Hurt and alone :'(

[mommy2be_withbaby3]

So I been with my boyfriend for almost 3 n a half years we had a good relationship so we decided to take it to the next level and move in with eachother..
And then around that time he had been living with me I came out pregnant...

And thats when everything changed , the first night I found out I was pregnant he left me alone .. he came back and just keeps going back and fourth :'( to his parents house it hurts so bad when I needed him the most he was always over there.. I cry myself to sleep because he makes me just want to give up on him :'( makes me even more down because I know my poor baby feels my pain . And its so hard to eat while am depressed. Sad part is he lets his family be rude to me now I don't want nothing wit them .. I have no friends n not really any family members I can go too he makes me feels so ugly n useless .. what should I do? Need advice

[happybaby2015]

Sweety if he knows you care, crying over him, & begging him to be there then he'll continue or get worse. You have to get strong. I know it's painful but men do what we allow. If you're there for financial help you can get temporary housing assistance from the government. You deserve to be loved

[delia25]

You dont need  to be around him  or his family if that's the way they're treating you.. Have you tried talking to him about it?

[mommy2be_withbaby3]

Thanks so much ! And your right I do need to try my best n stay strong even though it might be hard:( its so sad when he is gone I don't bother texting him he wil text me n if I give him no response . . He blames me n says I don't care making me look like the  bad person.

[happybaby2015]

You're welcome. Things will work out for you & your lil one :)

[mommy2be_withbaby3]

Delia your right I have tried my best to respect his family every time I would come around n all they do is be rude to me I told him it hurts me n makes me feels miserable not ever have I told his family anything or did anything to them to get treated in that way.

[delia25]

You do what's best for you and your baby you don't need to be stressing over him or anyone I'm sure things will work out for you :)

[Danielle20th]

It seems to me he is very selfish guy. U don't need tat at dis moment in time. As u need 2 put ur baby first chick. I understand it must b hard 4 u but try keep ur chin up.. it also seems like u need some1 2 talk with so here my email address message anytime. ***@****

[AprilMay24]

I agree. It hurts I know but you come first. If he wants to be childish then let him. I would say don't let the door hit you on the way out. Find yourself. He likes you in this spot because he has Control. Flip the switch and get a grip and I promise you, you'll be happy.

[mommy2be_withbaby3]

Thanks delia lots! And Danielle your right my baby before anything ! Thanks

[mommy2be_withbaby3]

Aprilmay yes it hurts lots  and I definitely need to flip the switch thank u soo much!!

[mandy820]

After 7 1/2 years 2 miscarries we are soon to have our first baby together and now we at each others throat I feel alone and I cry a lot I loose my temper quick I have been to the hospital due to stress at least 3 times and I'm only 19 weeks I know its not good for the baby  but it's hard when you don't have that support from that certain person and sometimes talking about it with him gets you no where he no what he is doing  so my advice try your best to concentrate on you an the baby and pray that is what I try to do every day to try an calm my nerves

[mommy2be_withbaby3]

Thanks mandy I really do need to pray god is my only hope

[teshia_tbelle]

OMG I'm going thru the EXACT same thing with my boyfriend. I'm 30 weeks now & throughout this whole pregnancy I've been nuthin but stressed. We where living together before I got pregnant & very much deeply in love with each other that we kinda planned the pregnancy. But every since I got pregnant he comes & goes as he pleases. Hes never here & goes back & forth to his folks house. He is never here when I need him& it hurts because I'm here all alone with barely no relatives as well for support. The previous posts here have been really uplifting for myself as well!

[2ndandlastbaby]

I'm starting to think our men are the ones pregnant and emotional. I just went through the same exact thing except he left me for another woman.. go figure... it's been extremely hard but it doesn't change the fact that you have blessing on the way that's yours and no one can take that away!! Now that love is unconditional! Everything else is irrelevant... A woman doesn't know how strong she really is until being strong is the only option she has..

[2ndandlastbaby]

And I'm 38 weeks getting induced in 7 days

[mommy2be_withbaby3]

Teshia I soo feel your pain if we are going through the exact same thing it really does hurt and brings me down .. but we need to stay stong and I sooo hope n pray to god that theses men of ours realize what they are doing is just selfish! .. but the most important thing right now is our babys I am bearly 14 weeks going on 15 and I pray god gives me the strength to get thru this even if I have to alne .. am really glad u posted on here and I pray things get better soon for u after u have ur lil blessing !!

[mommy2be_withbaby3]

2ndandlastbaby, you are so right! That's exactly what I told myself lastnight he is only making me a stronger person. Thanks soo much!! And aww hope all goes well when u have ur blessing keep us updated on ur birth story!:)

[Abrenda]

Don't not stress ur self out when u have ur baby that baby will luv u unconditionally ur boyfriend probably just scared & dont know how to show u he is happy but if he goin to make u Care u probably need ur space u dont want to lose your baby over being stress out

[mommy2be_withbaby3]

Abrenda, yes your right I am trying my best just to stay as strong as I can be n focus on whats to come in my future with my baby.. thanks :)

[BabyMarquez]

I've been in the worst part of my relationship to the point where I felt I was being hurt by the one person I loved with all my heart.  After a night of fear and fight I was scared for myself and baby.  He didn't put his hands on me but I saw another side of him I couldn't believe was in him. After that day I was so shocked that how could he act the way he did so I had made my mind up I could not be with him anymore even though I still loved him but Mt fear was too big. It took me some days he begged me not to leave and give up on us but it wasn't that easy for me at what my ears and eyes experienced.  A few day's later he asked to go see him and this is while I'm prego. He asked for forgiveness and literally cried out and let his emotions out another side I also had not seen.  We cried together and made up and talked very seriously during that moment.  I set boundaries and standards and since then our relationship has been great. I think what people need as relationship is make sure you let your significant other you will not tolerate disrespect or any ****. Because if you don't it will continue.

[mommy2be_withbaby3]

Thanks sooo much for posting you gave me hope .. we been through soo much especially now that am pregnant I love him to death ! And as of now he has been texting me like crazy asking for forgiveness and telling me he will turn his life around I haven't yet responded to him because of how hurt I am ugave me hope that maybe things will work out n change for the better but first I definitely need to set some boundaries .. am glad to hear everything has worked well for you and your relationship :) thxz

[Mekalya]

You have to stay strong for you and your baby now. If he doesn't show you that he wants to be a part of yours and the baby's life, believe me there are men out there that would take on his responsibilities and show you the love you need and deserve. Don't stress it's not good for you or the baby. Hope everything works out!

[mommy2be_withbaby3]

Mekalya, thanks :) I hope things work out as well and yes I'm definitely putting the stress to the side n out the door ! All u ladies gave me hope n made me feel so much better thanks

[happybaby2015]

I'm glad you're feeling better today :) We're Strong women!