Feeling a little blue & Frustraded

[pinkk1111]

We had our little girl Feb 18th. I had a csection and i am not breastfeeding. My sex drive came back almost immediately. I would say approx 4-5weeks after the baby was born. My doc gave me the ok to have sex already. My husband hasnt wanted to. Do men loose their sex drive or is it just me thinkin somethng may be wrong here. I dont know how to discuss this with him without getting into an arguement. He typically gets ticked off for the littlest things and i really am not in the mood for argueing.

What should i do?

[pinkk1111]

Thank u @erin626. That would be very helpful. Ive googled a few things. I will try and read anythn to understand better what may be going on.

[erin626]

There are a lot of articles about this. Look up dr laura bergman. Shes a relationship counselor and i receive her emails and i get a lot about men not wanting to have sex after baby. It seems fairly common. Ill see if i cant find one of the emails and copy and paste the info.

[pinkk1111]

Foods to improve libido? I never thought of that.lol. Thanks.

Thank you ladies for the suggestions.

[TandK_love_Teddy]

@ Brittany12385
haha that was funny.. i would also give my man no choice if ever he stops making me happy in bed XD..
Try searching for foods that improve libido i would cook it for every single meal..

[pinkk1111]

Thank u ladies. Your responses are very helpful.

[luvntrust]

You  should just try to find a way to talk to him.  Maybe he's just truly tired. You have to discuss it or you won't be able to get to the root of the problem.  If it helps,  you can start by expressing how him not wanting to do "it"  with you makes you feel.  

[pinkk1111]

Yes..although toys have been fun i am lacking in the attention and affection i usually receive. I just feel hes not feeling it with me. Lately he says hes too tired or has no energy. I feel sad we havent done "IT". Plus i dunno if it has anythng to do with the fact that i was a high risk pregnancy when i was pregnant and we were prohibited from having sex. Did we go too long without it that mayb he doesnt want it from me anymore?

[Brittany12385]

Buying a toy and using it without him is not going to solve their lack of sex. Sex is part of the partnership and the love you have for each other. What she needs is for HIM to satisfy her, a toy won't satisfy her emotionally, although toys are fun!

[Brittany12385]

Id just put the moves on him and not give him the choice

[ChelseaMae3]

I would buy a toy and use it when he's not around.