sad and pregnant

[rubio326]

We just found out I am pregnant again. This will be my 5th baby. I'm not happy in fact I cried all day til the next day. I feel guilty feeling this way but my youngest just turned 2 and I feel like I was finally being able to do more stuff. I'm not ready to start all over again. I honestly hate feeling this way and I know it sounds very selfish. There are times when I'm like ok baby is coming and I get excited then there are times when I get very emotional. My husband works very hard and sometimes he comes home late he's also a Marine which is very demanding and he leaves often. He has already done 2 tours. It scares me with everything going on I know he will eventually be deployed again. We also just moved to a small town from the big city. So much going on right now. Please no negative comments

[babyblessing6]

Btw goodluck

[babyblessing6]

Im going thru a very similar situation. My youngest just turned 2 in june and im due to have baby #6 in 11 days :/ I have 2 girls who r 9&7 & then my 3 boys are 4,3&2. I go thru the mixed emotions of being happy and grateful to being sad, upset and scared. Like I can't do it, like im gonna break down. My husband works overtime almost every day and I think its to escape our house, plus I have been extremely emotional lately. 5 kids can be a handful but just think, u could be on number 6 like me ;) lol

[rubio326]

Thank you all...This truly is a blessing from god.... I prayed about it and I feel so much better ...I already went to a doctor I'm due may 3rd :) I can't wait to hold a little newborn again and to smell him/her I love the way baby smells it's so calming

[baby_four]

I wish you the very best. Maybe right now this is what you feel but as many say time passes by and im sure each and everyday will be better. :) god sent u this little blessing and their is a purpose for this precious moment in your life. I'm wishing you the best and many blessing for u and your family. I'm sure god will be right there helping u each day. :) your not alone don't forget it. :)

[Staryn]

I felt the exact same way with pregnancy I was done having kids (I have 5)and starting to do more things and chose not to except I was pregnant till I was 12 weeks but now I'm 36 weeks and since 25 weeks have been so excited to have this baby I can't wait for my baby girl to be born.  I am also getting my tubes tied (finally) I was told every time since my second child I was to young by Mydoctors and they wouldn't honor my decision

[ashley4beauties]

Congrats thats why i dnt post alot on here becuz of negitivity but keep ur head up and u will be a wonderful mommy to ur bbs and good luck on ur pregnanacy

[rubio326]

Waylonsmom I specifically asked for no negative comments....did u bother asking if we were on bc or did you just assume that no one is taking care of themselves? And fyi since you must be so judgemental the doctor told me I would not be able to have any more children bc of a blocked tube I had surgery to have my mirena removed bc it was not properly placed and it made me severely sick ...surgery left a lot of scar tissue. ....ANYWAY thank you to everyone else your support means alot...I am super happy to be welcoming another baby he/she is due may 3rd 2015 :)

[Club_Preggo]

Good for you waylonsmom.. I was protecting myself but birth control obviously didn't work.

[waylonsmom]

If you all don't want more kids there are ways to stop that?? This is my 2nd and last 1 boy 1girl and im getting fixed. Problem solved!

[Club_Preggo]

Danicaantle, I read my own story as I read yours.. It's nice to know I'm not alone.

[melse]

Rubio, I'm glad you announced it. Everyone's positivity should start rubbing off on you. I'm excited for you also! Good luck and congrats.

[Looza_h]

were u protected ??  what were you taking for birth control ?
i want only four kids . . this is my fourth and last pregnancy HOPEFULLY . .

[rubio326]

Well I just announced the pregnancy to everyone and everyone's reactions were so happy.....I'm feeling a lot better now I'm praying for a healthy baby....I still don't feel like doing the whole labor thing again ughh

[Danicaantle]

I'm almost 9 weeks pregnant with baby #4. When I found out I was so upset because I have a now 5 month old baby and I felt so guilty she couldn't get to be the baby for long. I am not really sad anymore I guess I'm kind of neutral but I know I will still love it no matter what. And I have 3 girls so really praying this is a boy so I can finally be done !!!

[tigereyes19806]

I can totally see where you're coming from. My husband and I had planned that he would get a vasectomy after our 4th. When I found out I was pregnant with #5 I was in shock and I have to admit that I cried about it. I wasn't exactly thrilled at first. My youngest turned 2 last month and I was getting excited that my kids were beginning to grow up and we could finally do more big kid stuff. I know that everything happens for a reason. I'm now 30 weeks pregnant and starting to feel more excited every day. I still have days where I start to feel worried that I won't be able to handle 5 kids but my older ones help out a lot and I know it will all work out. Just take it one day at a time.

[mommyof4babiesnoq]

I am on #4. I was so done at #3. I am almost 5 months and I still get days where I am mad I am pregnant again. I asked my husband to get a vas after #2. I told him if he doesn't get it before I have #4 I will give him a home one at the birth of #4.  I think it is normal to be up set when you felt done than you find out you have another on the way. I am so different this time than with the rest. I am sure once it is born I will be over this. I am not looking forward to labor again. Lol

[rubio326]

Thank you so much guys I haven't told anyone yet besides my husband I was hoping this was at least a little normal....I've been praying about it I know God has a plan for us....I also know the joy I had with all 4 of my children when I felt their kicks and saw them for the first time even when I saw my belly start growing. ..that's why I feel so guilty feeling this way....I all most definitely going to get my tubes tied...Every single word was encouraging thank you again

[melse]

I swear, reading your post, I swear I was reading my own writing. Until recently, I was in the same boat. Pregnant with my fifth child, a recent move, my husband often traveled for work, and my youngest is two. We weren't exactly ready for a fifth child, but we made the determination, from the beginning, that we were going to love our baby just as much as we loved the rest of our children. Of course I was still emotional as the weeks progressed, but the anxiety also dissipated more and more each day. The way I looked at it-- and I know that this may seem negative to some people, but it really isn't-- is that pregnancy is simply a fact of life. I kept my feelings neutral about the pregnancy. I didn't focus on how it wasn't the right time or how I wasn't exactly ready for another child. I put up a sort of mental block to all my negativities towards being pregnant again until the positive started to take over. As time goes on, it will get better for you-- I promise. It's good that you are addressing your feelings about your pregnancy, it is very therapeutic and will help you get into the mindset you're hoping to get to.

[jamie2464]

Congrats on ur bundle sorry u feel sad then excited its normal lol at lease ull have some help with the babys older siblings.if this is going to b ur last get ur tubes tide thats what am going to do and this is my fourth I no its hard but once u hold ur baby and feel ur babykick it would b worth it... :) good luck and god bless u and ur growing family

[sexydara]

Awwww I can relate my last is 5,i skipped for joy that she is gonna be in big school this yr and I'm free and then guess what? On my birthday I'm pregnant I still have those I'm pissed I'm pregnant moments but I just breathe and say everything happens for a reason and take it one day at a time I hope u feel better I know it's a tough thing to go true this is also my 5th and I'm a single mom

[ramyamommy]

I'll take it and then it will be my 5th baby :)

[sew2009]

It sounds like a little depression and anxiety. It's ok to vent your feelings. I'm sure as baby grows you and your family will get more excited. This new baby will probably bring you special joy that you can't yet imagine. Try to remember the amazing things of a new baby and not think of lack of freedom etc. It sounds like you will have helpers! :-) that's a plus. And there is nothing like a newborn all snuggled in your arms! I am not much of a help but I want you to know that I get the need to vent without negativity! :-) congrats to y'all!!!!