Telling people not to visit you in the hospital

[rprible]

So, I'm 31 weeks and thinking about the time I'll be at the hospital. I think I'll love some visitors,  but I really do not want my cousin to bring her children who she does not control to the hospital around my new baby. What's a nice way to say that all other family children are allowed but because you refuse to control your children,  they are not welcome? (I'm not ridiculous,  she laughs when they do bad things to her or others and refuses to be a parent that yells at her kids - while the rest of the family has to deal with her children breaking things, sticking their hands in cakes before they're served, etc... and she just laughs). I've never addressed it before personally, but my husband is also 100% against them coming yet I'm sure she'll be the first one wanting to visit.

[tattoomama4]

Most hospitals do not allow ypung children to visit (unless they are yours and even then depends on the hospital) just tell everyone that you would like only immediate family to visit, and everyone else wair until you are home. Or when ypuce delivered inform your nurses etc that you do not want children, make them look like the bad guy :) best of luck

[giraffe1020]

Honestly, people visiting with children when you are recovering is very stressful! You can also ask the hospital if they are restricting visitors. With cold and flu season, my hospital doesn't allow visitors under the age of 12 right now. You will also have soreness and need to rest while you are there. If they want to visit when you are home, ask that they not come until you feel healed, as that's super stressful. Its not about children behavior really, too much going on can wear you down. This HAS to be about YOU and no one else. Hard to ignore social niceties but I cried each time I had visitors, it was overwhelming. I would do it differently and say no visitors for a week if i could go back. People are well intentioned but it was hard. Ask them to be considerate of you needing rest to recover. Your husband can also be your advocate.

[OctNewMom2014]

Maybe just tell her you'd rather wait to visit once you're home from the hospital.

[3rdxmomma]

I don't think it's wrong to tell her and there really is no nice way to say it. It just is what it is. However, before you say anything check your hospitals visitor policies. An above poster is correct in stating that many  hospitals do not want and/or allow children visiting that are not siblings around the newborns. If that's the case you don't have to tell her she has rotten kids! Lol Good luck!

[Mama6hijos]

I am certainly the type of mother to be completely honest :/ I would explain to her that she's my cousin, I love her but that her parenting skills aren't exactly what I had in mind for raising my own child. I would kindly ask, she not visit at the hospital. I guess if your not like myself and maybe would feel bad about being so open, then just explain it's the worst season we have had in a few years and you are asking that no one bring their children to the hospital to visit and that you will advise every one once you feel that it is safe to come around your newborn. And actually the hospital where I deliver, only siblings are allowed to visit, all other children are prohibited and not even allowed on the elevator to recovery, labor and delivery or patients rooms. The child has to have a certain sticker or bracelets that can only be given to them by the mother. After getting permission from the nurses. Crazy huh!?

[BabyGABsMom]

Tell her that because your due date is around flu season you have to limit the amount of visitors to baby for the first few months to protect your baby and you dont want your baby to have children visitors until hes older. This sounds a little crazy but I plan on having visitors wear gowns, gloves, and masks. After washing their hands if they want to hold my son.

[cupcakelovinmommy]

I plan on just asking anyone who wants to visit not to bring children with them. Most hospitals anymore don't want kids around the baby unless its brother or sister.