Need Advice! Induce or wait?

[4091515390722677982_573_5]

So I've been really stressed throughout this pregnancy but I've finally gotten to a better point and have been anxiously awaiting the arrival of my precious baby... then I find out my partner has been assigned to work out of town again (about an hour and 45 mins away). I'm 38 weeks today, ftm, and no family in-state. Most of my close friends and people I would trust live out-of-state also. Needless to say, being a ftm and having my partner out of town is freaking and stressing me out again. I'm terrified I'll be stuck home alone when I go into labor and/or that I'll have to go through delivery without my partner. I reeeeeeeally wanted to wait it out but now I'm wondering if I should induce. No offense to those who choice to induce, but personally, it was important that I let it happen naturally. At least, for my 1st. Now I don't know what to do! Just looking for advice and support...

[4091515390722677982_573_5]

Thanks everyone for advice from both sides. I decided to just wait it out and trust that everything will work out. My doctor also assured me that he'll likely have time to make it. I guess I just need a solid backup plan for how to get to the hospital in case he's still out of state when my labor starts. Thanks again!

[jjolfert]

Do you have a midwife? If you plan on birthing at home with a midwife I would say wait. But if you have no way of getting to the hospital or no one to help you during labor, then talk to his boss or your doctor.

[alid32]

I agree with Jalove. Induction is not safer than going into labor naturally. It actually increases the need for a c section due to the stress it puts on the baby. People have to do what works for them but I fully support waiting. I understand your fear, but I think you will have plenty of warning mama. Can he talk to his boss about working closer to home for these next few weeks? That would be what I would suggest first. Whatever you decide do what makes you comfortable and research inductions before making decisions. Also watch the documentary "The Business of Being Born". It's right on Youtube.

[wayfunmommy]

Does his boss know your are expecting soon?  More than likely, you'll be in labor for hours before you go to the hospital. When your contractions are 10-12 min apart, have him head your way. You'll go to the hospital about 5 min apart.

[jaloveslorelei]

Induction is not safe, that is why you need constant fetal monitoring after being induced. Those stronger and longer contractions is stronger and longer reduced/cutoff oxygen to baby. Mine was terrible and I will never do that to myself or my baby again, you couldn't pay me to! Labor is also supposed to be twice as long for your first, so that leaves plenty of time for your husband to get back. I really would research a lot more, and even better, go with your instincts.

[1540732290325471414_622_5]

Your baby will come when it's ready..

[Denise2346]

Now in days your doc won't induce you until your 39 weeks  but you can ask your doc  won't hurt my doc won't do it until I hit the 39 and that's the hospital rules as well  ill be 39 next week

[wyattsmom2015]

If you want to do it naturally that is great but you are risking doing it by yourself. Going by yourself is not bad I had to do my last by myself but it was my fifth and your first would be kinda scary.

If you choose to take the safer option induction then no reason to feel like you gave up or feel bad. I had to be induced three times due to the baby was getting to large. It is safe for you and baby because you are monitored the entire time at hospital. I know you said you had your heart set on doing it without forcing baby but sometimes you have to accept changes. Good luck hun and hope you are comfortable with whichever decision you finally decide on.