husband does not want sex. anyone with same problem?

[azulita35]

Ok i am 34 weeks my husband does not want to have sex. It has been like a month since the last time.
i told him days ago i do not even remember how sex is. I feel lonelly and i want to feel me loved he seems scared to hurt the baby.

[vickiallemand]

When u get further along you have to cateful so you dnt go into labor after having sex. Everyone women different thou but you ARE swelling down there and sometimes it just happens..

[katt_24]

I wish I could find a guy who was afraid of hurting the baby i can't stand sex an that's all my be wants constantly I hate it

[ashley3232]

My husband is completely opposite!!  He wants it all the time! I have morning sickness all day every day so i am no were near in the mood...but he keeps trying!!!  

[MommyLyric]

Hahaha I'm 36wks. my fiance said we're stopping at 37wks. fine with me bc I'm tired of acting like i wanna have sex. my libido has hit rock bottom and I'm too stressed out and tired. Yeah, the discharges are weird now too. last time i was on top, i was sooooooo miserable...damn sciatic nerve!

[dmariejj]

My baby daddy said I'm 2 big to be un top of him nd he can't carry me lol. He's 2 scared to squish the baby that way he doesn't go on top.  ND the last one was even when I get clean with water and soap a every time I go to the use the bathroom I always have 2 much discharge lol nd he doesn't want to make me get a east infection like few months ago he blames he's self 4 that

[Firstxmom]

Glad this was posted. I'm only 26 weeks and my man has totally stepped back from the sex. I litterally cried after a while  because I felt unwanted but I was puking every single time. And now I hurt moving around. He brought the fact up that he blames himself that I get sick and hes actually more affectionate and does things more often like wake up before me too cook me breakfast, buys me flowers, makes my lunch w "I love you" notes. I don't have a single feeling that he's messing around on me. Buuuuut, I would love for him to make love to me a whole lot more.

[TigerLily1230]

Maybe I watch too much Lifetime. Lmao! I don't have this problem with my husband its quite opposite.

[TigerLily1230]

Sorry that is all I can come up with for a reason. Didn't mean to offend anyone.

[azulita35]

I never thought of him getting it somewhere else we has been merried for 19 years. I wish i could have at least some kising and hugging but it is like i do not exist in bed. It is so frustraiting

[Dandi_2014]

I believe men can have concerns as much as us ladies have..

He might be concerned about the baby's health.
He might not feel very sexually charged, there is a lot on a man's mind when he is becoming a father.

Can I provide?
Will I be a good father?
Do we have the right things?
Is the baby okay?
What if something terrible happens?
How do I bring up this concern without freaking my partner out?

Any of these can be enough to put you off from wanting sex.

You can still cuddle and if you want to sexually pleasure yourself there is always masturbation.

Try not to worry about it :)

[pregoRita]

Me and my hubby havent done it in awhile either And im positive its not because hes not attracted to or is he getting it else where... our reason is im just to big and its uncomfortable for both of us but we do other sexual thangs besides actual sex

[MakaSese]

There is no such thing Tigerlily. Not all men are like that.

[Novembermommy1104]

I agree. I think its honestly a genuine fear some men have, or like I said about my husband, its hard for him to focus on Thr task at hand when there's a constant reminder of his daughter . Which I appreciate actually. I think when it doesn't effect a man at all-thats weird. Especially if its their first. Shows a level of maturity and respect I think. My husband and I have obviously had less sex then we ever had in our 10 years together, but we've never been closer or more intimate, in a non sexual way.

[no2comingsoon]

That is so wrong tigerlily.
Why say ssomething like that

[wiction]

Tigerlily that is such a load of bull. Not all men are like that.

[TigerLily1230]

Hurting the baby is such a cop out. There either not attracted to you while pregnant or there getting it somewhere else.

[Novembermommy1104]

My husband doesn't fear hurting The baby, he just says it a little bit weird to be reved up and then thinking of his daughter.. and when we do have sex its not as dirty or rough as I'd like, he says its weird because I'm carrying his daughter, like he respects more or something lol... he says no, but he thinks its not appropriate to pull my hair because I'm pregnant. Men are weird.. I'm 36 weeks on Tuesday :)

[Greeneyez7000]

Its a guy thing nothing to do with you. My bf said sometimes its hard for him to stay focused cuz hes scared of hurting the baby. Just try to reassure him that he cants hurt the baby cuz its in a protective bubble so to speak.

[Elena2220]

OMG my husband is the same. I even said today please don't wander off to someone else.  He says are you crazy I would never do that, but I still get worried. He said since I am getting close he does not want to hurt our baby I will be 31 weeks in a couple of days