Hen party

[Kermit3243]

I've been invited to a close friends hen party which I will have to pay for in advance. I really want to go as she's a very good friend, she came to mine and so on. However...the party is about a 3 hour journey from home and is 2nights away...about 12 days after my due date! Concerns are:

1. I may be late and not given birth by then
2. May not want to leave child even for a break (hubby is happy to alone with him/her but I can't even begin to imagine how i will feel -this is my first and I don't even feel pregnant yet!)
3. I hope to breast feed so don't know if it would be even possible to be away from her/him!

I'm sure I will end up not going if nothing else out of exhaustion!! but wondered what your thoughts are, especially mums who already have children. Has anyone had to go away from their baby early on? What are your experiences?

Thanks girls :-)

[Kermit3243]

Great advice, thank you everyone! Will def stay home!

I particularly like  lellyannes idea as I can do that before I have baby.

Mrscaserlee-nice thought but they're hiring a cottage for 20girls so not sure hubby would be so keen...and to put babiless girls through the screaming might not be fair!

She will understand - it's just that she doesn't know I'm pregnant yet!! And it's her maid of honour organising it and she wants a deposit before the scan! And I don't know her. I'll talk to my friend - I just may have to tell her a little earlier than I planned :-)

[mrscaserlee]

Have you considered having your husband and baby come along, staying in a hotel room with you? This way you won't have to be without them?

[1NAMILLION]

I understand wanting to be a supportive and good friend, but, the timing for this party is unfortunately during an awesome time in your life that requires you to not make plans due to uncertainties (i.e. leaving baby so soon, if baby has arrived yet, needing to rest, etc.), so, you may want to sit this one out and if she's as great of a friend as you seem to be....she'll definitely understand.

Congrats on baby!!

[lellyanne]

Organise a little girlie day out for just u and ur friend. Cinema lunch n shopping or even a little spa after noon. Xx

[jmrn]

That would be too early to be away from your baby for that long. Stay home!

[RenovationFun]

I really think you will want to stay home at that point. If she's your good friend, then she will definitely understand.

[ash060115]

I'm in the same situation -
his sisters finances stags is after our sons due and
My sister in laws hens party is scheduled for a couple of weeks after our due date. (They are getting married to each other)

I was thinking hard about it and I've decided I'm not going.
I know I won't want to leave my baby for the weekend and I won't enjoy myself feeling I want to be home. (Again this is about 3hrs away so taxi home isn't possible)

Also on my first child I didn't want to leave her at all plus she was very ill as a baby and in hospital etc.
I'm scared this boy will be sick or something.  But either way I want to be close.  

My boyfriend even said he isn't sure he'll want to go on the stags weekend.

You can always book on late if you change your mind.