Sex after delivery

[ctberalmu]

hi ladies! I had my baby 20 days ago. I thought I couldn't have sex again until 40 days past delivery however a midwife (not my usual midwife) said that my husband and I could have sex as soon as the stitches had fallen off and I stopped bleeding. She confirmed the former and I stopped bleeding few days ago. So I just wanted to ask for your opinion, especially those of you who have already children
Thanks in advance for your advice!

[Wbc5]

I agree that it depends on your body. The longest I waited was 3 weeks with any of mine. With 2 of those, I had stitches. That also explains why 2 of my kiddos are only 11 months apart. Haha

[lousie_1986]

They recommend 6 weeks just so everything has been checked. If your stitches are all healed and you've stopped bleeding it should be ok (although I stopped bleeding for a few days at 3 weeks then started up again for another 2 weeks... A day or 2 of no blood may not necessarily mean you've completely stopped). Honestly it's really not dangerous if you've healed up. You know your body better than a textbook and if you feel ready to do it, go ahead! I can't imagine being ready by 3, but I tore both times, and I waited til 8 for first and 7 for second... And both times wished I'd waited another week! My sister did it at 3 and said it was fine but she was still very 'loose'.

[avasmommy19]

I waited 6 weeks. I also had stitches and even after waiting that long it was still painful and not that enjoyable for me. I would wait the 6 weeks like recommended but you know your body and feel likeits worth it then do it.

[Roxxxy915]

6wks.

[lurooney]

I have always waited at least the 6 weeks mainly coz i was always told by doctors that we are super fertile after having a baby within that time frame so even with contrception personally i was still afraid to risk it so i waited

[mogo813]

It prob all depends on how you feel but I am with these others lol I would wait til the 6 week check up... I am pregna t with my 4th and each time with the others even waiting the 6 weeks it was pretty painful... just be careful!

[NewMomma199]

I had sex after 4 weeks. However, I ended up having a c-section.

[Sass508]

I think it will be worth the wait. I know we're anxious to experience sex with our Old bodies back but there will be lots of time for that after your 6 wk check up.
After I had my son I tried too soon but had to stop because it was unexpectedly painful and bled a little after. My bf at the time was like.. um no. Let not lol

[cef1990]

I didn't wait the 6 weeks, I waited 3 weeks, I had stitches too. I think you know your body. If anything feels like it's not back to normal definitely wait and if you do try if anything hurts then stop.

[flowers75]

It's best to have your six weeks check up first to make sure everything is ok. Remember your body had just went through alot.

[Brittany0604]

I've always heard 6 weeks, just so your body has enough time to heal from the shock of child birth. :)