Girl Talk

[Ferrari80]

So this week I'm 8 weeks prego and have been extremely ill to the point of being in bed for nearly two weeks. I have had every symptom imaginable to the extreme. Yesterday I puked several times and had diarrhea along with severe stomach pain. My hubby got home and decided it was time for me to go the the er. So we went and I was given an iv and sono. Baby is ok unfortunatly I have a golf ball size cyst on my left ovary that has been the reason I'm in such pain. Ok so my issue is this...I have an awesome hubby that has helped me everyday with everything.  Normally I'm the one cooking, cleaning, taking care of my two kids, etc. I love being active but this pregnancy has me down and out so him and the kids have had to hold down the house. So it's spring break and he's made the decision to leave town fri thru sun to go see his 7 yr old son. I'm so upset at this because he knows how I am right now and that I need him but when it comes to his son he'll drop everything to do whatever for him which drives me crazy and has caused issues in the past. So I'm just looking for feedback. Am I wrong for being so needy and upset? I mean so what if it's spring break he can go any other weekend to see him but why now when I need him? Ladies, I just need some girl power right now. If I'm wrong let me know if not tell me your thoughts. Thanks!

[canadiana]

Could he take your kids with him to visit his son? They could have a good time...I don't know if that's ideal, after all a seven year old might get jealous that his dad has other kids with him, but it might be fun for them, and you wouldn't have to do too much while he's gone, just rest and take care of yourself?

[Ferrari80]

Thanks ladies! I've decided to shut my mouth and not even address. I have enuff mental stress with this pregnancy and don't need to add to that. I do hope I get to feeling better so I can go pamper myself this wkend and be husbandless which is rare. Have a goodnight!

[desnev1]

I didnt mean it in any type of way ... I just wanted to be upfront and honest... now that you add a bit more detail to your orginal post it makes perfect sense as to why you feel the way you feel. The whole "google" thing is way outta line, if I were you I wouldnt even deal with the drama but thats besides the point. Yes I agree with wishes2891 ... it can be devastating to a child when the other parent doesnt reside in the home so I could imagine how the child feels. Be strong ! The weekend will go by so fast you would of never thought he left. Thanks for your repectable response Good luck to you and yours!!!

[wishes2891]

Yeah not knowing the extra background details you say there is your orginal post does come off as a little harsh and self centered. The little boy is just seven he needs his dad and if this is the weekend his mom is allowing it, it doesn't seem fair to put up a fuss. You can do this. I know it's hard. My hubby doesn't have any other children than ours but he works on the road and is only home on weekends and sometimes doesn't even get to come home on them so a lot of times I feel like I'm in this alone and we have three other kids and six dogs to care for too lol. As long as I don't let myself feel too sorry for myself I'm able to manage fine. If I were you I would make the teens stay home for the weekend and help out. It's just one weekend. I've been in the son's situation and it's devastating to the child when they can't see their parent.

[wishes2891]

Yeah not knowing the extra background details you say there is your orginal post does come off as a little harsh and self centered. The little boy is just seven he needs his dad and if this is the weekend his mom is allowing it, it doesn't seem fair to put up a fuss. You can do this. I know it's hard. My hubby doesn't have any other children than ours but he works on the road and is only home on weekends and sometimes doesn't even get to come home on them so a lot of times I feel like I'm in this alone and we have three other kids and six dogs to care for too lol. As long as I don't let myself feel too sorry for myself I'm able to manage fine. If I were you I would make the teens stay home for the weekend and help out. It's just one weekend. I've been in the son's situation and it's devastating to the child when they can't see their parent.

[Ferrari80]

Thanks for your feedback Des but there is more to it than him going to hangout with his son and it sounds like 2 miraclebabies gets it. I'm far from self centered, my world revolves around my family. The step son situation is just something that has been an issue too many times. My husband was supposed to visit him last month but his mom didn't allow it because she googled me and my husband and seen that we purchased a new house. It's an unfortunate situation and sad for his son but now that she allows him to go see him there he is running. Meanwhile we own our own business son i have to hold it down along with the house and i just cant do it all with the way I'm feeling. As a grown women it's a game I'm not going to play with her but have been a victim of. So yea a whole other subject I didn't want to display in my initial post but I can see where someone can mistake that as me being selfish. Again, thanks for your feedback!

[desnev1]

Honestly it seems as though your being a bit self centered. Yes its understandable you're sick & you want your significant other there with you during this rough time. Then again whose to say there wont be other times like this one and he wont be right by your side. Your only 8 weeks not even close to the end of your pregnancy. His descion to be away for the weekend to spend time with 7 year old son should be appericated.. im just saying.

[2MiracleBabies]

I know what you mean,  I have been there and done that.  He did a lot of catering to both his daughter and her mother but all that is over with now :) we have custody of her but she complains about how I can't do everything for her now and that " it's unfortunate that she has to go through this"  It's amazing what we put up with for the men we love! It sounds like this is the first child you and him have together?  For me when i got further along. ..that's when things turned for the better, stay strong!

[Ferrari80]

Lol, my cell has a mind of it's own too. I got it and appreciate your feedback. I'm def a super women I just feel like my cape's hug up for now. I think if it wasn't for the fact that he's catering to my step son yet again I wouldn't be so upset. I have two teenagers that help but complain and honestly are pretty much worthless so I'll just stick it out this wkend but I really need to put my foot down moving forward which is a whole other subject : )

[2MiracleBabies]

My phone has issues lol sorry I hope you can decipher that mess

[2MiracleBabies]

You will manage!  It won't be easy but if we address strong enough to carry and deliver children we can handle anything is we have to.  I have hyperemesis and for 2 months now I've been bed ridden and hubby has done everything adults the house and for the kids including work.  His work is picking up and there is no more support for me here.  I have a 9 year old step daughter that has made this very difficult and I have a 3 year old bundle of energy.  For the last 3 days I've had to do it all on my own. I've been hooked up to IVs 24/7 but I've managed.  It's understandable to be upset. I got down right angry because I didn't believe I could handle it.  I'm not going to lie it's really hard but remember we are strong :)