Mixed Emotions

[Sharita0427]

I haven't been on here in a few weeks.  2 weeks ago I found out I miscarried. I was so hurt, but then my feelings changed. I told myself everything happens for a reason & it just wasn't meant to be. My sadness completely disappeared. My family was more hurt than me. I told my husband that I didn't wanna try again & that we should wait til the end of next year to try again. Now today I had my 2 week follow up & my feelings are starting to change again. I'm thinking that I don't wanna wait. I want my baby. I'm just so confused about the whole baby thing now. Has anyone else gone thru this?

[Sharita0427]

That's just it... I don't know if I'm ready or not. I'm so confused about what I want. I don't even know where to begin... Ugh, decisions decisions

[lalabrownw2011]

I was almost 8 weeks when I miscarried. I still get nervous all the time. I have called my doctor more times than I can count. I honestly don't think that I will ever be emotionally past having the miscarriage, its the hardest thing I have ever been through. So many questions came up and I never got answers... why me? What happened? If you feel like you are ready then go for it.

[Shannycakes]

I know how you feel.  I had a miscarriage on Halloween last year at 7 weeks. I was so hurt. I found out last week I  5 weeks.  I am so excited but also very scared.  My doctor says just because I miscarriage last doesn't mean I will this time but every time I get cramps even light I get scared. I was told it's a waiting game.  Will find out next month if everything will be ok. Hang in there it is stressful but I know I want a baby so it's worth the worrying and wait. Good luck

[ExpMommy]

Hi ladies, I'm sorry to hear all of that... what weeks were you in when you miscarried? I am just wondering what is the most dangerous time... good luck & stay well!

[Sharita0427]

The crazy part is I thought I was past it emotionally, but now I'm not so sure. Either way, I just know I don't wanna wait anymore. I'm already 31 & don't have that many years to wait, because once I'm 35 I'm done.

[lalabrownw2011]

I can definitely relate... I had a miscarriage the week before Thanksgiving 2013. I was devastated. Had to go back and forth to the doctor for 3 weeks which just made it worse. I also told my husband that I wanted to wait. I thought I was too soon to try again, and then changed my mind several days later. Now I am 16 weeks and everything is going pretty good :) good luck do what your heart tells you to do. Everything happens for a reason even though we don't understand why...

[mckaylas_momma1018]

Im sorry for your loss. It is normal to have mixed emotions about what happened.  You came to peace with the fact that you lost a baby and probably to the realization that it wasnt healthy, at the same time though- you lost something that you created out of love. If you want a baby then tell your husband you changed your mind. Men are used to us changing our minds all the time. Just allow yourself enough time to heal emotionally from that loss