Feeling Alone

[Braxtonsmomtobe]

Does anyone else feel like totally alone? My boyfriend is so insensitive to have Im feeling. He constantly makes plans to do things that arent fun for me while Im pregnant. He doesnt ever ask how Im doing or feeling.

[Toni_C]

We also need to remember, especially for the first time dads. They have no idea how we are feeling. You can tell them, but they're not feeling it themselves. I have said from the beginning, I wish there was something out there that would have our men feel exactly what we are feeling and all the time. They see us continuing with our lives (because we have too) and think, oh they can work, etc. so they are just fine. We need to talk to them and try our best to explain, but at the same time, we ourselves are feeling more needing and more alone due to the pregnancy. We need to make sure that we are not only relying on our men, but also friends and family.

[connie5831]

I also feel alone and all he does is hanging out with his friends.  I am 37+3 but doesn't get that I need him around more now than ever. Focus on gathering the baby stuff together and you'll see how time will fly. Its been easier that way than screaming at him all da tym.

[lucilek]

This is also my second and him his first. He ignores me and acts as if i dont exist at all. When i discuss anything related to the baby or the pregnancy he looks away like hes not interested. He is not there for us at all and would rather be wit his friends all the time. I wish he changes when the baby is born cause I cant deal wit this alone :( I tried talkin to him and he said im always complaining & doesnt want to listen to my complains anymore. Weekends i hardly see or hear from him. I guess im on my own on this and have to be strong for my unborn and my 4yr old

[heatherr322]

Yeah i get more affection and help from my 3yr old lately. My bf was pretty good for a while but the past few days i keep telling him to love me and talk to me but nothing... Waiting for his funk to pass and in the meantime i just snuggle my 3 yr old who talks to the baby and rubs my belly more than my bf lol

[Praying4A_Miracle]

this is our first my second. he tries his hardest but the fact is they still need to b told. dont assume, just put it point blank. all it took was a good telling it kind it is and he's been the best since! good luck, I know the feeling

[mrsdelacruz]

I feel the same but my husband normally works from 12-11pm but when he is home he ignores me and stays on the internet or when the weekends come around its never what I wanna do its normally what he wants and if his brother don't wanna do it we don't do it like he's in a relationship with his brother I just tell him he's going to change before the kids born or he's out cause I'm not dealing with it

[Braxtonsmomtobe]

Thanx ladies. This is both our first. He does great for a lil while after I bring things up but a week or so later he is back to clueless. I know he will be a great father but I just wish he would be a little more help around the house and more considerate to the fact I dont wanna do things that involve haging out and drinking with friends. And just be more in tune to how my ankles are cankles and my back is killing me. And I just his simple reassurance that hes here for me.

[bbm1188]

Yes like when my hubby thinks I want to sit at a bar or even go to a bar. I try to humor him and at least the bar he picked had awesome people that were fun to talk to. But still I dont really want to be there and he wants to go to the football game there tomorrow. Lol hes freakin clueless. Or the knife Store he dragged me to today, he wanted to show me knifes. Lol I suggest talking to your Man but have Good timing.

[robsangel13]

I got into it with my man a few days ago. I haven't felt loved lately. His first my third. He just doesn't get it.

[taymill]

I got into it today with my hubby too... Because I've been feeling like he just haven't been caring about how I feel a lot. We already have a 3 year old n I'm always tired n stuff... So I had to tell him about his self today. Don't know if it worked much, but some men are just like that I guess.

[Toni_C]

I'm 30 weeks pregnant with our first baby and live very far away from my family. My husband has been doing well, but like the other comment, he doesn't seem to understand completely. He often compares me to his friends girlfriend that is also pregnant, but we have entirely different lives. I have also been feeling alone, but I don't think that my husband could do much more to help with the feeling. I find I'm missing my family more and just feel trapped because there is so much that is now too difficult to do (too tired, too hot, etc.) I've been trying to keep myself busy and finding other people to go for walks or something with, that way I'm not just relying on my husband to make me feel less lonely.

[actright]

Ugh I got into it with my hubby ladt night I told him I don't feel loved and appreciated ahaha I have been a big baby lately and he apologized and said he's gonna stop being a jerk! Ahah talk to him they do listen....

[shastas84]

Is this your first together? Especially first time dad's are pretty clueless most of the time. He probably doesn't mean to do things like that. He just doesn't get it. Try talking to him about it all. I had to use really plain terms and be really blunt with my hubby our first time. (This is our 5th & we still have moments lol)