In-laws

[CutieMommy2be]

My mother in law drives me nuts! She is munipulative and can be very controlling and has a tendancy to really say things she shouldnt and can be rather insulting. She also puts a lot of stress on me and hubby as she can demand a lot. Anyway, when I am ready to deliver the baby I do not want her at the hospital AT ALL until after the baby is born. When I mentioned I didnt want anyone in the delivery but my mom  and hubby her and my father in law seemed upset and said well we will wait in the waiting room. I wouldnt mind that but she would push and push to go into predelivery and maybe in the delivery room. I know they wont let her in if I request that I dont want any other visitors but mom n hubby but it will definetly stress my hubby and me out. Am I wrong for wanting to wait until after the baby is born to call them and tell them? Of course I will still be in the hospital. Sometimes I feel bad but they stress me out so much! Hubby is on board and says its probably best to call right after she is born. I am trying to be fair to my on laws but they make it so hard! sorry for the rant! ugh!

[CutieMommy2be]

Every time we go over there he usesnhis phone to take a pic and he thinks I dont see but I do! frankly its creeping me out!!!

[CutieMommy2be]

Well what we decided to do is just call them a couple of hours after the baby is born to solve the issue. Believe me my mother in law is a strange one! I mean she had my dad in law sneak a photo of me because she dont believe me with my weight. She told me I look big and that I will be as big as a house which was rude and insulting! I haven't even gained ANY weight in my pregnancy.

[sweetmila]

Oh i know what you mean! My mother in law drives me nuts! She's very controlling and we haven't told her that she's not going to be in the room yet. I'm having my mom and my husband and that's it. She been hinting but I think we will tell her last minute. Also my hubby just told her this past weekend that when the baby gets here he's not staying the night over there for a while. (She's stocking up on clothes for him at her house lol) and his daughter (which we get every other weekend) will no longer stay over there either. She needs to spend as much time with her baby bro as possible. She's apparently heart broken. I don't get it though. Her life is his daughter as if she was her own. She already had children. She needs to let us be parents and get herself a husband already lol

[tiffnys]

With my first I only wanted my husband and my mom well my inlaws showed up after I had told them I didn't want anybody there so this time I'm not telling them till baby is born my husband is a little upset but idk.

[CutieMommy2be]

Exactly!

[Merwin1987]

Stick to you guns, darling. You are absolutely in the right. If they won't respect your wishes, don't tell them you are in labor until baby is already born. Nobody should ever try and guilt you into inviting them, or invite themselves to something so personal and intimate. Stay strong :)

[CutieMommy2be]

Thank you! That's exactly what hubby said, that they will get over it! She has never been pregnant/carried a baby so they dont understand or have compassion AT ALL. She is just going to have to learn the word NO. She is so use to everything being her way.  Thank you again everyone :)

[nznellie]

I totally understand and don't blame you!! I'm going to do the same thing as my in laws don't give a crap bout this pregnancy but as soon as baby comes it'll be a different story. It's about what you're comfortable with when going through it, you and baby first, don't worry about them they'll be fine and will get over it.

[Dandi_2014]

Just call her afterwards.
Make sure your doctor and mother knows that she is not allowed in there.
This is your day to deliver and should not have to worry about these things.
:) <3

[CutieMommy2be]

The funniest part is whenever we talk to her about the baby she acts like she dont want to hear. After the second doctos visit(earlier in my preg) she tells me she use to not want to be around people with kids or pregnant women cause she could never concieve. she adopted all 4 her kids as a result.  I think there is a lil jealousy there as well which is ridiculous!

[CutieMommy2be]

Thanks everyone! I feel so much better! I was starting to really feel guilty for our choices. Yes, hubby is very supportive and he said if she cant handle the fact that we called her after she is born than to bad! Thats all I need is her taking billions of pictures of me in tremendous pain. Im sorry but as far as my delivery thats rather personal and would be awkward woth my mom and dad in law watching me deliver! I mean you see everything! its just to personal for me to have them in there. Im just not comfortable with my in laws seeing my parts lol  So they WONT be in there!

[New_mummy]

Your baby your body your birth.. NOT HERS!!!! No one is welcome to come to the hospital when our girl is delivered until we say so.. You just don't know what's going to happen and how you are going to feel. Your husband and you will want time to bond as a new family and just take in those precious few hours together.

[iluvskittles]

Well, I hope hubby isn't just sitting on the sidelines while you're in the battlefield with his parents. I certainly hope he's been standing up to his parents like a man should. That's not something you're supposed to be dealing with while pregnant anyways. No, you're not wrong. This is YOUR child, not hers. She raised her kids all ready. Do not let this woman take over, I'm telling you. You'll hate yourself for it. If hubby don't like it then he needs to regulate the situation and put mommy in her place.

[New_Mommy_AJ]

I think that's perfectly reasonable. You don't want to be stressed out during delivery. That can only lead to complications. If you know they're not going to respect your wishes and stay in the waiting room you're just asking for drama having them at the hospital. If you and hubby are on same page, wait til after baby is born to let his family know. Your in laws may be upset but they'll get over it. Good luck.

[Wolfeenix]

That's why I call mine outlaws haha. Put your foot down now. I didn't want anyone waiting at the hospital but my mil showed up and guilt tripped my hubby into calling my mum to come up and wait...
I had my son at 4.11am, had been up for 30+ hours, was getting a 3rd degree tear stitched and she had the nerve to complain that she was tired and wanted to see the baby so she could go home and sleep!
She works at the hospital so it's kinda annoying that none of the staff told her to go home but this time I'm saying no visitors while I'm in hospital and if anyone turns up to wait they aren't meeting the baby until after my son has had ample time to bond with his new sibling as he is gonna be 23 months old at the time and not sure how he is going to react / handle the change.

[mrskia3]

I completely understand...my MIL is a very nice women but sometimes she a pain in my *** she over step he boundaries and it irritate me to the MAX she so bossy she will tell the Dr how to deliver the baby smh...she's definitely not getting a call to after the baby is born.... Its all about you and your baby do what makes you Happy