feeling fat and sad :(

[Schmalzy]

I've always had self esteem issues and now it's taking a toll on me more than ever.  Both my sisters are gorgeous and everyone rubs that in my face.  I've been dealing with that my whole life.  Anyway I'm 24 weeks and 1/2 and I've gained 13 pounds so far.  My husband keeps telling me "oh that's Ok if you gain weight as long as you lose it all after baby comes cuz I don't do fat chicks".. Well that makes me sad.  I feel fat and him saying stuff like that doesn't help.  I love being pregnant,  don't get me wrong but I am very excited to start working out hard again and getting my body back after baby is born.  Does anyone else feel this way?  :(

[Schmalzy]

That's True, thanks. :). I should just enjoy it.

[Tati107]

I went on a date night with my hubby last night and I felt so unattractive. I'm only 16wks and felt so fat. He told me I didnt  but I tried to cheer myself up. Enjoy your belly while you have it. We may not see the beauty of it now but when our babies are getting older we will miss it. This will be my last pregnancy.(baby #3) and although I get down I keep telling myself that this is it.Enjoy it while I have it.

[Schmalzy]

Thanks! That Makes me feel better.  Us women go through so much and men just don't understand.  They Really have it to easy.  

[abglm]

I feel the same way. But my significant other is supportive about it. I'm 37 weeks and gained over 40 lbs, most of it since 33 weeks. You should tell your husband to be nicer and how it actually makes
You feel. Just keep rememremembering weight gain is good and you will lose weight when little one is born!

[Huni_b]

dont worry about gaining weight, it's all for the baby. you'll definitely lose most of it after your baby is born. but even if you don't lose all of it, don't stress yourself. personally, I think men and women who have a lil extra are far more attractive than those who're slim or skinny.

no one can compare you and your sisters. I'm sure each of you are gorgeous in your ways. your beauty cant be measured against someone else's,  even if you're sisters. you're all individual and perfect in your own right.

my hubby is a gym freak and very health conscious. and my parents (at their age) also do a lot more to keep fit than I do. They'd always tell me I'm getting too fat. at first I tried hard to lose weight and look like they wanted me to. but then I figured that I like my curves, I like my food, I'm not a sports person and never will be. I've never been over weight. but for me to be slim takes more effort than it's worth.

I'm sure your hubby is only saying this in an effort to motivate you. but he loves you and your body regardless. we women make it possible to have families by sacrificing our body and putting it through immense changes. it's ok to have a few cosmetic flaws as long as our heart (as a wife and mother) is in the right place.