Torn!

[Mother_of_3_]

So I've said in other post my daughters father is pretty much MIA. Claimes I've tried to trap him and our daughter isnt his.. It hurt like hell but anywho I still had a good relationship with his mom and she came to most of my appts. Lately it seem like she tryin to play both sides with me and his now gf and for sum strange reason think I wld even want to b in the same room as her. That's not my cup of tea! Based on conversations I feel like she been talkin abt me to her n letting her know info about my baby which is def non of her business. (Baby name, last name, who that sono pic favor etc) its becoming too much for me. For every woman D-day is a special day.. Shld I let her in my hospital room or tell them I don't want any visitors? Cause at this point, I feel like she wanna come not as a grandma but as a reporter and I don't want her snappin pics of my daughter to show her son or his gf. If her son wants to see his daughter he can be man enough to come himself and take a DNA test. I have absolutely nothing to hide. What would you ladies do?

[mindy_momma]

If this woman is someone you think will love your daughter and be a good grandma, then don't take away this moment that may help her bond as a grandma. If you're confident she won't be a source of love or consistency to your daughter, then by all means leave her out. That is only my 2 cents though. You'll know what you should do.

[LindseeB]

I honestly think it's a privilege to let your child have his name and unfortunately it's a privilege he isn't entitled to. As for the MIL I wouldn't let her in but if you do maybe let her know you are sharing a special experience with her and she is tainting it by playing both sides of the fence.

[alisonk170]

I totally agree with shanaenae1989

[shanaenae1989]

I personally think a smile and standing strong and showing your strenght says a lot more than playing into dumb takeaway games.

[shanaenae1989]

I disagree completely. I hate his whole family but I'm two weeks away and his mother will be in the room. Be the bigger person and realize it's about your child and being the better person. Who gives a flying f if the mother "reports" back to her son and his gf, unfortunately that is the father of your child and you are going to be involved in each others lives in whatever faction. Let your concern be on you and your child forget the deadbeat and the skank do what's right.

[Dessi88]

Girl if it was me I would not let her be there as all the other women said...yu can bet your bottom dollar she will do exactly what your gut is telling yu she will do. And that's not fair to yu or yur baby girl. He's not a man if he has to send his mom to play detective, investigator,reporter or whatever other role. And I would look at his mother as less of a woman for not only condoning his actions but participating in the foolery. Either stay out of it completely or let him know he is dead wrong for what he is doing. But if yu going to be there for yur grandchild than be there for HER...and if he wants to inquire about HIS baby then he needs to go straight to the source and not wait for a report...this is his child,his flesh and blood and the nerve of him to deny her....good luck and I hope yu follow yur gut. Do what's best for yu and bump the messy stuff they have going on.

[Mother_of_3_]

Thanks everyone! I jus have a lot going on.. He's denying her saying he havent even seen me since Jan but I have all kinda text and calls showing different. I don't even know if I shld give her his last name anymore smh. I was never his one night stand we were together for 2 years so him to even act this way is crazy!

[loveYou4Ever11]

Ill be damned if my mil took pics and came to my apts just to be a reporter. Not only will i not allow her in the delivery room I'll exclude her from everything this point on. Its nobodys buisness let alone the girlfriends!

[Pattyann215]

I absolutely agree I wouldn't let her in so she can run back to them and show your baby's pics off. If he wants anything to do with her let him grow up and be a man and see her.

[yer_mom]

I wouldn't let them know when your going through labor. That's just me.

[rosie_84]

I agree. Go by urself. Let him be a man and show up himself. Without his gf

[nkoch65]

I wouldnt let her in the delivery room but that's just me. if he wanted to know all those things he needs to be man enough to ask himself.