707]

All I can add is in Minnesota they take the meconium (first poop) and test it. Baby starts creating it early on in the pregnancy. If they find any amount of drugs they will have Child Protection Services open a case. They will more than likely follow up and do home visits, but if it's obvious that it has stopped they may be more lenient. I'm not positive, but she should be prepared to have an open case until they can determine that the home will be safe for the baby and that she isn't continuing to use. - That's my non judgemental take on the situation based on Minnesota law

[1120207129997939346_10_5]

Just pray and tell her to stay clean. Nothing she could do now.

[Ftm2440]

I know. And I have been honest with her. But she's a good friend of mine and I'm just trying to help calm her down. She isn't smoking anymore she's just worried it might be in baby's system at birth.

[1120207129997939346_10_5]

To be quite frank it's hard not to judge. Why does she deserve to keep this baby? Obviously the health of her baby or its well being is not a concern of your friend. I could understand if it's something that she use to do but stopped because of her pregnancy but she continued. I know it's not what you want to hear but it's the truth and you should be honest with your friend also. No unborn child deserve that.