Terrified of pregnancy!

[bigworrier25]

This 20 year old apparently died 7 months pregnant in 2012.she went to hospital for a headache then was given narcotics and hour later vitals went down..died and baby survived

Anyone thats a dr out there can explain why this happened? because its scaring me from becoming pregnant..apparently this girl was healthy and fit before she was pregnant..had healthy pregnancy up until 7 months

ps. There were two other girls that died of stroke too...if there is a stroke will bloodpressure always be high? or would a blood clot beable to be detected?

[Alkali13]

Yes, I stand by my previous statement that you really need to see a psychologist.  I'm not sure if it's generalized anxiety or phobias that are generalizing, but it is beyond the scope of normal worry and seems to be debilitating.

[megmegcleve]

I remember your other post about strokes. You need to speak to a therapist about these fears you have. They aren't normal or typical cause you are basing them off of something tht happened to someone else some place else that has nothing to do with you. There are all sorts of scary things that can happen while you're pregnant and no one can for see the future and tell you if it's gonna happen or not. There is also a doctor forum on this app if you go into the communities section, you can ask a doctor a question there. I think you need to speak to a professional cause these fears you are having are a bit unrealistic. Just because it's happened to someone else doesn't mean it will happen to you.

[malliamomma25]

Furthermore I'm pretty sure you posted something like this before and a few other people mentioned talking to a psychologist/therapist.

[malliamomma25]

Why dont you talk to a therapist about these fears they can really help you sort out what exactly is causing this fear. This is not  "normal" to have such high fears about something you haven't experienced yet. I used to have a fear about having any kind of needle near me and spoke with a therapist about these fears and it teally helped. Maybe something else is triggering this fear and you are just using potential medical problems to not have to deal with having a baby. Have an obgyn/primary care run tests for things you are specifically concerned about. But IMO you should really seek out a professional to talk to.

[bigworrier25]

he knows my fears and thinks im overreacting....but to me this is real.
i was thinking if i was allowed to get a surrogate mother ..i would..but now im afraid of getting my eggs taken for that because i would need to be put asleep..i thought it was easier then that..,so now i just don't want to do anything.

Be soo much easier if my fiance was just happy just the two of us because sadly no matter how much i want a baby myself..this fear is consuming me and i would perfer not too

[bigworrier25]

Im not pregnant yet...want to be in 2 to 3 years and im terrified of having brain AVM because of a weak vessel in brain or blood clot traveling to my brain.

I have ringing in my ears/whoosing for years but getting worse so im afraid that that is the clogged vessel around my ear leading to the brain..because i heard thats a sign.

i don't know if i will ever get over this fear..and i don't know what to do. i don't know if i should marry my fiance if i can't get over this fear because i know how important it is to him to have a baby together :(

[triple_a_mama]

Don't let all the horror stories scare and worry you.

[triple_a_mama]

Sometimes too much research is unhealthy. Keep in mind that every body and every pregnancy is different. Those girls could've just had a reaction to the medicine. Don't let all the horror stories. Watch something happier like a baby story or something. Relax mama bear!!!

[bigworrier25]

im going to be soo paranoied, my mom and sister had pretty healthy pregnancies. But at age 45 my mother had a mini stroke and my dad had a massive heart attack six years ago and now today he is back in hospital they think he had small heart attack:( will this increase my chance?

im a preemie too, was born at 24 1/2 weeks so i worry i have a secret AVM and pregnancy will cause it to burst!!!!!!