advice please

[nicolahutcheon]

i havw been with my husband 9 years and have been trying for a baby for about 5 years with no luck i recently foind out i was 5 weeks and already had some complications i thoight my hubby would be supportive but av just found out when i go to bed he is getting wasted on booze n hiding it from me its only cos i woke up i found out when i asked him why he had a go at me saying am doing his head in with my moods he wabts to leave his job n its my fault he cant cos no one will set him on with a pregnant wife it really hurt my feelings. he is now passed out on the floor n am not sure were to go from hear when he wakes up any advice please

[nicolahutcheon]

thank you ladies its not just my hubby that needs to man up lol I need a confidence streak too. just to let him know its not fair. thank you for your kind words x

[croberts32]

I agree with Han28kp I understand the freak out thing my husband has been there but never once has it been acceptable to treat me like garbage.  When my husband has said something hurtful I have been very clear that its not okay to treat that way.  Its not worth talking to him when he is drunk but when he diners up he needs to know he hurt u and that his behavior is unacceptable. He will treat u the way u let him treat u so it will only blow over til the next time.  No excuse for it.

[nicolahutcheon]

told him all this before it goes in one ear and out the other he is amazing when sober just takes the world out on me when he is drunk. and he can never remember anything the next day.

[nicolahutcheon]

thank you I can understand if he is scared am scared. am I best to forget about the nasty things he said n not even mention it in the morning when he comes round

[Nat959]

My guess is hes just freaking out. My husband did the same (freak out, not wasted though)  when we found out we were pregnant with out daughter. And now were pregnant again and another freak out. My girlfriends husband did the same also when they found out about their kids too! It must be a guy thing. Just let it blow over for a few weeks and let it sink in. They eventually come around. :)