Feeling so unattractive

[mamma_bear85]

I feel so fat and unattractive. My friiends and family try to help.. they tell me I'm beautiful and have a glow... My fiance however wont touch me... says it weirds him out... I cant help but take this personally. Its messing with my mind. I try to talk to him about it but it doesn't help. Now I worry he wont want to after the baby either. My body wont be the same... what if he doesn't find me attractive anymore. Help. Any advice or coping tactics?

[prettyblueeyez145]

I'm 10+5 with my first and I've already gained 15lbs! I feel the same as you are, so fat and unattractive. But it's only temporary so don't worry about it hon! There are women bigger than you who are way bigger than you! And the problem with your husband, mine is the same! He's to freaked to come near me and our baby isn't even kicking yet! Just do what you want to do, listen to music, dance, sing, get dressed up do whatever! Just find away to feel hot and sexy with your belly and just be happy!

[ajones09]

With me, I feel as attractive as if I wasn't pregnant. I still keep myself up far as hair, nails etc I wear cute maternity clothes and I'm 33 weeks far and hubby still has a strong attraction to me. We just had sex this morning!! lol I really hate that u women are going thru this but try find your inner sexy through everything ur going thru. Don't let urself go

[Amy1830]

I haven't gotten a belly yet but from what I hear it seems more common for men to NOT want sex at that point then to think their women is beautiful. I did date a guy once that used to have this weird attraction towards pregnant women. I wasn't pregnant at the time tho, so...... That wasn't a bonus to me back then lol I have a feeling my fiancé won't be too into it either. But I have been pregnant before this and felt the way you do and yes it took some times for me to feel good about myself again after giving birth. But your guy will come around. Your body isn't going to be destroyed, you will still look like you. Maybe you will have a few stretch marks or certain areas may be less firm but he's going to think your beautiful and I'm sure he does now too, just not in the same way :)

[babyblues2014]

My husband won't touch me because his scared and I'm happy because I don't want no contact lol. I put music on when I'm home and dance to make me feel better about myself. I do my hair, nails, get dressed up and do my makeup when I go out. That keeps me confident and treat yourself sometimes it might help boost your confidence.

[singermomtobe]

I'm sad to say it took my ex leaving before I felt radiant and beautiful. You just have to remember that you're not pregnant forever, and pregnancy is actually a very beautiful thing to some other people. I can't count the times I've had customers come up to me and tell me how gorgeous they think I am now that I'm carrying. I still think I look like a blimp, but it's great to hear.

[pooklet123]

Yup, it *****.  I'm 5'10 and have crossed the threshold to 200 lbs.....And my pelvis hurts so bad I couldn't run if my life depended on it, or walk long distances.  I'm choked that I'll be so out of shape after, but I'm optimistic that nursing will help melt off the pounds.  My SO gets angry when I tell him how fat I feel, lol, he thinks my large bum is attractive.  I hate how so many men are frightened of their pregnant ladies.  I mean, Google is there for everyone to use and educate themselves, and there isn't one source that says men have long enough shlongs to penetrate your cervix, enter the uterus and hurt your baby.

[anglelovebaby]

no offense but we do kind of look a little funny you just kinda have to and brace the moment if sex doesn't appeal him tell him you want him to rub your belly with some hot oil and then maybe play with you a little bit..it weird ed my bf alot with our first and we had issues we got threw it now we r having #2 and he ant as weird ed out do it from the back maybe in front of a mirror thats waist high men are vision stimaulated have him look at them bigger boobs and have him feel on them while rear enter seems most comfortable when we get bigger wear a sexy nittie that covers the belly so he dosent really see it as much ...its not ulgy ur beautiful. .ur body is too it sometimes is a mind thing for men .......have him express how beautiful ur belly is when ur not getting hot and heavy just threw out the day it will make u feel better about ur body and he will feel better about sexen u sorry so blunt but I have a very self esteem issues so its harder as a growing woman to feel better about u ..and u are ur toughest and hardest person on ur self he thinks ur beautiful its just a change for him

[crissyboo1]

My ex husband was the same way! I had 3 kids with him! It freaked him out every time i was pregnant he wouldnt touch me at all. It wasnt my body it was the fact he was scared he could hurt the baby even tho the doctor told him it wont. He would lose it every time we tried and he would feel the baby move he would just stop and walk out the room. But after i had each one he was back to his self! So maybe it just that he is scared and its all new to him!

[working_on_2]

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[working_on_2]

Well im 5'8 and weigh 178 currently and im only a month preggers.....im super stressed about weight gain the norm 25lbs will bring me to 2003!! And that just 25lb omgeee! Im sure u look great btw god bless and good luck....oh and men seem tobe super insensitive about pregnancy and body change we go through....hope things get better for you...which im sure they will