I think I'm getting separate and divorce :(

[springblessings2014]

I'm tired of seeing my husband  not motivated with my pregnancy he doesn't look really excited he doesn't even touch my belly unless I ask him to do it or kiss it .  I have everything set up for the baby because of his family helping me out with   and a cleaning lady .  Today he didn't go with me to see the last ultrasound.  I can't understand him I'm feeling so angry disagree all he says is sorry but his words can't help at this point.  I feel like leave him .  God guide to right path . I'm feeling unattended.  

[springblessings2014]

Thanks a lot Marquez_ and love_being _his  yeah you're completely right about that  . It could be so sad to end separated. my respect for those single mommy's :( I really hope someday each of them get to meet a new worthy guy who considered and appreciate and won't take for granted your love.  Well God give me strength and patience. To see what's next and what to do . The last time my husband was looking at me for a while and I asked what's wrong he replied and said when is this gonna be over I can't even hug you etc . :p ooh boyyy.

[love_being_his_mrs]

Divorce is very serious. Men don't really connect with baby before birth. So please don't make such a decision just based off that. If you say you love Jesus, then you know our vows are a covenant and sacred. Wait until after the birth and your hormones have had and chance to adjust. I know it's hard to hear but they really do cloud our judgment.  I'm not saying you have to stay, but I and just saying this is serious - please get counsel from and just pastor and give it some time. I'll be praying for you and wish the best for you.

[Marquez__]

In The Beqinninq Of My Preqnancy I Told Him I Was Preqnant And My Dr Appt.
Few Days Before My Appt He Started Tellinq Everyone The Baby Wasn't His, After We Were Livinq Toqether!
So I Left.... I Texted Him to Remind Him Of My Appt And Never Got A Reply. Few Weeks Went By Still No Communication. Now I'm Due Anyday And Still NO Communication Since The Day I Left.
So I Kinda So Understand How Your Feelinq. I Cried And Cried ... The Days Before I Left He Was Actinq Weird, I'd Be Tryna Show Love And Affection And He's Like Ehh Whatever Or Leave Me Alone. So There' Would Be Niqhts Id Be Layinq In Bed Next To Him Cryinq Myself To Sleep.
After I Left, I Cried And Prayed I'm Still Prayinq Thinqs Will Be Ohkay For Me And My Dauqhter .
And So Far God Has Helped Me Supply Her With Everythinq She Needs And I'm So Thankful Cause Beinq By Yourself It's Extremly Hard.
But Talk To Him, Tell Him How You Feel... If It Goes No Where Then Yes Hunny Maybe Consider Leavinq And Just Ask God For The Riqht Path Like I Did.
Everything Will Be Ohkay, I'll Pray For You And I Hope Thinqs Get Better For You.
God Bless Hun.  

[Missleah1991]

Me and my hubby have had a ton of problems and I've thought about divorce but I don't want one. I am hoping things get better. I'm due in 3-5 weeks and he lost his good job 3 weeks ago and doesn't start his new one until next month. We have been extremely stressed, always arguing and fightening. It's not easy being pregnant let alone when things aren't easy.

[springblessings2014]

Thanks a lot to all of you Beautiful ladies  . Thanks for your support  I'm feeling lonely not too lonely coz I have God , jesus and my baby .  I read all your answers and makes sense each of your post . Honestly it's hard to understand a man specially when is his first baby and is a man that has a job and 34 years old . He's a grown man . But at simple things he does not funtion . Omg !!!! I'm trying to not argue Coz is not healthy for me and my baby.  I'll wait to see what else happens hopefully he realized  before be too late

[nonishy]

Maybe talk to him about it, let him know how he is making you feel. Even if he doesn't say anything let him know what this is doing to you, and how your feeling. Also wait on the separation or divorce, everything might just turn around once baby is here.

[Huni_b]

I'm sorry you feel that way girl. but don't make any hasty decisions at this point in time. let the baby arrive and see from there. separation / divorce is always an option, but you'll regret if you do it for the wrong reasons.

many couples experience problems during pregnancy or even right after birth. (including me and my hubby). but things will get better. this is just a really hectic time, with financial burdens, physical demands/challenges (tiredness, no sex life, bodily changes, weight gain, less beauty care, etc), hormonal changes, first time experiences, etc etc. each woman experiences pregnancy differently.

I dunno if it's true, but they say that a woman becomes a mother when she finds out that she's pregnant. but a man only becomes a father when his baby is born.

don't worry about your husband. my strategy was to stop caring about what my husband does or doesn't do, and to only focus on my pregnancy and my baby. his actions / non-actions don't bother me any more.

maybe he'll come around eventually.  otherwise you still have options. good luck girl.

[ambs87]

I think that for moat men, the baby is t really real to them until its here. Until they can physically hold it and see it. They don't feel the kicks and movement and hiccups the way we do. Its different. The time we spend bonding with our baby because we feel those things they don't get to do until they hold the baby. That's what I think anyways.

[Baby_girl09]

He might be just scared or worried his life will change soon. Idk, men are difficult to understand what's in there head sometimes. I would advice you not rush to divorce soon because your pregancy hormones are out of wack too. Give him a chance, just wait he meets his little baby. You might be suprised how attentive he will be to the baby & you. Wait until you deliver the baby, consider divorce when you have a clear head. I strongly suggest you talk to him before filling papers. Best of luck.

[Furby85]

Im with you! Im sorry you're feeling this way but I totally get it.

[3rdNdone]

Sending prayers your way I can't imagine that's easy. I pray that communication improves and mends your marriage.