I NEED MAJOR ADVICE!!

[momma_pearl]

So I have this gut feeling telling me not to name my son after his father and you know how they say your woman's intuition is always right and you should go with it, so I'm stuck between him being a Jr and naming him Bentley and me and the father really isn't on the best of terms right now....what should I do? This is really eating me up inside!!

[keaij]

Go with your gut you wont regret it... Plus you know that when you name a baby they usually act their name, and Ive known some Jr`s that act just like their dads

[TA283]

It depends, I think. You and the father both have to understand that the way you two relate to your child, does not involve the way you two relate to your baby.
If you don't name the child after his father and his father gets mad, then he SHOULD still love the boy just as much. If he treats the little one differently over something that he obviously can't help, that will tell you a lot about how he really will treat him later.
If you name the boy after his father and you end up regretting it later, yes that will be a really rough spot to be in, however you'd have to keep in mind that the little guy is not his father and you can't have his father in mind constantly when you're caring for him, because you'd be upset every time you interacted with him, and that could cause some really deep hurt later.
I hope everything turns out well for you and your little buddy.

[momma_pearl]

That's what everybody's telling me go with my gut feeling...I've already tried the whole having that be his middle, but he said he don't like it and ive been dealing with this my WHOLE pregnancy and I'm due next month

[KristiGG]

I would just tell him you want your son to be independent with his own identity.   If it is that important to have his name in there maybe it could be the middle name.  Good luck! I love the name Bentley!

[Jaja65]

I would go with your gut feeling as well. My oldest son is the IV ( I could shoot myself for naming him after his dads side) lol it's caused probs from bill collectors,  to filing taxes, etc so annoying

[momma_pearl]

My midwife told me the exact same thing and I don't want/need that effecting him in the future because of something his dad did, so how exactly would you go about telling him you've decided on a name and it's not gonna be Jr

[aprilj93]

Agreed! I'm not in that situation but my husband and I have avoided carrying on any names so nobody gets offended... and also because it causes problems later. My husband and his dad shared a name and we've had credit issues because of stuff his dad hasnt paid and wound up on his credit.

[momma_pearl]

And that's EXACTLY how I'm feeling I really don't wanna regret that...maybe he'll get over it and just accept the fact that he's not gonna be named after him

[Maria28maria]

I'm going through the same thing..I say don't do it. I don't wanna regret it later.