Tearing

[Kat_Marie00]

Labor and delivery is getting very close and I'm getting absolutely terrified of tearing. I get a small tear in the spot between the vagina and rectum just from having sex with my husband. Every single time. It seems like I would be the perfect person to have a third or forth degree tear from vaginal delivery. Doctors still want me to do vaginal birth though. What are all your thoughts? Even if I tear that badly, is it still better than doing a c section and why? I'm so scared

[sprmom87]

I was cut with my first and tore with my second because they weren't ready. Tucks Pads were my best friend for about 4-5 days after! You just fold them in half and place them between stitches and your pad. I would think it would be better to tear than a csec, less of an area affected and just a few stitches vs more with csec. Csecs also take longer to recover than vaginal.

[Kat_Marie00]

Yeah I've tried everything, even estrogen cream and vaginal dilators.

[brimorais]

have you tried the pelvic floor exercises?? They help strengthen those muscles.

[Tricia548]

I got a tear and it also had to be cut, but i didnt think it hurt as straight aftet had my baby in my arms and 4got everything around me. :) us women are designed to have babies and cope with what happens so leave it to fate, u will be fine. X

[Kat_Marie00]

Yep. I've gone to a specialist too

[1sttimemom7]

During sex have you tried using alot of lubricant??

[KaysensMommyx052514]

I had my son in Mag, I teared a little. It isn't that bad, the stitches dissolve on its own. It will sting a little when you pee, but warm water in a squeeze bottle helps. Don't be scared. Lol its all over in a second.

[Kat_Marie00]

I don't think I can do that, I can barely reach myself around my giant baby belly nor can I feel anything from the knuckles of my hands to my finger tips.. Really bad carpal tunnel from pregnancy. Maybe I could ask my husband to, poor guy lol.

[mamabear8911]

Good news is the dr will cut you down there before it tears. However, if your baby is too big,  they will do a csection. I heard vag better bc you heal.faster, especially if breastfeeding!csection major surgery and scar and painful.afterwards and you're on bed rest  

[hdavis16]

You can do perinal massages to help stop tearing..or at least do it to avoid it possible..look it up online it shows how to do it