I am pregnant with my 2nd baby and am 21.4 weeks. I tend to get a lot of discharge do my midwife told me to do a swoop clean around my cervix with my finger to clear out the discharge. I did that last night and my cervix felt soft and slightly dilated, but I'm not 100% since I don't really know if that's normal or not. I don't want to alarm my midwife if I'm not. Has anyone gone through this? How do u know if u are actually dilated?