2nd child

[ace0112]

How has your first adjusted to having a sibling (s) and how did you adjust?  I love my first so much it's hard to think about not just having him and him having to share me. We're you ever afraid you might not love the 2nd one as much? I love my baby inside but not as much as my son. Does this change when he comes? Has any one had similar feelings?

[mommylece]

Like the other moms said you love them all equally just in different ways. I'll never forget the moment I first saw both my babies when they were born I cried cuz I never knew how much I could possibly love someone as soon as I saw them. It was the same exact feeling when I had my son and my daughter and I'm sure I'll have it with my 3rd bundle of joy! :)

[ace0112]

Thanks ladies so much this has help quite a bit my son is 2 and I'm due in 15 days with his brother so we will soon find out. I'm a stay at home mom so I'm constantly with my son and spend tons of time with him he is my everything and i hope the same for my second as well and I'm sure it will just worried mostly how my son will react

[Rog_B]

I'm having the same feelings, so is my husband. We have an almost 8 year old son. I appreciated reading all the comments. It helped me feel so much better!

[AminaM1]

I have similar feelings but my daughter is 11 & she's adjusted very well to the fact that a baby will be here very soon. Im worried about her sharing me but all I can do is love my kids with all my heart . That's my take on it just give them your all which isn't hard since you have one.  But it's definitely a new experience :)

[bama_mama]

I feel the same way. I know i will love my second child as much as i love my first but right now its very hard for me to comprehend loving anyone including another biological child as much as i love my son, i canf wrap my head around it lol.bc i love my first born more than life itself and im worried how i can have enough love in me to love two children this way lol its just something all us moms go through when we have more than one child. At first i was scared to talk about it and say anything bc i thought i was the only one but i finally mentioned it to my best friend one day who has two children and she reassured me all moms go through that stage and its normal and of course its hard to explain but when you have tour second child it all just falls into place and nothing beats the first moment your first born meets your second baby and loves on them abd kisses them and you see that love at that moment. Just thinking about it is making me emotional haha
Of course i still worry how my son will adjust to having to share mommy but thats one reason im glad im having a girl this time is bc i feel like my son wont have to feel jealous or compete with a girl like he would if i were having a boy and this way he feels protective of a baby sister and wont feel pushed aside.

[momma18529]

This is totally normal.  I'm currently pregnant with my 3rd, but when I was pregnant with my second, I couldn't image ever loving him as much as the first.  Like Casandramom said, its different,  I love them both exactly the same, but they are so different,  there are different qualities in each I adore.  Your heart is capable of so much more love than you know.  No one will ever be able to explain this to you, its a miracle you'll have to experience to understand.   My biggest advice to you to help your little boy adjust is to make this new baby "his" little brother or sister, not your new baby.  Make him feel some ownership to this child and he should be more accepting. You will do great, and everything will be fine:)  good luck momma!

[CaSandraMomOf4]

I had my second child 6 months before my daughter turned 4 and I was a single mom so my daughter and I were very clos, I had the same feelings ladies. Once my second daughter came I loved her I don't know how to explains the love that came. I loved them differently but just the same. Sounds weird but you will know what I mean once your second baby is there. I am now pregnant with baby number 4, and all 3 of my daughters are different I have a different love for all of them but but I love them all the same....I hope this helps. There is always room in your heart for the love of your children. Good luck ladies.

[Amy1830]

I worry about this all the time too. My son is 9 and I was a single mom with him until I met my fiancé when he was 6. So we have always been like 2 parts of one person and have a special bond. I'm afraid he's going to feel left out or jealous. And I'm afraid I won't feel the same way about the daughter that's coming. So far my son seems excited about having a sister but I don't know if that's going to change once she's here and he sees how much attention a newborn needs and gets.

[thenewmrs_b]

I've been worrying about the same. My daughter will be 3 next month and we're having our boy in august. I stay at home with my daughter and my husband travels a lot so its just me and her a lot and she is like my mini best friend... I live my little guy but I'm so scared for how she will react and I cannot imagine having room in my body to love someone as much as I love her. My sister and mom both have three and they both assured me that the love comes and there is always room for more love.How old is your first?

[YoungLadyDay14]

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